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Your tips are practical and encouraging, making the challenges of single parenting feel more manageable. Thank you!♥

Perfectionism, fear, are the root of this we dont give space and time to our kids to fck up their live, to learn a lesson

Please don't assume that 'Everyone Knows' what the meaning of Helicopter Parenting is; as a retired EMS first responder, I had learned this decades ago, after some overbearing parents would 'hover about', while we would be discussing our care plan, with other medical practitioners. It would be helpful to explain the rationale of the term: Helicopter Parenting, as some might not associate it with 'hovering', which is the key word that is never mentioned. Thank you for your consideration(s).

Thank you so much for your insight. God bless you for the content you are sharing that is helping to change lives

Do you have any videos for single parents. I struggle because there's nobody to reinforce anything I'm saying.

I'm a single mom of a 2 year old. How do you know if your helicopter mom when you literally have to help your kid with almost everything

Jack's parents were NOT kind. They were lazy and selfish. It's easy to not place limits on kids. It's easier to just fix their mistake, than to make the kid fix it themselves. Jack's parents were the poster children for the phrase, "cruel to be kind." If your kids act entitled, look no farther than the mirror.

Thank you for theses gems of wisdom Brother Todd

You have said what I've been thinking for years, adults are vicariously living their children's lives. Everything their children say and do is a reflection on them. Small children are not given the opportunity to discover anything, everything must be educational there is no room for play or imagination. Middle school aged children are held hostage by clubs and after school activities. Dance classes, riding school, sports, piano lessons, beauty pageants, there is no down time. In these families no one eats dinner together, no breakfast time. After all these extracurricular activities are out of the way students need to do their homework. The kids are exhausted so the parents do their homework assignments and the kids retreat to their rooms and surf Tic-toc until midnight. The parents don't have any down time either so by the time the kids are grown the parents have nothing in common and they get a divorce. The kids are for the most part uneducated and get terrible grades in college and spend all their time partying, they flunk out of college and end up living at home and work waiting tables at the Olive Garden.

So what do you do with a kid who has genetic anxiety and wants you to be a helicopter parent? I have to literally force my 4 year old to do things and tell people things. We put her in horseback riding to get her to be confident in herself and do things for herself. Now the onlly time she does in when she's with the horses.

I was raised by the Bible. I'm a baby boomer. Without God. Your life is way different. Not good. So what's the problem? His mother surly loves him, but blinded from the truth. Bible will help him

This is great advice! I think it can apply to dating and marriages as well.

LET THE KIDS BE FUCKN KIDS!! People are FUCKN insane

We do come with a manuel, it's called the Bible, it has nothing to do with religion, it shows how to have a relationship with God, parents, children. I hope this helps 🙏 😊

I was a single dad, I went through divorce when my kids were 9 and 11, I tried to let them figure out things for themselves and learn how to problem solve their own situations, this wasn’t easy to do, I felt if I could just be there in case they got in deep, I could help them. It was so difficult to work and try to do everything else, my daughter made it through and is now a PSYD and works with Autistic adults and trans folks, my son committed suicide in 2014. Even though we were best friends and did everything together, he couldn’t get out of the depression, he wouldn’t get help, and he never asked for help. I guess my point t here is to be careful, if your child seems depressed, you should seek out help no matter what, even if they don’t want it, try everything you can, believe me, you don’t want to be like me, my daughters life, and mine, will never ever be what it once was. 🙏🏽

My child is mildly on the autism spectrum. Should parenting look different for these children vs the neurotypical children? I have struggled with trying to help him cope with negative feelings, but I want him to be able to handle the real world as he becomes an adult.

A lot of narcissists parent this way so the child can be their trophy

YOU ARE 30 years TOO LATE posting this!! THis started to be a REAL problem with entitled somen having kids in the very very early 90s. I remember it well. Women in America do NOT know who to rear children. Now we have a nation full of 30 somethings who are SPOILD BRATS, disrespectful, and entitled, and MEAN!!!!!!!!! Your video is OLD AND TIRED - we knew this was a problem in 1990!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Thank you for doing this video on teens. So many videos are about young children. This is helpful.

How does an adult child of such a parent heal from this manner of harm?

Wow. This is good. I’m an adult that went through this but my dad was also on the spectrum for nPD. So you add coercive control and it’s a nightmare. I had to sign several contracts made by my parents including not dating people of color, I could eat at night, I could not disagree with them. Can you believe that!! How racist is that!? It’s shocking. I’m still dealing with the trauma and I’m watching them do it to another child and it’s killing me!!!

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This is a good video and I appreciate it Dr. Todd. I do think it could be better if you gave us some examples of what you mean by staying connected with our teen. i'd love to know some of the strategies you share with parents. Thank you

Great video. Thank you. One of my clients found this and shared it with me, and I'm going to pass it on to several others. Your video is not only insightful but very beautifully filmed and presented. There are a lot of people here on YT who are going to love this when they find it. I can see that your channel is small right now, I hope you'll keep going! These are great videos that I think will start to snowball as the right people find them.

Wow that was so amazing. Great relationship/connection directions!

Firm and flexible 💝. Thank you

I grew up on a ranch in Colorado. In the winter we would take people on sleigh rides in the mountains on our ranch. When I was 9 I would take people for a sleigh rides sometimes as long as 15 miles. I was only 9 but I was very experienced with horses at that age. Despite that my family got several complaints from customers that they thought I was too young to be doing that. I think society has normalized wrapping kids in bubble wrap instead of letting them grow up. 100 years ago kids did all sorts of things that would get a call from CPS today.

new subscriber! You give very good and useful advise. Keep up the good work!

This is very relaxing

Thanks for great info!

How about the best of both worlds. An assertive position you're the parent and willing to lead and let learn. There is still a level of my way or the highway for the impoten thing and sometimes give a little direction but also allow the child to make mistakes and to do there own thing because ultimately that is where they will learn and get the most out of life and still the use of that direction and encouragement will help them have an example to follow when it's there turn to lead.

I told my children, "I won't yell at you. That's your mother's job. I will tell you my expectations and if you do not follow my instructions, I'll tell you again. My voice will get lower every time I have to tell you. When you can barely hear me, the belt comes next and I'll beat you till you bleed." I had perfect children because they believed me.

Also, mirror what you want. I see a lot of entitled parents demanding things that they do not mirror for their kids or give them- want your kids to stop yelling, ok are you yelling?

I was a teenage Mum, raised two kids on my own without their Dad or a support system. They’re now 22 and 20. They’ve never raised their voice to me, never called me out of my name. I watched other parents, older than me and well off, scream and yell at their kids- I never did. I cared about their feelings, they cared about mine and we have a wonderful relationship to this day. Coming from an abusive home as I did, it’s really amazing ❤️

My dad would beat me black and blue.

I love the story about your Dad, inspiring!

I’ll use these strategies with my students. Thanks!

Its nice seeing some legitimate advice for parents on here. Keep up the good work, man!

Thank you Dear, you just confirmed to me how to help my brother who fell 2 months ago and is not able to sit, walk or stand and is in another state than me.

I have a very clear memory from my childhood where my father came home from work and offered to go take me to the park to throw the baseball with me. We didn't get to do this very often because of his work schedule, so this was special. As we threw the ball he asked me how school was going (the truth was not well at all, which he already knew). Instead of a scolding or talk that made me feel stupid, we had a conversation as we threw the ball about the importance of grades and how he knew I had potential to do so much better. I think of that interaction frequently as a "great moment in parenting" as I try to be a good parent myself. Love your videos and the advice you offer.

My favorite part was talking about Bobby. That was brilliant! Thank you for the info😊

Identifying love languages for my spouse and I was revolutionary for our marriage! Thanks for the great video😊

Great stuff Dr. Todd! (好久不見)

Outstanding in every way…content, presentation, and listening ease. I feel like I just added a new tool to my parenting and teaching tool belts. Thank you so much!!