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I dont understand churches that seperate people based on their life circumstances (married, elderly, single). It just divides people into echo Chambers and people at the peripheries of those groups (single adults, single parents, widows, divorcees etc) get left out. Churches should focus more on universal truths and lessons, rather than doing 10 week sermons on family and marriage etc.

Woah woah woah hold up. A single female in her 30's is not a Christian. Statistics wise a female in her 30s is married and the unmarried one is sleeping around and since that by very definition is a woman sleeping around not Christian. The real thing going on here is the feminist agenda git to the females. They have been liberated to go chase high level degrees and these women have become men, they are alphas. They have been told they can have it all. And what that means is be tough and work like a man. A man does not want to marry a woman who is pretending to be a man. And those hard working women make more money than the men their age so she does not honor that man and that man is intimidated by that woman. Well done liberals. Well done devil. Well done feminists: your experiment worked! And yes, IVF= murder. A side note. But this is the scenario where it needs to be stated. Ivf: the new socially acceptable form of child sacrifice.

I’m not even gonna watch the video and I will answer myself because you’re not letting people actually answer as to why they are leaving the church. It’s because so many churches are toxic as hell why would we want to be there? If you really pay attention and discernment what God is telling you about people and situations, you learn pretty quick that they’re all very extremely horribly toxic.. the way you treated, and then they lean on the whole argument of “ nobody is perfect no churches perfect” just excused, deplorable treatment and behavior. No, I’m done and so are so many other people. It’s just like a popularity contest like something you would see in high school but on steroids. And it’s just excuse and if anything somehow you’re the bad guy.😂 clown world

As a pastor, do have a j o b outside in the Real world? Get to work, an office n what ya dion is not the real world! You are the problem not the answer!

Single men ate leaving just as women are: we dont want a 501(c)3 whorehouse! Most pastors are full of it!

The 501(c)3 whorehouse government approved so called church has not anything to offer anymore. Fo me a favor talk bout the real problem: none of the whorehouse,but wait, get put of the denomination!

The MDC they is full of: Single Men are done with the horse manure of being thrown away. The idea that you can put a Single man real Man, with a stupid winch is the same as red devil drain cleaner. I will take your Life over! I will do as I wish: the average so - Christian man is a wussy There are no more Real.Men, They are gone! Just as the stupid women out here I'm a bacterial cess pool, n no one is going to like ya Very few of the MDC HAVE A BRAIN? Does this translate to anyone's brain? Single Men down the hall to the left: Leper colony! This is where we are. The reason singles are removing themselves from this garage is we are not wanted? No, you are a plague! You are a plague! How come, blah blah blah blah! You have no answers, get married have a family n get screwed in a divorce! Modern women are no different in the whorehouse than the world!

They don't match make for Asian men.

Franklin Graham.

Maybe because Satan in Job roams the Earth they think traveling is either a sin or a punishment from God.

I don't fit in with the family model. I'm divorced and never had kids. All churches say that everyone is welcome but really, there are strings attached and its not completely true. It got depressing and empty.

One option for Christians that was overlooked was applying as an out-of-faith student for the Catholic school system. While not the best option as far as sending to a Christian school the basic morals that we want instilled in our children are upheld there. Plus it is a free option when Christian school is not financially viable for all parents. I personally chose this option over public school because their faith and morals was much more aligned with what we wanted instilled into our kids.

I feel like second class not only in church but in the world

I find also, for some reason as a single woman, you are accused of doing a lot of things that you’re not doing at all you’re accused of far more than anyone else. It’s the most bizarre thing and the more you try to explain or defend yourself the worst.

Thank you so much for sharing this! I was widowed when 39 years old, I was overwhelmed by how it feels to be "single" in church. It's somewhat uncomfortable and I feel like a prey to the older single men that are in church. And I knew from a friend that has been single a long time how hard it is to be single in church, but then it happened to me as well when my husband died. Where do I fit? I am bow a single mom as well. I cannot attend smallgroups without having a babysitter. So many different groups that fall outside of the cultural frames.

The Church doesn’t have love, therefore is nothing.

Why is church adamant on people getting married whilst Jesus actually said celibacy was a better option

16:00 dead on 👌🏻I often feel challenged by my fellow Christians that I'm not trying hard enough at not being single, because I would like to be in a relationship but it just hasn't happend yet.

Singles groups should be just that- for singles. I am single and quite happy being, staying single. Marriage may be a consideration but, not a primary goal.

Churches to single women: "Oh Precious, Gorgeous" Churches to single men: "You F*cking Donkey!"

I go to a mega church in Minnesota. We sound Canadian by the way. Not once have i been approached to be set up. Even when I went to a smaller church, it never happened there either. At least people found you to be valuable in the dating world. As of now, the mega church allows me to blend in and be left alone...

I love being single

Church sucks

Churches need to be proactive in helping single Christians find marriage partners. If they don’t, they have NO RIGHT to tisk tisk or look upon singles narrowly as they venture outside the church for a marriage partner. I am so utterly disappointed and disgusted with today’s churches and their utter laziness and abject willing ignorance on this issue.

Many churches have turned into a social club and if you're single or poor or both they see you as less than when Jesus Christ died for Every Nation and came to the world not for the self-righteous but for the sinners who are in need of repentance despite of their marital or financial status. After his resurrection he told the disciples to preach to All Nations because he wants for people regardless of who they are to be saved! He transforms people's lives and there are even people who were angry with God and did not believed that even got saved that are a testimony of what God can do to even unbelievers who turned to him and believe his gospel and turn away from their sins! Paul was single, a blasphemer and persecuted Christians but yet God used him as an apostle to preach to the Gentiles! I know that churches are not perfect but that sounds a bit dismissive when you say that because you are basically saying that as a way to dismiss people's feelings and to tell them that they should just tolerate anything that a church does to them. There are many of us believers who are tired a feeling alone and constantly being an outcast then we do outside of church. We are tired of being pressured to sign memberships and people looking down on us because we are single for whatever reason! We recognize that we need Fellowship and that's why we kept trying but why should we stay in the church that makes us feel alone, abuses their Authority and preach a watered-down prosperity gospel? I do fellowship with people online and I don't feel alone and I don't feel like my mental health is being picked at if anything I feel myself wanting to do better and be stronger in God's word! People were pressuring me so much to go to church that I ended up being in a cult but then realize it until they told me they would be praying for my salvation because I was only going to take a break from their Church but I decided then to take a permanent break. One day I hope to find a church that preaches sound Doctrine where everybody includes everyone regardless on their marital status, financial status and nationality!

I am picky because I do not want to be divorced and I want to get to know that person to see if they are the right ones. I thought if I stopped dating just anyone and started going to just Christian men then I would find somebody but in many ways it is the same but in many ways it is Different. I was friendzoned by a guy at church and he made me believe that he liked me and wanted to pursue me but then a couple weeks later he made comments that pretty much told me that I was being friendzoned and there was no way I was going to continue to waste my time with someone that doesn't reciprocate my feelings and on top of that always using the excuse of being busy and never keeping his word. He is allowed to feel the way he does about me even if they are not the same but he is not going to keep me in this Loop and I chose to move on. I am 30 years old and I still have never been married. I don't know whether or not if I'm meant to be married because God does not always give us what we want but whatever he wants for our lives it is for the greater good but at the same time it is depressing being single and no one from the church or even on the dating apps want to get to know you and are very flaky or hide under the Christian title saying that they are Christians but then sending pictures and trying to get me to go bed with them. I stopped going to church because it was messing with my mental health and I found that meeting up with other brothers and sisters in Christ on Zoom was a lot better for me and doing Bible studies together which strengthened my faith in God whereas the physical churches I went to made me feel alone and would basically leave me as an outcast. I hope one day I can find a church that doesn't make me feel like an outcast and triggers my anxiety and depression that makes me question what am I doing in this church? There are a lot of things I need to work on. A church it's not just a building but it is a group of Believers that come together rather online or in person. The most important thing is that we need to have a relationship with God pray and be in our word daily! I did try to settle for men that I did not like and it ended up traumatizing me and I didn't even want to kiss that person. I would never do that again and I don't recommend anyone doing that.

Single, 38, but I wanna go to (Catholic) church because of Jesus (the Eucharist). Finding a partner there (and I had a date at my church but it didn't work with us) would be the cream on top.

One reason that there are no single leads in Christian culture is that the very same Christian culture uses marriage as a way to validate leaders. They would rather have a married individual in leadership than a single person that has more time to dedicate to the task for fear that they would be sexually compromised. Even after the past 5 years of scandals in Church leadership with married men, that very same belief is held as a reason to disqualify singles from front roles in church. You would think that a man committed to singleness would be seen as a validation unto itself but it is also my belief that people look at singles through the lens of their own perception and experience as a single. "I was hungry for sexual attention so this single must also be that way." No one will outright say that though because that will compromise their own reputation.

I think not becoming physically involved (kissing, sex, ect)with every person you date is actually good advice. I think it helps younger people especially not confuse compatiblity with physical attraction. I think where Josh went wrong is confusing honoring God with boundaries with marital bliss, which is a bit of an over simplification.

really good talk!

Walking into a church as a single is like walking into a family reunion as a stepchild. People will smile and speak but you know it's all for show and that you'll never truly be part of the "family".

Church does not work for anyone who doesn’t fit the narrative of “the nuclear family”. Everything is geared towards that narrative at the loss of everyone else.....myself being one

Jesus Christ wasn't really pushing marriage. Matthew 19:10-12

most single men left the church a while ago, so who else is left who would be leaving? single women. the marrieds aren't going anywhere. I will also add folks who tend to marry early, ie, 20s do not seem to understand that 'IT' doesn't always happen for others in their 20's too...it may be 40's and 50's before IT happens. And thats ok

This is so good! Thanks guys

Thank you for your words

When your single in a church it seem you have to prove your self to the rest of the crowd that your not a threat to them because your single and your motives are honorable and then maybe if your lucky you might be accepted

Only half way through and I feel so seen. 29 and single, you do get completely left behind and left out of everything.

"We've cried over this"...oh boy. I'm sick of women using their tears to get the reaction they want.

Celibacy is a "gift". But, let's be honest, undesired singleness is an affliction. If one deeply desires to be married, they don't have the gift of celibacy as the Apostle Paul did. They have an undesired continual "affliction" like Paul had. While I might wish there were a different answer than the one God gave Paul in that circumstance, I'm inclined to believe it's the same. It would be a good thing however, if the Church would find it within itself to stop rubbing salt in the wounds of those so afflicted. They don't realize that most Christian singles grieve the loss of something they never had, sometimes on a daily basis. The grief is most pronounced on Sundays and during the holiday season. For those who can't see the problem, imagine taking a really nice dish to a church potluck dinner and when the blessing has been said and it's time to eat, a leader comes over to you and tells you to go sit at a table apart from everyone else and that you aren't allowed to eat any of the food, you can only sit and watch everyone else eat all the delicious food while they are seemingly unaware that you are even present in the room, how would you feel? That is the best illustration/analogy I can draw to describe how many, if not, most Christians who are involuntarily single feel when they attend church. They aren't bitter towards or blame the church. They just have to acknowledge that is the reality of their situation, while "wondering why" offers no solace.

Pastor Doug Wilson (as well as others) say that celibacy is a gift and that singleness is an affliction. The Church (more often than not) conflate the two, much to the detriment of single Christians. It was such a relief to finally hear a Christian leader honestly and compassionately address the injustice the church has perpetrated on singles (perhaps unknowingly) since as long as any of us can remember. I think a lot of single Christians eventually stop going to church not because they no longer enjoy worshiping God, but, because they've grown weary of the unintended subtle and incessant ostracization. After all, the church is the last place one wants to go to feel "alone in a crowd". One can't really blame the church because they really don't realize there's a problem. I don't know if it's allowed, but, here is a link to one of Pastor Wilson's short videos on the subject.... ua-cam.com/video/8uV-aSbX_lg/v-deo.html

What a great podcast. Thanks for making this. I don't personally believe in love, so this doesn't really apply to me. However, I still love to hear from people. I've gotten hurt at too many churches now that I'm done, I won't be going back to another church. But I still love to hear different people's perspectives on why or why not they're going to church. It's very interesting to see and hear real individuals talk about their experiences.

Such a precious woman.

But I do want to get married. Why is having people set you up a problem. I want people to set me up.

The church today is dead.

Yep nothing really for A single older christian Never married no kids 50+ most are married or been married the singles group most churches are from teens to late 20s after this sort of left no place<even though yes same faith in Christ> Its different life struggles so makes it hard to relate

Chris your podcast name should be Inquiring with Chris Quiring. Obvious marketing win.

To the men. If you want to be married. Get a carrer. Read your bible. Read books. Get your money together. Grow up. Don't except your spouse to be your mother. Men are not taught. Before any woman can be your "help meet." Let God be your help meet first. Too many women, are living adult lives outside of men. If you want to be needed ao bad. Learn how to fix things around the house. My whole life should never be surrounded by you. Thinking about you. Wondering for your needs. Thats is the very definition of idolatry. Men don't want to say what they think or want, because they are big baby boos.

Its okay that the church stresses marriage BUT really needs to figure this out in the West. Cause the way it is now a whole in flux of singles will hit the church soon once church growth starts happening and it's coming.

15 small groups at my church. 2 for grief share. 12 for couples. 1 for singles (with half the group married or living together). I fit in more in a foreign country than I did at my home church.