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Just Say Maybe
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If you've ever struggled with your mental health, you'd probably agree with the fact that much of anxiety stems from doubt. Whether it's worrying about what others think of you, or worrying about what your thoughts mean about you, finding certainty is never guaranteed.
This is the Just Say Maybe channel, where I talk about OCD, anxiety, depression, and all things mental health. Sometimes, it's better to accept uncertainty and...just say maybe.
Trigger Warning: This channel contains mature themes and potentially triggering topics. Please seek professional help if you are in need of mental health assistance.
This is the Just Say Maybe channel, where I talk about OCD, anxiety, depression, and all things mental health. Sometimes, it's better to accept uncertainty and...just say maybe.
Trigger Warning: This channel contains mature themes and potentially triggering topics. Please seek professional help if you are in need of mental health assistance.
Mystina: Showing yourself kindness while navigating SO/ROCD
Hello everyone, welcome back to another episode of the Just Say Maybe Podcast!
Today, I’m talking to Mystina Sol, a musician, songstress, and someone who has gone through and overcome what we call "Pure O," or, obsessions with internal compulsions. In this episode, we talk about Mystina's experiences with Sexual Orientation OCD, Relationship OCD, ADHD, and finally showing herself compassion.
Follow Mystina and her music here: mystinasol
Follow the Just Say Maybe Podcast IG here: justsaymaybepodcast
Disclaimer: This podcast is not a replacement for therapy. Please seek professional help from a licensed clinician or therapist.
Timestamps:
0:00-1:20 Explaining my absence
1:20-6:45 Intro, navigating life with ADHD
6:45-14:00 First bout of SO-OCD, negative self-talk, feeling numb
14:00-26:50 Relationships, ROCD, boundary setting
26:41-30:18 Putting people onto pedestals, feeling emotions again
30:19-40:22 Therapy experiences, building self-trust and compassion
40:23 How will you show yourself kindness this week?
Today, I’m talking to Mystina Sol, a musician, songstress, and someone who has gone through and overcome what we call "Pure O," or, obsessions with internal compulsions. In this episode, we talk about Mystina's experiences with Sexual Orientation OCD, Relationship OCD, ADHD, and finally showing herself compassion.
Follow Mystina and her music here: mystinasol
Follow the Just Say Maybe Podcast IG here: justsaymaybepodcast
Disclaimer: This podcast is not a replacement for therapy. Please seek professional help from a licensed clinician or therapist.
Timestamps:
0:00-1:20 Explaining my absence
1:20-6:45 Intro, navigating life with ADHD
6:45-14:00 First bout of SO-OCD, negative self-talk, feeling numb
14:00-26:50 Relationships, ROCD, boundary setting
26:41-30:18 Putting people onto pedestals, feeling emotions again
30:19-40:22 Therapy experiences, building self-trust and compassion
40:23 How will you show yourself kindness this week?
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Is it OK to say you're "so OCD" if you actually have OCD? ft. Shaun Flores
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Hi all! Sorry for the radio silence these past few months. Life's gotten in the way of uploading and editing, but we are finally back with a new video episode of the Just Say Maybe Podcast with our special guest, Shaun Flores! If you haven't met him yet, Shaun is an OCD advocate, podcast host, and public speaker. In this episode, we talk about Health Anxiety, the difference between OCD and OCPD...
The urge to "label" yourself + why it's so hard to stick to therapy
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Hi everyone! Recently, I filmed an episode for the Just Say Maybe Podcast with my long-time friend, Tara. I've known Tara for more than 15 years now. :) In this episode, we chat about hiding and internalizing your emotions, why sticking with therapy is hard sometimes, and the desire to seek a label for mental health issues. 0:00 Intro & how we met 4:00 Middle school DRAMA 10:00 Having "big" emo...
Joe: Living with FOP, Being on Special Books by Special Kids, and Changing your Mindset
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Hi everyone! This is the first video episode of my podcast called "Just Say Maybe," a show about mental health, anxiety, OCD and uncertainty. Check out the other audio-only episodes in the links below. :) In this episode of the Just Say Maybe Podcast, I chatted with @JoeSoochh, a fellow podcaster and UA-camr. Joe is diagnosed with FOP, a rare disease that essentially turns his muscles into bone...
my mental health story - OCD, spiraling, and growing up ~oversensitive~
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Trigger Warning: I mention sexual assault, as well as Harm OCD in this video. hi all! welcome to this channel. I'm not sure yet what exactly I'll post on this channel, but I'm hoping to spread awareness for OCD and mental health. thanks for watching and following :) please feel free to comment any topics you'd like to see below! 0:00 Intro 1:55 Childhood - being overly sensitive/emotional, how ...
I am also from an immigrant family. You think the culture clash/stress about being in a new country rubbing off on the kids could be contributing factors?
Incredibly relateable, specially the part when she explains when you recognize someone of the sex is attractive and your start questioning and when you check your attraction to absolutely anybody
@@Kaizen747 definitely, it’s an incredibly common experience for people with this theme or OCD!
Awesome episode! Happy to see you back!
Thank you so much! Good to be back 🎉
Thank you for sharing your experience. I can relate to a lot of It. And I always felt alone and thought It was something that only I was going throught. I am going to look for a specialized OCD theraphist in Brazil. Sorry for my English. It is not my native language.
Searching If we have the same teraphy (ERP) in Brazil. And we have🙏
Your English is great! You are definitely not alone - I'm so glad to hear you have ERP in Brazil as well
This is amazing!! Thanks for sharing
thank you so much for watching!
I'm so happy you and Evan have each other ...and the cats! they're so cute :) Mine is like my emotional support animal I love her. whoever is reading this, I hope you're doing well <3
thank you so much!! my cats help a lot 😻I've been doing better, thank you so much for watching!
As a Chinese American strugling with Real Event OCD, thank you.
thank you for sharing your story
Your video on Chris channel made me realize I have the same form of OCD. I've always felt like OCD didn't really describe what I was going through exactly since none of my compulsions were physical and I didn't even understand them as compulsions. My sexual obsessions are very controversial and I feel very ashamed about them and have never opened up about them to anyone. Guilt and shame are strong components of this issues and understanding it helps deal with that. Just wanted to thank you personally!
Guilt and shame are such difficult emotions to untangle and process, and can really inflate existing anxiety. I hope you are doing better!
Your video on Chris channel made me realize I have the same form of OCD. I've always felt like OCD didn't really describe what I was going through exactly since none of my compulsions were physical and I didn't even understand them as compulsions. My sexual obsessions are very controversial and I feel very ashamed about them and have never opened up about them to anyone. Guilt and shame are strong components of this issues and understanding it helps deal with that. Just wanted to thank you personally!
Hey, everyithng you said in your interview with spsk relates to me so much. My ex partner coudlnt handle it and it made me feel crazy! However, everything you were talking about even with watching tv shows and checking attraction fuckin hit. Makes me feel not so crazy and there is people out there who can relate. thank you :) much love
Ultimately, ignoring it is the only way. Gradually increase time not doing compulsion/ruminate (going from a mere 5 mins to a day, 3 days, then a week )-slowly but surely, go dormant. It’ll try resurfacing to trick you eventually (at this point, the OCD is less sophisticated and is reduced to raw fear/emotion without context) particularly in the morning, but just keep on keeping on- think of it at this stage as a splinter that your body will “push out” on it’s own with time without your involvement (got that from War of The Worlds) .That’s how I cured myself, going on a decade now. It’s really that simple and it’s not true that it’s something you have for life. OCD is a dumb foreign body/ parasite -it’s not a part of you-birthed from falsehood that feeds on your attention, so just starve the f*cker; it’ll wither and die. Don’t waste your time going to therapy over it and make it out to be something it’s not, conflating OCD with real mental wellness problems…. OCD is the manifestation of faulty wiring in the brain itself, a defect, nothing more. Also, you’re beautiful!
Thanks for educating people about these syndromes so I can understand them. Wow, I think education is so where it is at. The facts are anyone could have a syndrome, but most people don't realize it. Maybe in my next life I will have some syndrome to have to live with my whole life. Let's not wish it on me though. I know leaving a You Tube comment often won't make your life better, but I hope you find extreme resiliency to enjoy your life. Let me know if I can do anything to help. I mean that.
thank you so much for watching and for leaving this kind comment! I definitely agree that education is key to more empathy :)
Thank you for spreading the word around. I’m seeing a counsellor for an evaluation to see if I have pure O. I’ve had super disturbing intrusive thoughts - mostly sexual - for years and I always thought I was demented and an evil person that just had a messed up brain. I’ve never once told anyone in my life until my sister mentioned pure O randomly. The next day I told her I may have it and I remembered watching your SBSK interview a while back. I’m so glad to know there are others like this. Thank you again, and best of luck with the next chapter of your life.
thank you for sharing. I would never wish pure O or OCD on anyone, and can definitely relate to your experiences! Wishing you well ❤
hi i just found your channel and it has really helped me as someone who is trying is struggling a lot with potential ocd/ intrusive thoughts 💜💜
I'm happy to hear that - thanks for being here!
God bless you Erica, the world really need to know you and your platform more, thanks for this good work you are doing 💯💯💯💯❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
thank you for your kind words!
I recently listened to the playback of the livestream on Psych2Go featuring you, and I also just listened to the entirety of this video. All of this has been valuable information about OCD that I haven't heard of before. Your experience appears to be unique based on what I've heard, but in truth, it's likely that people with these kinds of stories usually don't bother telling them due to how complicated they are. Luckily I understand. Thanks for sharing your experience. 🌟
Hey, I sent a message on Instagram, about an interview inquiry. Please let me know if you’re interested or not. Thank you.
Hey, I sent you a message on Instagram about a potential collaboration!😊
Great show keep the good work up
came here from SBSK to show my support as someone else with OCD and very similar compulsions. thanks for sharing your experience
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thank you erica for sharing your story <3 as a fellow chinese american with ocd this hits so close to home!!!!!!!
thank you so much Holly!! I appreciate you being here :')
Can I offer a simple way you can reset your mind - at least alleviate where these inceptions points began. Travel. Your compulsion will have its origins in your identity. Find the country you are instinctively most drawn to - do you have a favorite that is totally different? Go and visit it. A mega weight will lift from your shoulders as you change surroundings and rid yourself of the responsibility and obligation to possess an identity. Your anxiety and compulsions are from social pressures and an environment that don’t match. You will also know which individuals your anxiety directly links to I’m sure. Surroundings and people that are incongruous to one another causes everything to feel foreign to you so you feel lonely and on edge within yourself and began what if scenarios and start to obsess. The feeling of falling was a huge clue - you feel like you are on the edge of yourself about to fall out of yourself. Questioning if you are gay was most likely your search for your identity. Because you can choose if you like a guy or like a girl - finally some control! 🎉 Also sensually being involved with both is perfectly healthy. Trust me. Just go off by yourself to a totally different country for a slightly extended stay. Your brain will have no association or reference point with the place. Leaving behind childhood people to be in their place and finally free to be yourself in a place with no social pressures. Choose a safe country obviously and pick a weather theme - are you a summer girl or cozy winter girl? Where are you drawn to? Learning different cultures and languages will help you find peace and realize you are under no obligation to be any particular race or orientation and that cloud that was making you cry will give up when it has no power over you.
hey! Thanks for your comment and your insight. I actually travel quite often :) I was just in Morocco 2 weeks ago and was also in Nepal and Ethiopia this past year. I also speak 3 languages, which I definitely think has helped shape me in a different way as I consider myself both multicultural and multilingual. Interestingly, some of the identity issues I've experienced may come from identifying with 3 different nationalities/cultures. I do agree that traveling exposes you to new environments and social expectations and plan on doing more of it in the future
@@justsaymaybepodcast Yes it will be somewhere along the lines of being Canadian but also Chinese - in your mind at some point along the way a bit of a paradox to whom you should be. I’m British originally from a town called Swindon but grew up on an island after that. Had awful panic attacks in my youth as I felt out of place on this island. My identity is still an Englishman. After a first divorce decided to just leave and lived in Thailand and Australia - turned into 9 years. Saw Singapore, Laos, Burma, Cambodia - by the time came back to UK I was tired of visa issues in Thailand but realized all that that anxiety had gone as I had no association with those places. So glad you are traveling anyway - well done. You will know when you find your soulmate country. Another thing is hobbies - that can really calm the mind having totally unrelated interests. Conversely having said all of that - maybe it is that you need to make peace with Asian side and could do you the world of good visiting China - at least south east Asia to begin with. 😊
@@justsaymaybepodcast one other thing - genetic memory. My favorite country is Scotland and Glasgow is favorite city. Felt peace there and was a mystery why. Had no idea until years later when doing family tree that my great grandmother - a McQueen - was Glaswegian. 😲 Strange variety of things make up our character and identity and the key is making peace with oneself.
@@singerimpressions6636 I would love to visit China and have already been 4 times in my life for extended periods of time. Unfortunately, COVID has prevented me from visiting the past 4 years because of extremely strict restrictions. it's been pretty devastating because I've missed out on major family changes. Thanks for sharing your experiences!
@@justsaymaybepodcast Really glad you have already been and connected to that side of your culture. Covid protests at the moment there but the Chinese people putting their foot down hopefully is a sign of change. Known a lot of Mandarin and Cantonese people. So does America feel like home now?
your interview literally made me realise that i had pure o ocd (i didn’t even know it existed) after 3 years of absolute chaos in my life because of it (it was unliveable and i had multiple severe depressive episodes and panic attacks) i literally thought i was just crazy and that my brain just worked like that.
i'm so glad it could help you realize this, i wish you all the best in your recovery/healing!
You seem so much happier and better than you did on the video of special books by special kids. That video is one of my favorites about internal O that I'm experiencing for a year now and it helps me so much. Can't even tell you how exited I am about you starting a channel. You are one of my hero's honestly ❤️
aw thank you so so much! I've definitely tried to also refine the way I talk about Pure O/OCD and try hard to live by my values. thanks so much for being here!
this video just means so much to me. i only recently started therapy for my issues with pure OCD, and the anxieties it carries. it’s so frightening even talking about your experiences because it triggers that self doubt and fear all over again, so i mean it when i say thank you. i can’t imagine it’s easy doing something like this. i hope i can get to the point where i can openly talk about this condition and inspire people like you’ve inspired me. you should be extremely proud of yourself :}
thank you so much! I know that you can reach that point of being able to talk about it. I wish you well!!
Good episode, got to know both of ya thru SBSK!
thanks so much for the comment and for watching! :)
@@justsaymaybepodcast youre welcome, and thanks for the good content.
You are so brave for coming out with this. You seem to have a bright mind and I'm sure you will go on to do great things in life. Keep the videos coming, dear!
thanks so much!
You are a brave woman! I admire your courage and the way you break things systematically! I admire you WOMAN!
thanks Kou! :)
Dear, your smile one of the prettiest ones I have ever seen, so never let that fade away. I just wish you all the happiness in the world ! God bless you ! ❤️
thank you!
First comment!
hi joe!!