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The Potential State - Dr. Assael & Galit Romanelli
Israel
Приєднався 27 січ 2019
The Potential State for Enriching Relationships helps people connect to themselves and each other using therapy, art, and education.
The quality of your life is equal to the quality of your relationships. To have meaningful, differentiated relationships, you must be vulnerable, open, honest, clear, bold, truthful, playful, and open.
The same is true in your professional life. The success of your work is dependent on others. These relationships are crucial to your success.
This channel offers original, practical, innovative, interdisciplinary content that will improve your personal and professional relationships. Our content integrates and synthesizes theories and practices from the worlds of psychotherapy, NLP, improvisation, education, communication, gender, arts, and more.
Please like, comment, subscribe and share this content so others may also enrich their relationships.
Good luck,
Dr. Assael and Galit Romanelli
The quality of your life is equal to the quality of your relationships. To have meaningful, differentiated relationships, you must be vulnerable, open, honest, clear, bold, truthful, playful, and open.
The same is true in your professional life. The success of your work is dependent on others. These relationships are crucial to your success.
This channel offers original, practical, innovative, interdisciplinary content that will improve your personal and professional relationships. Our content integrates and synthesizes theories and practices from the worlds of psychotherapy, NLP, improvisation, education, communication, gender, arts, and more.
Please like, comment, subscribe and share this content so others may also enrich their relationships.
Good luck,
Dr. Assael and Galit Romanelli
Relational Aid - Practical Skill for Couples in Hard Times - with Dr. Shari Geller
Living in a hard times takes a toll on our relationships. We have changed and so has our partner. One of our biggest resources is our connections. Strengthening our relationships is vital for personal and collective resilience and well-being.
How do we stay open and present to our partner, when our bodies and minds are closed in order to protect ourselves?
OWNURSH!T together with Get Help Israel are happy to host the Relational Aid series. Real talks that offer couples practical tools to help them push past surviving into thriving through trying times.
Join us as we talk to Dr. Shari Geller, clinical psychologist, Mindful Self-Compassion (MSC) teacher, and author of A Practical Guide For Cultivating Therapeutic Presence. We will explore how can couples cultivate Presence and Self-Compassion in hard times?
For more on Dr. Assael and Galit Romanelli:
www.potentialstate.com
www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-other-side-relationships
open.spotify.com/show/2Z6xnOpBznX7Y9Tf5VMx2z
ua-cam.com/channels/XwdZhwQFgUcRQgZoI_L2Uw.html
Dr. Shari Geller is an author, clinical psychologist, and certified Mindful Self-Compassion (MSC) teacher. Shari co-authored the books, Therapeutic Presence: A Mindful Approach to Effective Therapeutic Relationships and A Practical Guide For Cultivating Therapeutic Presence.
She offers training modules in therapeutic presence internationally as part of her vision of having presence be a foundational training across psychotherapy approaches.
www.sharigeller.ca/
www.sharigeller.ca/publications/
www.sharigeller.ca/shari-geller-events/
How do we stay open and present to our partner, when our bodies and minds are closed in order to protect ourselves?
OWNURSH!T together with Get Help Israel are happy to host the Relational Aid series. Real talks that offer couples practical tools to help them push past surviving into thriving through trying times.
Join us as we talk to Dr. Shari Geller, clinical psychologist, Mindful Self-Compassion (MSC) teacher, and author of A Practical Guide For Cultivating Therapeutic Presence. We will explore how can couples cultivate Presence and Self-Compassion in hard times?
For more on Dr. Assael and Galit Romanelli:
www.potentialstate.com
www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-other-side-relationships
open.spotify.com/show/2Z6xnOpBznX7Y9Tf5VMx2z
ua-cam.com/channels/XwdZhwQFgUcRQgZoI_L2Uw.html
Dr. Shari Geller is an author, clinical psychologist, and certified Mindful Self-Compassion (MSC) teacher. Shari co-authored the books, Therapeutic Presence: A Mindful Approach to Effective Therapeutic Relationships and A Practical Guide For Cultivating Therapeutic Presence.
She offers training modules in therapeutic presence internationally as part of her vision of having presence be a foundational training across psychotherapy approaches.
www.sharigeller.ca/
www.sharigeller.ca/publications/
www.sharigeller.ca/shari-geller-events/
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It’s subjective and it’s a tactic to manipulate a conversation and also denied in order to abuse another person
🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼❤️
This video taught me a lot. Either ours is not a true Pursuer/Distancer relationship, or my spouse is not a Distancer, we're something else. He is high anxiety, a worrier & self-admittedly emotionally immature. He's a loving person, just has trouble sharing and expressing how he's really feeling, like more "emotional overwhelm". I'll have to watch more to learn how to better connect.
Thanks for watching and commenting. Why don't you watch the video together and have an honest conversation about it? That could open an interesting connection. Just a thought :)
Love your content so much! <3
Thank YOU for watching and commenting.
Know this is an old video but this a hugely important topic and I appreciate it Assael! It can happen to me so often and so fast that it is hard to pick up on. Awareness is the first step.
Thanks so much for watching and commenting. Yes indeed.
If you like this watch the holy trinity of blocking video where I expanded on this tooic
The Holy Trinity of Blocking: Surprise, Insult, and Disappointment ua-cam.com/video/ygSvZAFOe2U/v-deo.html
Thank you for this video! The three monkeys! 🙈🙉🙊 That was a great definition of dissociation, Thank you!🙏🏼
Thanks for watching and commenting Sara 🙏🏽
Good God, stop with the hissing!
Oh man! This is mature content! Invaluable! Thank you!🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Thanks so much Sara 🙏🏽
OMG!!! This is revolutionary! Thank you for this and all the details in it!👌🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Thank YOU for watching and commenting 🙏🏽
I love this! I think the same would apply to over using “thank you”. It casts the grateful person as the inferior and the one being thanked as the superior. I don’t know if you have an episode on this, I guess people don’t tend to go that way in their interactions.
Wow. Never thought about it. Maybe we’ll research that one. Thanks so much for all your support.
Thank you for this! I didn’t know this was a thing in intimate relationships, I thought it was just me!! “You fight to remember!” So true I journal everything now especially in intense times and helps improves my memory! Thanks again!
So glad this resonates with you. Yes fighting to remember… super important.
Amazing tip! “Make your partner the best therapist you have ever had”!🎉🎉🎉
Yes. That is one of the benefits of remarrying your partner 😎
You guys are so funny and watching you is fun! Wish you would create new videos but maybe less factual/informative and rather personal and relational. By watching you two in the flow state couples can learn a lot! All the best!✌🏼❤
We are creating more personal content on Instagram in Hebrew now but will soon publish more in English. Stay tuned…
Never thought of honesty or congruence with others is for us and not for them! It’s our way of solidifying our sense of self! Profound, thank you!
That was fantastic thank you. This book is on my read list
I love this emotional umbilical cord! Great video, thank you!
This is some of the best advice I’ve heard.
Constructive honesty is said in a loving way that encourages improvement whereas sarcasm devalues, shames, and wounds the victim of it to the core unless they enter a verbal war with their bullying aggressor.
Great explanation of differentiation!
I’m a bit late to this but I’ll glad I found this channel, I actually didn’t think the interruption was that bad, you guys seem to vibe off each other
You should create a new channel with an easier name so people can find these pieces of gold! Thank you for sharing!🙏🏼🙏🏼
Damn.
So well said , thank u.
Thanks so much :)
Wow, what an amazing video. I've recently been introduced to the concept of self differentiation by my counselor, and there's so much here that resonates with me and where I'm at in my journey. "The only way around is through, and the only way I can grow is through the pain, and the ruptures, and the repairs." -- this hit home especially. I feel like I just got a sneak preview of the next few months of my life. Thank you for posting this - looking forward to watching the other personal development videos.
Don't ever assume you know someone. Don't try to understand them either. Love them, trust them. Don't try to understand them. You can't. They are them, and you are you, and the more you "know" about them the greater the circumference of ignorance will grow. Trying to know or understand is controlling behaviour. It stems from an inability to accept her as she is. Know yourself fully and know your own worth, then love and trust her. That is enough.
Hey, Been thinking of your family and hope you all are ok.
Good but not enough utilisation of the other and the relationship. I appreciate you sharing this with the world! Our hearts go out for you.❤ If you are still doing these videos, may I suggest that you interview Dr Stan Tatkin.
I’ve seen this first hand my ex wife and who I adore had a very sarcastic and cynical sense of humor. It was hard work. I’d call her out and she said “Just get over yourself Andrew”
Not easy indeed. Thanks for sharing.
This has been happening since Betty Friedan and “The Feminine Mystique”. It’s also unfair and unwarranted. Men bust their chops to provide then get faced with an angry, bitter wife who yells and can’t regulate her emotions.
Why can’t your wife own her bad behaviour? Yelling as a means of “expressing my anger and frustration” is just abuse. If a woman does it then it’s regarded as “venting” if men do it it’s regarded as “abuse”. There is no excuse for such behaviours. Your wife deflects all the time. It’s never her fault. Most men would have divorced her by now.
“Passionate” is fine as long as it’s not yelling. Artists are passionate. Abusers yell. Yelling is not subjective. Yelling is objective. If the neighbours can hear or your kids are scared of your yelling that’s abuse. The yeller who thinks they are passionate is simply abusive. Children who grow up with yellers become abusers. Yelling is no longer acceptable just as hitting children is no longer acceptable. As an adult your anger and frustration is your problem. You should be able to regulate your emotions. If you think yelling as an adult is acceptable you are using your spouse and children as a punching bag. Go for a walk. Exercise. Just don’t yell. It’s like hitting someone. Anyone who is a yeller and tries to excuse it by saying they are passionate ask yourself this: Would you want someone at your work yelling in your face? Would you want some random stranger in the street yelling in your face? No. It’s abuse bordering on an assault. So why do you do this at home? Home is meant to be a harbour not a tempest. See it from the kids perspective. They must be terrified of their parents.
I talk loudly and I'm often told I'm yelling. It's been really hard to change this. I am not afraid of confrontation, let's figure it out now and move on. I'm trying to be considerate and empathetic to other people but also I feel like I have to express myself otherwise I'm not authentic.
No you are abusive. Would you like to be yelled at in the street.
Yup. Thats it. Good luck.
Great video. Thank you. Just what I was looking for.
I’m so glad. Took me many years to get it into the muscle enough so I can teach it without being a hypocrite. Thanks for watching.
You were really in a great inspired place when you made this series. BRAVO! Love hearing your spin on Carl Whittaker’s work.🥨 Improv for the win!
I’m honored you follow this channel and you’re so generous with your feedback and comments. You give us energy and belief that this stuff works. Working now on the book so stay tuned 🙏🏽
Taking this concept in 5 years later. Your passion and vigor on these innovative interpretations are awesome & needed. ❤
Can’t believe it’s been 5 years!! I use this concept every day in the clinic with couples.
Coming back here every few months, keeps me out of the doghouse 🦴 Thx!
Glad it keeps you in the crucible and out of the dog house 🏡
Excellent video. Thank you so much
Thanks so much for watching and commenting.
You are a great person who touched my heart and made me clearly recognize old and hidden patterns-thank you❤🙏 Furthermore you convey a message I also support from the depth of my soul:we are all worth being loved.. ❤ I feel grateful for having found encountered you🙏
Thanks so much. Really. It’s these types of comments that motivate me to share what I’ve learned about relationships from my marriage and the clinic. Take care and keep loving openly and fully 🌈❤️
Great episode! Thank you for making this available to the English speaking!
With pleasure. This is our calling now.
Great video! Thank you for sharing your vulnerabilities!❤ Our hearts are with you.❤
Thanks. We’re trying to make the best to be helpful. Happy to test these tools on ourselves. 🙏🏽
One long improvisation…yep. Your singing helps to cement the lesson for me…Thanks for every episode, brother.
Wow. You touched me. Thanks
Bravo Assael, two to niner here. The risk/reward pendulum definitely feels more vibrant, and each breath becomes visceral.🥨
Glad to hear you’ve chosen to live and not just survived. 🦾
Third time watching in a year, as I develop “muscle memory”, in high conflict situations each episode proves very useful. As I breath, let it land, feel the burn, keep it playful and say the thing…I smile inside, and think - I got this! With the specific episode in mind, I jump into the crucible❤️🔥
I’m so happy that you’re leaning into the videos and our approach and it’s helping you 🙏🏽 This is why I’m doing all this 😌
This is Pro-Level sh!t Assael. Instead of reacting, being offended or getting defensive - feel it burn first…you’ll live and be a better person for your effort. Let it land📈
I live by this one. It’s a core of our relationship model.
I find your content to be deeply insightful and true! Hopefully I will remember enough of your lessons to actually apply them in my life.
Thanks. We’re so happy you love it. Yes. These tools really work. We’re in our fifth marriage in 13 years to each other 🦾❤️
Wow this is so true, I can perfectly relate
Thanks so much. I really appreciate it.
So fun and brilliant
Thanks for watching and commenting. 🙏🏽
The planet could really use this message right now, Thanks Assael.
Thanks so much. Really. It’s these types of comments that motivate me to share what I’ve learned about relationships from my marriage and the clinic.
Such a Pro Tip, Doc! Next level skills. Subtle yet so helpful, Thanks Assael 🤗
Yes. We use ALSO all the time as the shortcut for owning sh!t.
The points you make about negative feelings are truly golden. I have never thought about it this way ever before. For many years I could not even bear sad music or sad movie scenes but now am less afraid to allow experience of negative feelings without fear. An excellent video, thank you very much.
Thanks so much Tesse (?). I really appreciate your words.