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I needed to hear this today. So insightful and well explained. The mistrust of love!… how sad Thank you

How about not participating in moral depravity to start with. Nothing good will come out of this.

In love with a married person? Easy: Don't be a slimeball and walk away.

At what age do people come to this type of realization

Then why send this person ? I onow its to evolve when youre akready hurting in life them to donthis us cruel . Thays how i see it.

We shame the woman so badly. But what about the man WHO is in the relationship?

When we got together i told he was getting divorced by him and the wife. After falling in love they decided to stay legally separated and not divorce. I’m just ready to be done. Im tired

What ahould one do its amindfuck she hod a marriage and oresented herself as single with kids , should you try call her request answers trith or him, she literally ended it with a block and very little talk a few texts after sying i lobe you for months and i do want to divorce then a text saying im so so sorry im in love with him eant to fix it only 2 nights before saying she wabts to divirce

It didn’t necessarily have to be a previous pattern from a father, but from a caregiver. People have mother wounds which set them up for future mistreatment from potentially preying men who temporarily fulfill an inner need that was previously neglected.

thank you so much for your content!

I said to my therapist that I got involved with a married man and that I want out of that role of a mistress - she mocked me and said I was conservative and that everyone is doing it now. I stopped seeing her and got myself out of that shit... it was long and painful process, and had lasting emotional and psychological effects long after I stopped sleeping with him. horrible experience.

Beautifully answered.

Thank you for sharing!

Thanks alot for your teachings are Insightful and very practical

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So, its a childish game the other woman plays, called “kick the dog”. That is where some self involved bully gets “hurt”, and they turn around and kick their innocent pet dog when its not looking, to try and transfer their own pain onto something that did not deserve it. It abhorrent. So you were traumatized? Who hasn’t been? Most of us choose NOT to act out the trauma by deliberately seeking to hurt someone else’s innocent wife.

These quotes just show how sick and delusional the women who pursue other womens’ men, are. Seriously, they all act like the homewrecker has no personal agency, no free will, no ability to control her lust. She has deluded herself into thinking these feelings she lets run wild, are love. Hard to get over? Feeling hurt? My GOD how narcissistic do you have to be to think that your delusional feelings are more important than the actual wife’s feelings. Have some dignity and refuse to engage with men who are obviously married.

So easy! Just don’t pursue people who’re already in committed relationships! If you get lied to and told they are single, then you find out later, that’s easy peasy too. Have some respect for yourself and his actual wife. Act as if you had a shred of integrity. With your honour and dignity intact, slam the door in his face. Who’re you thinking you are to poach someone else’s husband?

I'm sry but I cannot have sympathy for the other woman. It comes down to character. I don't care what he tells you, how bad he says his marriage/long term relationship is. LEAVE FIRST. PERIOD. There is no justification for being part of the soul shattering trauma that comes from being betrayed by the person you are sharing a life with. Excuses is all you are giving. When you become the other woman AFTER experiencing that soul shattering pain of betrayal, yourself, you are even WORSE! I can understand women who unknowingly get involved with someone that is unavailable but didn't disclose this to them, however, once they find out the truth, NO EXCUSES FOR STICKING AROUND. The other woman absolutely should be in horrible pain...it's called THE CONSEQUENCES OF YOUR CHOICES & better YOU pay them than the betrayed although, unfortunately, the betrayed pays in spades for choices they had NO PART IN MAKING. I have zero sympathy for these women. They don't deserve it. Nobody is forcing you to be the other woman. You are making a CONSCIENCE DECISION to betray someone else & completely destroy them. You deserve whatever you get

Very good interview👍 Could we also explore the other side: why would anybody be willing to engage in an emotional affair when married?

I think "you can still engage with him" is terrible advice. He is married! And it is ruining your own mental health. Remove yourself from any contact with this guy before you destroy his marriage and yourself. Then, yeah, after that, reflect on the possible trauma that brought you /kept you here for so long and explore non-attachment and self-love. There's a time and place for the "nicey nice" gentle approach as in this video, but this is not it. Some people need a reality check

I'm 70 now and I'd probably go in the Guinness Book of Records for one of the longest affairs ever, but even if I walked away today I'd miss him like hell and I wouldn't want another relationship. We both agree that we met the right person under the wrong circumstances. Strangely we'd discovered that we'd crossed paths many times when he was single. He has his friends, home, finances and social life all entwined where he lives, so I can understand why he won't walk away. He doesn't hate his wife. He says it's just a business transaction and he has no emotions or love for her and he pretty much does his own thing spending as little time at home as he can get away with. If I had my time again, I would have walked away after the first time we went out for a meal. His life is as it has always been, and not changed a jot, whereas mine has been ruined with time I can never get back - all self inflicted! Warning for others. Never have an affair, never!

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This video broke my heart. Thank you for addressing this situation with gravity and compassion.

Keep up the good work- this is important 👌 👏

My boyfriend cheated with a girl that recently entered our group. At first I hated her. Then a realised he used her, he used her in the worst way possible to get his adrenaline fix. She is at her lowest in her life, struggling with depression, without a job and her boyfriend committed suicide a year ago. He gave her attention and that was exactly what she needed right now, to feel seen, to feel loved. He made her empty promises, told her we don't work out and we don't have sex and we will break up soon(all lies!). At home he was the sweetest and most attentive. When she realised he was lying she broke it off, he continue to harrass her until she contacted me a month after their breakup and she told me everything and I put a stop to it. We are going to couples therapy atm, he shows real signs of change, but I look at him and sometimes there is so much hate in my heart, knowing how he hurt and manipulated both of us.

This happens more than people think.

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You are going to get a lot of hate for this. But it's a practical reality.

If there is a gut feeling....you are most often if not all the time, correct.

I think a cheating women gets all of what she deserves on the emtional side, but she doesn't listen to those emotions because they are gold digging. Plan and simple. Might make you feel a type of way reading the truth

Shame really ought to be reinstated, not supporting such degeneracy.

Never get involved with a married man. They never leave their spouse. They just keep stringing you along. It’s not worth it.

Never get involved with a married man. It never ends well.

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Seriously! As the other woman, you’ve absolutely put yourself in that position. Can you even imagine what his wife will feel?! Please help me understand why you would even entertain being with a married man? That’s so selfish. How can you say you deeply love them! Goodness, I’m looking at you and you are just a child. I’m disgusted listening to this. Your grief! You and your “boyfriend” have destroyed the wife and children. You should be ashamed! My husband cheated on me after 20 years of marriage. It completely destroyed our daughter and her views on marriage now. We were discarded like trash for some random woman. He actually moved in with her! Our 15 year old daughter was destroyed. She ran away, and was unfortunately raped and used horribly. But she believed she was worthless, thanks to her father and his whore. That is loosing self worth young lady. You just DONT screw married men! Yes of course it’s his fault, but why be a part of causing so much pain to people that don’t deserve it! We (the spouses and children of the cheater) are absolutely victims. The trauma that you two selfish people have inflicted is beyond comprehension and VERY real! Physically, emotionally, mentally! It’s been 5 years since my husband was unfaithful. And after 5 hard years we’re finally getting back to “us” again! Only better to be honest! It’s still difficult, to trust him. Our daughter was most affected. If not for the wife’s sake, geez, think of the kids. It fucks them up FOREVER! I’m glad I didn’t tell him to go to hell when he reached out. Well I did, but he was willing to do the work and do and does what I need him to do. But he wasn’t able to just come back without consequences and time. Why don’t you other women just wait until these men are divorced, or at least separated from their wives? Do you truly believe that they won’t cheat on you? I wish my husbands mistress would have told me about them. Of course he lied about having the affair until he just left like a coward. If I had been her, I wouldn’t want to be with a man who could have such shitty morals, or at least lacking the strength of character to at least not abandon their families. We all have personal convictions. There are lines that just shouldn’t be crossed, but if they are, then be ready for the inevitable consequences that will come. So hearing you boo hoo about YOUR heartbreak and loneliness and grief and loss makes me so furious! Have you been diagnosed as a narcissist? Or do you have an avoidant personality? I just can’t wrap my mind around why anyone would want to be someone who is a homewrecker, and be a participant in destroying a family! Well, if I believed in karma, and I kinda do, then you have some real pain in your future. I just hope that if you are able to find a man that isn’t already taken (and you know you can, you’re a beautiful and clearly intelligent woman, just selfish as all hell) and is marriage material, that y’all’s kids don’t suffer as much as mine. But unfortunately they will. Again? Why not make him leave his family BEFORE you “fall in love “ with him? If he was truly unhappy in his marriage and he was in love with you and not his wife, then it just seems like not adding more injury to an already incredibly painful experience. On all sides. Divorce is already horrible enough. Anyway, I’m greatful now that my husband and I worked it out. We’re happier now and appreciate our marriage and each other more. We literally just celebrated our 23rd anniversary yesterday! I’m just curious, how would you deal with being the wife who was cheated on? Knowing how men are, and knowing that you sleep with married men, does it especially concern you, that your husband may cheat? Would you blame him or her, or would you be sympathetic for them? So you feel like your deserving or sympathy?

So True…

Are you two banging? You must be banging

Take a f---ing break, heal. Get some therapy. Because if a guy did this to you, you would not stand for it.

What the hell do you expect from an illegitimate liaison?😂😂😂

Why do women get INVOLVED with a man THAT STILL LEGALLY MARRIED???? It is just not legal, there is still a bond... the man is not even healed!!! That is setting up one for failure... and when something doesn't starts well.. down the line will end bad... A person that gets involved in a new relationship when STILL MARRIED/COMMITED, what kind of character does that person has.? What guarantees me that that person won't do the same thing to me down the road???? A total red flag!

Wow You’re talking boundaries when you clearly crossed many. If they do it with you, they do it to you.

This lady did not have a normal healthy childhood. She gave up basically her LIFE to this vampire. Willingly. It’s so easy to judge when you have no idea of what drives people to such desperation that their only happiness is this pretend situation of torture, really. This man is a piece of sht. He found her, targeted her, manipulated her, and as an abused person, I can tell you that it’s not easy to walk away from what could possibly be the only semblance of “love” she ever experienced. People who have had other relationships wouldn’t have stayed like that. And I can’t imagine his wife never knew that entire time, but she probably is another lost person he targeted. In this world there are predators and prey.

Zero judgment beautiful girls… seriously consider building your own castle… once you move into another Queens castle I promise you- it’s not what you think! It hurts to end it but I’m praying for each of you as you have the courage someone way more WONDERFUL will come along! So many married women I see show me all the “I’m so sorry I still love you” regret texts and the affair girl has no clue the regret, sorrowful and heartbreaking life she’s now involved in- the fun is over- the game has been won and my heart hurts for the path your on! Keep strong and as this amazing woman is encouraging you don’t avoid- if he really thinks you’re worth all the pain he’ll leave and then he can come find you!