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INFJ here. I am a coach, but a year ago started working as a PM at an architecture firm. Basically one of my clients (INTJ) hired me when I told him my struggles in finding clients. I can do it, but it's so logical and fact driven, little care for people. Contractors get pissed at our drawing, clients get upset at schedules, cities are hard to work with, engineers being engineers, and I find myself in the middle of it all. I'm having a hard time, and just wish I could coach again. I'm give so much more value to people doing that, but the marketing is my weakness. Can architecture be a place where infj's can thrive? Maybe I need more experience, but the detailed work is so dull.

Thank you so much for your valuable sharing about networking professionally!! The idea of always networking leave me a question about what type of person that I am. When talking to a person that is in the weak-ties group. If they can't help me in my work, the things of keeping contact, asking for their daily life just make me exhausted as a introvert. How can I have a right concept about that or any "Keywords" that I can learn more about that. I'm an English learner so really sorry if I have any mistakes

The final point you made in the video really resonates with my own situation. Thank you so much for all the knowledge you've shared.

attention all ENFJs!! I love you and appreciate you so so much... you see how the world works and can navigate it so well but please don't forget to focus on who you are and what you truly want and need.. your deep happiness is so important and doesn't get fully satisfied with only taking care of people around you.. although you think it might, often settling for less.. with love and adoration, an INFP

This is valuable advice. But the jazz music interjections are very distracting and disruptive. Totally disrupts the flow and my focus.

Probably one of the better messages I've come across regarding INFJ career alignment. As an INFJ who rides the fence between F and T, human connection isn't typically at the heart of my actions or communications. Rather, I'm more likely to be motivated by fairness and ensuring everyone has the same chance at availing themselves of a given benefit, program, or opportunity. What they do with it is purely up to them, mind you, and I don't need their thanks, praise, or approval for my work. But if I fail in my role of provisioning these things for the more timid in enterprises run by those consumed by their own self interests, then I've failed on an epic scale.

I just did mine and I was an ENFJ and I’m a Neurodivergent. IMSHO I have a higher SUPERPOWER!!!!!

I'm an INTJ. I'm highly emotional. The difference is I don't roll around screaming and kicking my legs whenever I'm upset or angry. There are many devolved and aggressively dim people who say inane trash like, "control your emotions," like that's even possible. It is impossible to control your emotions. Period. You can always control your actions. Period. That's the difference, and it confuses the sin out of people with no self awareness or self control.

Somedays I want to be model, then a business woman, then a environmentalist, then a hacker, a fashion designer, sometimes I even think about starting medical entrance studies. Now I completed my graduation but I don't want to do job related to my degree. Now I'm doing nothing bcuz exactly I don't know what to do. Recently I discovered I'm an INFJ and it's description were exactly my situation. I've many interests, that's also a problem. Everytime I try to choose one, I doubt that decision, overthink and end up overwhelmed. I can't even answer to my parent's question about my plans (They won't get me, it's sure). When you're a middle class, the problem even worses. Now I'm trying to focus on one step at a time, what I want to do now, at this moment. Of course, it's hard but I'm trying for this curse to transform into my greatest blessing.

Do you think this would help me in writing a classified ad to promote my services?

I also am an INTJ female and you are definitely speaking to my core. The question you suggested, 'What do I require to be able to trust someone else?' was my key takeaway. ESPECIALLY after realizing that it's a fair ask. I thought I would be doing too much by being this specific with others however it is what I need to succeed in my vulnerability and trust with them and myself 🎉

I have it planned. No need to tell me what I need. I look ahead like 5 years. You are in my 5 year plan, to watch. INTJ, allow for you to entertain us.

I`m debating on what type of training or certification I should consider that best aligns with my 25 years of experience in technical/engineering along with a bachelors in business management. Something that could help command a higher salary outside of my organization since they refuse to promote me accordingly despite proof that several others have done based on their career ladder

I'm an infj and was a nurse in long term care. 😂 literally it feels like hell on nurse. Thank God I know I need to switch careers! That's the first step! AMEN!

*INTJ here, glad I found your channel Caroline. Thanks for the amazing content*

So would the military be a bad choice for us?

This was an AMAZING breakdown. As someone whose worked as a product strategist and product marketer in the startup space + eventually as an entrepreneur you just helped me articulate my skills in a way I've never thought of before. Thank you!

I noticed a trend with myself as well as other infjs. We have this strong desire to be of assistance and make a big change in the world at a personal level but we put so much of ourselves into our work we get burned out and want to retreat and isolate to recharge. We go from high impact jobs to back of the house dont bother me type of work. Ive worked in daycares and nursing homes and special education and felt i was really making a positive change to factory jobs and back and forth. Its hard to find that balance and feel satisfied. Right now i think i would be satisfied in customer service knowing i could be a positive light to the people i interact with and not risk getting burned out again.

Hey Hottie, Any thoughts about what a INTJ does in retirement? What are the pitfalls of a brain wired for efficiency, that eschews the burning of wasted calories, but is faced with no "need" to do anything? Seems daunting ...scary if I'm being honest.

Nicely done 👍

Hi caroline, 2024 ?? Are you going strong ? Love from portugal 🇵🇹🤔👍🙏

That background music triggers me as an INFJ. Hard to focus on what you are saying

The music is really distracting, doesn’t seem to fit the video’s vibe.

Socionics Model G shows INFJ (IEI) progresses by becoming more involved like an ISFJ (ESI) in public and an ESFJ (ESE) in private. --------------------------------------------- Observation & Socionics proves ALL mbti-SJs actually lead with judging. ALL mbti-SPs actually lead with sensing. Including the introverts!!!!! So: Mbti- ISFJ = ISFj (ESI) leads with correctly defined FiSe = Relations enforced through external sensory actions like nursing. Mbti-ISTJ = ISTj (LSI) leads with correctly defined TiSe = laws enforced ✏️ 📝 . Example: Accounting. Mbti-ISTP = ISTp (SLI) leads with correctly defined SiTe = Sensory pragmatism 🔨 🛠 🪛 🔧 Mbti- ISFP = ISFp (SEI) leads with correctly defined SiFe = Sensory mood 💋 💄 Note: Thankfully Mbti only has the 4 introverted sensor's leading 2 functions wrong. Thankfully, it has the other 12 type's leading 2 functions right after doing a J and P switch ONLY for the introverted intuitives.

Caroline - this is great! Thanks for the tangible examples.

Took me years to decide that working for other people just doesn't work for me at all. I'm now a work-at-home graphic designer, baker, and seamstress. I also work p/t at a small grocery to stay socialized. You basically have to force me to leave my apartment now! I don't have any ambitions beyond being able to pay my rent, etc.; becoming too successful would mean I'd have to get employees, and I would hate that.

Awesome! Thank you!

INTJ gotta be the coolest personality type.

I thought I was weird…. So illuminating 😅

I'm already loving your advice from the get go ! 😂

I typically refuse, or at least have difficulty following orders, unless I know WHY I should do something. Once I know why, if the why makes sense to me, I am onboard with the plan.

I am an ENFJ and a Leo. I first thought I was an INFJ. I was wrong as I dug deeper until I found that my zodiac sun sign is a Leo and I couldn’t find anywhere that matched the INFJ + Leo combo. I take my zodiac type very seriously because I match my sign 100% . After watching numerous videos and reading an ENFJ couldn’t fit me more perfectly. I’ve always been misunderstood by everyone including my family. I am comfortable being alone, but rather being with other people. I get burnt out mentally after I reached my talking/social limit for any given day.

I am INFJ and I don't know how to live this life🥲 I was a graphic designer, an illustrator, volunteer at a dog shelter and I experienced burnout every time. I look at the list of recommended careers for my type and do not understand how can anyone work there without having severe depression. Veterinarian - dying animals, no thanks. HR- sad overworked people quitting all the time. Any artistic job - everybody knows how to do it better and will tell you. For now, I am choosing between becoming a petsitter or suicide🙄

Totally accurate ❤

To Caroline Adams: What is your Enneagram type and Instinct SP SX SO? Iam curious what type of INTJs could be coaches?

OCM ENFJ-A

this video brought me so much clarity. I recently learned my personality type and your coaching just confirmed so many things about myself. I've felt lost, alienated, and disparity since resigning from a toxic career of 15 years. I thought I didn't have respect for authority and that I was a difficult co-worker but, really looking back, it was a horrible fit, even with the toxicity. what you're doing is amazing and I am now subscribed.

I tried a lot to do the daily list or to do list, but it doesn't work. Right now i cannot manage my time well, so i search it. It's really helpful.

Very beautiful. Reminds me of Les Brown's "Operate out of your imagination, not your memory."

This is my #1 career goal/project for 2024

I was expecting to hear nursing as an INFJ career. What is the most common MB type for nurses?

I am INTJ female. It's the only tool that helps me understand why I'm so much different from others and why am I feeling so suffocated to interact with people and work with them in my current career path. If only I'd known this many years ago, I would have chosen something else that fits my personality type.

Appreciate your practical insights as a corporate intj and agree 100% on ensuring a shared value, buy in and space for ideas.

I would definitely advise an info to work in sth. where they do not have to do group work, especially with people who do not want to work or leave everything to you. I realized I am feeling much healthier and less stressed when I do not have to do group work to achieve my goal.

You’re a life saver. Thank you

BRILLIANT!

I just tested ENFJ and found your insightful videos. The thing about personality tests: the results are only as "good" as our answers to the questions, right? This may sound funny, but what is the best way to go about that? Do we reply from the standpoint of the best times we've had when we felt the strongest and most authentic, or do we reply based on a current reality that may include maladaptive behaviors? My common sense says the former, but then again, there is truth even in our maladapted selves. I know MBTI isn't at the heart of what you do, but would love your perspective!