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survivorsARE
Приєднався 24 бер 2015
We know there are a lot of survivors out there. As a survivor you may feel isolated, alone or powerless. We promise you that you're not alone in feeling this way. Alone we may feel weak, but as united survivors, we can be strong. We want to start normalizing the public's perceptions of who survivors are and what it's like to be one. We're everywhere!
We're not an isolated incident that happened in a far away place. We're your neighbors, brothers, sisters, mothers, fathers, husbands, wives, friends, leaders, aunts, uncles, coworkers, boyfriends, girlfriends, students, teachers, daughters and sons.
We all need each other to heal and grow.
We're not an isolated incident that happened in a far away place. We're your neighbors, brothers, sisters, mothers, fathers, husbands, wives, friends, leaders, aunts, uncles, coworkers, boyfriends, girlfriends, students, teachers, daughters and sons.
We all need each other to heal and grow.
Simple Complicity
survivorsARE Speak and Heal Event 2018
Poem - Written and read by Jessica Berry
Poem - Written and read by Jessica Berry
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Taylor Edward
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We are so grateful to our fellow survivor, Taylor, for speaking out as a male survivor. He is courageous as both a survivor of sexual abuse and a U.S. veteran. Thanks for sharing your story Taylor. It will help so many. #malesurvivor #survivorsARE
Jessica
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This truly inspiring survivor started speaking up about her experiences since high school (when this was recorded)! She has had a profound impact on our lives and many others. She speaks publicly about her experiences and is studying to be in a position to help others who have suffered trauma. #survivorsARE #speak Music by Jason Shaw, Serenity, @audionautix.com
Take Them Away
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We are firm believers in the power of stories the power they have to form connections and positively impact the lives of those around us. In the summer of 2015, we collaborated with a business class at a local community college to come up with a marketing plan. As part of this process, we introduced ourselves to the class and shared our personal experiences as survivors. Inspired by our stories...
Jon Speaks Out as a Secondary Survivor
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Entire communities are harmed by the effects of sexual abuse. The organization survivorsARE wants survivors AND supporters to unite in healing. Jon speaks out about the impact of having two of his siblings abused on him. We appreciate his willingness to speak up and be an example for a category of people that needs healing but often doesn't get a voice. Thank you Jon for #SPEAKing #survivorsARE...
survivorsARE Yoga for Healing
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Yoga is a great way for survivors of sexual abuse to heal. #survivorsARE Learn more about survivorsare.org There’s a Special Place for Some People by Chris Zabriskie is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution license (creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/) chriszabriskie.com/thoughtless/ Artist: chriszabriskie.com/
Survivor - Dauna
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Meet survivor Dauna who shares how being a victim of abuse shaped her life, the difficulties she's experienced, and how much HOPE she has for her future. survivorsare.org #survivorsARE
survivorsARE Healing Hike
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Here at survivorsARE, we take healing seriously. That being said, we like to have FUN while doing it. There are many ways survivors of abuse can heal. One way is by spending time in nature, which can be calming, rejuvenating and even challenging. This past Saturday, we kicked off our first in a series of healing hikes (we plan to spend more time together in nature). It was a blast and reconfirm...
Survivor - Jessica
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This is Jessica. She shares some of her experiences as a survivor. We are grateful people like her who do so much in making things better for other survivors, especially for your push to get code-R kits tested. #speakyourtruth #shareyourstory #survivorsARE For more information on survivorsARE and what we're about, visit survivorsARE.org AND follow us on: Facebook: pages/Surviv.....
Male Survivor - Ben
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Meet Ben, a male survivor of childhood sexual abuse. Watch as he talks about finding joy on his healing journey and encourages other survivors and their supporters to find their own. He believes we can all heal together. #survivorsARE #speakyourtruth #shareyourstory For more information on survivorsARE and what we're about, visit survivorsARE.org AND follow us on: Facebook: pages/S...
Kari
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survivorsARE is excited to share our first video in the Survivor Spotlight Series. This series will focus on life after the @buse from survivors' perspectives. The media in general tends to focus on the culpability of the abuser rather than how we can help survivors heal. Survivors often have to pick up the pieces of their lives and carry on by themselves. We aim to add more survivor narratives...
Survivor Therapy
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Mental health care needs to be treated like any other health concern. It is important to find a specialist with the training to help your specific needs. Sometimes it takes more than one specialist to help. There are mental health professionals that specialize in helping victims of @buse. If you are a survivor, seek out these professionals. See this link for tips on how to find the right profes...
survivorsARE
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survivorsare.org survivorsARE strives to promote open and safe discussions of @buse in an effort to empower survivors and to provide support and information for survivors and their loved ones. Help us get our message out there and share this video. Statistics retrieved from The U.S. Department of Justice (www.nsopw.gov/en/Education/FactsStatistics) on April, 14 2015. Cylinder 2 by Chris Zabrisk...
What a wonderful story of recovery. Thank you for sharing
The disconnection because you know you have something you can’t talk about. Spot on man.
I watched this bc I believe my Gson may have been assaulted when he was four. After the death of his Aunt, he let us know through tears that a male family member had taken him into the bathroom when no one was home and choked him. He was quietly crying, I'd never seen him cry as a young man, and then I had to ask him if anything else happened...he said no, but I can't help feeling there was more. What advice would you give on this? Or anyone, please advise.
Men statistically take longer to disclose on average than women, if it all. I never would have disclosed if it hadn’t been for my ex-wife. During a custody dispute, she messaged my mother and opened up that can of worms. My ex-wife weaponized my abuse. I had never told my parents. Happened when I was 16. I was around 40 when my family found out. It takes courage as a man to talk about this stuff but I don’t blame men for not wanting to talk about it, it is used against you, you are shamed, blamed, or labeled as “weak”, even if it happens to you when you are young. I wasn’t an adult. I was abused by a man twice my age.
Ben, I am sure that your courageous and open sharing of your story is inspiring other male and female survivors to "come out" and start their journey towards healing.
Thank You For Your Courage - Men Sound Up Please -
Just want to say thank you for sharing praying for you and your family
Thank you Ben for sharing with us. I love you brother.❤
I'm a secondary survivor to my mother and several others. Thank you for your bravery and your part in the lives of your Psurvivors!
Hello, I have a boyfriend who is going through the same thing and needs someone to talk to. Any resources at all?
Ben Thanks for sharing. I am two months into my recovery and the advice to be patient is well received. I have denied for so long that it affected me that I am working to be patient to explore where I need healing and repentance. strength on your journey.
Thank you for sharing your story
Thank you for sharing your story. One day I will find the strength to share my own.
in tears watching this... I could have said this word for word. i think this is the first time i have cried since i had a breakdown in my car 6 months ago when my healing journey started. like Ben, I was in denial for so long (took me 27 years to disclose) and i really thought the healing process would involve me just attending few therapies and i'll be 'cured' after akin to going to a bootcamp. boy was i wrong. he's right this is a lifetime process. i'm working on ignoring the inner voices that had kept me confused, unhappy and isolated for so long but they do come up every so often trying to drag me down especially when i'm at my most vulnerable. the walls he talks about, i have those too and slowly i'm learning to bring those walls down but at the same time develop a healthy boundary and i'm finding that delicate balance of being open but not too open quite tricky to do to say the least but i think i'm progressing with help of my therapist. my childhood experience really messed me up as an adult. among other things - a) i find it really hard to concentrate on my studies, b) i cant do full time work (currently employed as part time - but after watching this vid i feel like i should disclose my situation to my manager so maybe she can understand why i cant do full time work and why i'm not progressing as much as i would like in the workplace and why i'm always using up all my sick leave - cos i'm severely depressed. i'm sure she will be supportive.), and c) i have very little hope in me ever being in a romantic relationship (i still view myself as 'damaged goods' and who would want that). Thanks Ben for sharing your story, I've been to group therapies and have heard many survivor stories but I connected with you the most (pretty amazing considering this is via youtube) cos every word you said rings true for me. Thanks and best of luck.
Ryan, thanks for taking the time to watch this video and to share with us. Healing is a lifelong process, and we all need to love and support on this journey. We like what you say about breaking walls down while maintaining healthy boundaries. That's a balance many of us survivors are challenged to find. We're happy to hear you're working with a therapist with whom you feel you're progressing. We empathize with you when you say your abuse really messed you up in your adult life. There are many who feel similarly to you. But we hope that you don't give up because healing, even with its continued highs and lows, can really change things in your life. We like to remind ourselves to take this journey one step at a time, do the best we can and hope for a better future. We're proud of the work you're doing and assure you that you're not 'damaged goods'. We know that healing is a lot like learning to love ourselves, which allows us to form connections with people that we never thought possible before. You're welcome! I'm glad you were able to connect with my story. Sometimes it's scary to share it, and I wonder if it reaches anyone who needs it/can relate. I, too, could relate to what you shared in your comment. It's nice to know we're not alone. Best of luck to you too! - Ben Also, if you're ever interested at some point in sharing your experience as a survivor and your healing process, we'd love to help you share your story on our blog. Visit our website to contact us if you're ever interested: survivorsare.org/blog.
Thanks so much for replying. It means a lot to me. There are times when I think what is the point of living when you have this much baggage to carry but I'm realising that there are far more positive aspects in my life and that they far outweigh the negatives. I have an 18 month old niece that I adore so much and would love to be a part of her life as she grows up, I have a supportive group of friends, I love my family and I have travelled to different places around the world and would love to do more of that. I, too, would like to be a voice of support for people out there who have gone through or are going through similar experiences. Thank you for sharing the link. Will definitely check it out.
We're so happy for you Ryan! It's always helpful to remember the positive aspects of life. It can help weather the bad.
For me, I wasn't trying to be "macho" or wanted to toughen up. For some reason, and I have no idea why, it never entered my mind until my late 30's. I mean, it was like I almost forgot about it until then, but not because I was trying. Then for some reason, roughly about 37, it started to resurface - the thoughts, the flashbacks, nightmares, remembering the tastes and smells. Just unreal. The only thing I can think of is I had a physically abusive father and that may have taken center stage and I repressed memories of my sexual abuser. Then, as I got older, memories of my father dissipated and were replaced by the person who molested me. I dont feel ashamed in the slightest and could care less what folks think of me because of it. I was 8 yrs old when I was being raped - I was a child, I never asked for it. All I can do is take responsibility for me. Cant be responsible for anyone else. I make enough mistakes as it is :)
I'm not ready to say a whole lot about what happened to me but I just stood up and came out with it a little over a month ago. I did the same as you. I dont remember having to do anything to bury it. It just kind of happened. I had a flashback and I realized what it was and tried to bury it back down. That didnt work. I had buried it for 33 years. Got into an argument with my gf and it came out. I've just started to try to get my life back. I hope all is well with you. Thank you for sharing your story as well.
Your mind will sometimes try to hide traumatic memories as a way to cope and protect you. When you are so young you potentially have no other defense. It may take a while, but you aren't alone. It can get better. As an adult I eventually found some role models who were kind, caring AND strong. Who used whatever strength they have to lift people up rather than tear them down. That to me is what "being a man" is really about. A partner who is patient and kind in terms of intimacy also helps.
Thank you for sharing your story! I know many secondary survivors in my life too. It is helping to hear your perspective <3