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31:45 them children out here just attaching for the hell of it haha

And when it gets really bad is when you came from abuse and marry abuse, and then God forbid you get sick. This scenario was insurmountably destructive to me my sons and to me so much so that it is a miracle any of us made it out alive.

This interview is very healing ❤ Thank you for your honesty.

What clear introduction. Thank you. 😊

Yes, I thought your mother was a narcissist and your father as well.

I absolutely hated your parents

the relationship between the therapist and THE CLIENT, interesting business language within psychology. There is no a individual, human being, NO, is a CLIENT

I was sent to boarding school in a well known public school from 13 to 18 abd it was the best 5 years if my life. I became a nhs surgeon and i have empathy formist of my patients and the ones i dont. I try! I couldnt tbank my parents enough and i got on well with them now.

Great!!!

Excellent presentation well explained very important 👏🏻

This guy Kamm is legit evil.

Her parents are grade A morons

Thank you Melody. I am surprised that I have never heard of you. I like your straight forwardness and honesty. Hypervigilent...spot on.

Thank you for this 🚺💜💫

I live with one I have a health condition so I cant leave. Shes also is bipolar. Constant fighting arguing tries to shame me in front of people. It's unbearable. If I ask her opinion, if she likes a hairstyle that I show her that I would like to get, her reply is always negative. Her reply was "keep it long, If you get that short style hair cut it would make you look fatter. Just very nasty person.

Best video so far. Thank u very very much

Zdrada to zdrada,to ja sie udowadnia a nie przyczyne czy wieksza lub mniejsza wine,nie chcesz zdradzac to sie rozwiedz zanim Ci to przyjdzie do glowy😂

Yes, we are hypervigilant.

I’ve suffered from dissociation for as long as I can remember. I never knew what was wrong with me, I just know that I would, and do, often just kind of disappear and shut down all emotion. I am 60 years old and basically just now learning about dissociation 😢

My kid is now an “adult”, but I can still relate & appreciate this book. I gave copies to a couple new moms I know , as it would feel like gatekeeping not to 📖 🪱 💚

I just finished Wavewalker. It was amazingly written and while I did not grow up sailing around the world, I did find parallels of having such selfish parents. Ones in which had plenty of time and money for what they wanted and little money for the basics of my necessities. As an adult, their behavior was deplorable so I felt like I was taking the journey through your lens and mine simultaneously. Well-done.

It's not all like Mallory Towers by Enid Blyton in the girls' schools and Harry Potter in the coeducational schools. Richard Beard's book was only about boarding schools from a male perspective.

This is great advice and insight. Looking forward to reading the book. I hope many people read the book or even watch this video to assist them with their stress and trauma as this will help them where to start.

There is a serious shortage of material about / from Vincent Deary available on youtube etc. His work is as important to me as Gabor Mate's and needs to be more widely known. This book is absolutely what I needed to read / hear right now. I would also recommend listening to the audiobook to absorb it even more.

What a beautiful man 😍

Brilliant book! ❤

Thank you so much for this 🙏 your ability to create a warm, welcoming, curious, and soft space for exploration of the delicate comes through so beautifully in this video. Truly masterful. Thank you.

I have ASD, and Vincent's book has enlightened me on the concept of allostatic load, and the impact this has on fatigue. As someone on the autistic spectrum, I know that ASD symptoms, and just trying to socially exist creates stress. I suffer fatigue, and I'm routinely floored by stress migraines. I still don't know how I'm going to use the knowledge that Vincent has imparted, but I haven't yet finished the book, so that may become clearer, and I do feel better armed.

Pathologizing and treating the identified patient is not always the best way to deal with the complex and chronic symptoms of dis-ease caused by our limited ability to adapt to a sick society.

Takeaways: Nurture yourself by being more discerning in terms of where you invest your emotional energy. Some areas of life (perhaps your work for example) puts great demands on us to give more and "be perfect" yet provides a meagre return in a way that and replenishes our soul. From self-knowledge and self-understanding, self-compassion can be developed. Take care of yourself.

Please speak English

Ms Beattie, such an inspiring force for understanding healthy living ! So nice to hear you in person ! Thank you !

And if people only knew the real story and the things that were massaged and left out to create a victim narrative. The real story was nothing like this.

I'm just really starting to make sense of BSS. I've struggled all my life with mental health and damaging relationships & friendships. I always felt it was something wrong with me. Trying various things counselling, medication, etc never quite worked and diagnoses never quite fit, compounding the feeling of failure... 'why can't I just get it right?' Reading about BSS is like a light bulb. Finally, a description that absolutely fits. But what to do about? I'm 44, single, broke and feel like times slipping away.

Thank you for this podcast,i can see your demons in the wallpaper,lol. All the best for everbodies future through you.

I started reading this book just the other day and I’m already so invested

3 years and still really helpful for my report on Gestalt Therapy in our major subject Psychotherapy! Thank you for this short but very concise video, Ma'am. Really helpful for Psychology students like me 💛

The people running our governments have boarding school syndrome. Tragic, frightening and deadly.

She keeps generalizing. I didn't want to look ill and I was Anorexic.

My first day at boarding school, 50 years ago, is still one of the most traumatic experiences of my life. My mother left me - her 10 year old daughter - without saying goodbye. I turned around at one point and she was gone. For hours I refused to believe it and kept searching for her. I was not allowed to phone home. I cried every night for over a year. I did not get over this but life goes on.

Suzanne's parents did not do anything wrong by sailing throughout her childhood. Her attitude is what made her have such a hard childhood. Her parents were certainly worthy of criticism, but so was she, as all children are. She believes that she didn't have a privileged childhood, vehemently. Ironically, the amount of privilege required to feel entitled to a good education is very great. Throughout all history the kind of education occurring today was reserved for less than a millionth of a percent of the population of the world. Today, you are still privileged if you receive such an education as she felt entitled to. Too bad she had a victimhood mentality and didn't receive the most powerful education of all, which her parents were well equipped to provide her if she weren't so busy imagining them to be her jailers. The curriculum was right in front of her all along, in the sea, in the stars, in the problems and missing solutions. They were on the maps, in the rationing, the poverty and the occasional flourishing. The education she sought at university came from men and women who were doing exactly what they were doing out there on the greatest adventure to ever be unappreciated. The flora and fauna, the habitats, biology, ecology, meteorology, the cultures encountered, the struggles and economies varying with each. For someone who claims to love education so dearly, Suzanne has yet to realize she left the classroom from which all the forefathers of higher education themselves learned, and went instead to learn from those who only ever heard about it, never knew it first-hand. Oh dear Suzanne, you my dear will hear about these things from your children when they arrive at your current age. They will write about these things you could not find the wisdom to be grateful for. Since you would not grow up at sea, grow up ashore. When you write a second book that shares all the lessons your parents and the sea taught, and you didn't learn until sometime after right now, then I will read both of your books. You owe your parents more than an apology. I hope they read this and know that a random guy in Arizona understands what they did, and that there are people out there rooting for their daughter to wake up and find the gratitude required to have that long overdue attitude correction.

Its not just through therapy all it takes is a little bit of research. Don't have to have therapy to realize you have a narc parent.

Amazing story/book. Hope its made into a Movie

Brilliant commentary - thank you Jenny 👍

Can't wait to get this book. How interesting it all is!

Remember some people teach you how not to be, thats what my narcissistic mother taught me. 7:22

Made my life a living hell

Boarding school was awesome great times and memories. Te Aute College New Zealand.

This has been remarkably helpful thank you for explaining this.

I’ve read your book and thoroughly enjoyed it but felt soo desperately sorry for you not being supported and not loved by your mother, I had the same with my mother and it is devastating.