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He is an excellent musician, an excellent entertainer and i am 100% sure he is an excellent therapist.

I wished to go to a private school and it would have been better.

Nice Video

very interesting, very useful and intoxicating🤩

At 10 years sobriety , I found out about your book. Wish I found out sooner.

Feels magnificent! I'd urge everyone to try it for a few minutes!

I went to boarding school for 6 years 10-16 years and stayed 4 years in a very restrictive campus for my university education. When you have very strict parents, you have little to no choice even in your late teens and 20s (until you get married especially if you are female) So that's 10 years of my life away from home. I hated going home and felt dissociated even when in school. The abuse in boarding schools is immense. I always feel like I am living someone else's life and that my real self is stuck and tucked away in a maze and can't find her way out. It feels like having walls in my mind. Everything is a blur. I can't remember much about my childhood. I feel stupid most times and I know deep down in my spirit that I am not stupid but I can't get myself to come out. I am a mother now, I love my children so much and would never let them go to boarding school or let anyone harm them. I grieve the person that I am deep down in my spirit everyday. I may never get to meet her and neither will my children. God help me. I don't want to leave this world without having to walk even if it is just a mile in the shoes of my real self. Then I will say that I have truly lived. The safe place I use to go to in mind when I was younger is getting harder to get to. I feel like I am just on auto pilot. The only part of my life that I am passionate about is taking care of my children. When they grow up and become adults, I just want to go some place quiet and stay there away from everything. My children are the only reason I push through everyday. If not for them, I won't bother.

Can someone have a few Narcissistic types in them?

Catalina Alley

The stress of narcissistic relationship makes it difficult to exercise ,going to doctor or take care of ourselves.

Thank you Zoe and Lucy. I think It's an absolutely startling omission, that a woman can go through nine, life altering months of pregnancy, which culminate in an event, that's unparalleled in the scope and depth of human physiology and it not be acknowledged that on the day her child is born, that she too has had a BIRTH DAY and now she’s thrown into another phase, essentially (in western culture, by herself to 24/7 keep another human alive, how?).

Making decisions on facts not emotional state is not as easy as it sounds

bss stays with you forever.. will hunt you down in everywhere in good days or bad, lucky or unlucky, happy or sad, the list goes on.. my journey began with age of 2 until teenager years. I have given up on many things in life but i still have my jesus in faith.. i remember crying every single day, waiting for my mother.. there is no cure and there is no peace with you or with your family, it leaves in a way of saying like a moment of your Immune is down you get sick from something and thats you, it is always inside you. i have heard many of your comments, stories and journey. Mine is totally similar but in a different system which it it was a orphanage, kids who didnt have mother or father or neither but yet i had both. the punishments on daily basis, the work, the way of living and nutrition. i have escaped almost everytime but yet, the policeman, fire fighters, teachers, rescue mission and neighbors always found me eventually... i hated it.. my prayers from God were never answered that was more sad to me than everything else that was ongoing. I beat every kid in the school younger and older, teachers, co workers, bichops, priests, archbishops and many more due to my anger management. i was angry almost everyday that how my mother and father would do this to me and leave me here. it was a prison cell but then i saw and met table tennis and that became my one way ticket out of it. p,s, no medications or therapies would and will ever help this. sociology 101 mother and her son/daughter relationship then to the world.

This was super interesting, thank you

Brilliant man, and brilliant book

Excellent Interview ❤

0:09 intro 2:03 traits 3:13 what it hides 4:05 spectrum 12:57 abuse/tactics 13:55 gaslighting 15:15 withholding 15:50 betrayal duties 16:43 who’s susceptible 20:28 can’t change 22:55 victim blaming 24:02 parents 25:02 children 30:17 trauma bond 30:41 childhood TB 35:08 what you love about them 36:29 adults with narc parents 42:08 friends 45:15 long term effects

Awesome Break down: many thoughts came to mind as I listened, Thank you much

"My Family"? Where is "Palestinians Don't Count"?

I was a boarding housemistress and was aware of all of this. I did it for 5 years and realised that boarding school is a really bad choice. And not only for the children in the school but also for the children of the house mistress who are neglected while you spend all your time with the children in your house. It is child abuse and it should be stopped. Parents should not have the choice to do this. It not only damages the person themselves but also the whole of society that they end in positions of power over.

Grass is always greener on the other side it seems.

Your parents did you the biggest favour of your life. You endured difficulties that made you a flexible, resourceful, and adaptable person. Be thankful. I looked at death in the face 7 times by the time I was 11. And now I'm just a silly old bugger on the pension. You are an ingrate! So, enough of all the "poor me" bullshit, already!!!

Given that the reality of cruising is that you spend 90% or more of your time NOT sailing - in other words in port, in a marina, or otherwise at anchor - there should be plenty of opportunity for children to 'get off the boat'. And there are plenty of other families who manage this balance reasonably well. Whatever went wrong in Suzanne's life it's nothing inherent in the cruising lifestyle - just the way her parents seem to have gone about it.

The last half, especially the last quarter, are simply phenomenal. Thank you so much, you saved my life

STOP MOVING YOUR HEAD

I think Dr. Ramani's soothing voice is making that Lady fall asleep,, her eyes blinking, nodding off,,,, i recognize this, because i do this... No insult, just noticing,,, she just needs more sleep 😴❤

SHE IS DOPE!

You nail it again Dr Ramani. You are saving my life. I am healing from a narcissistic relationship but can take it back to my mother and heal that as well with your guidance. You are so wise

We're moving further away from our natural selves....we dont have the communities we used to....so we're shocked and ill prepared for motherhood. Its not surprising that new mums can feel this way...but its been look like this for a long time now. 😢

My childhood image of relationships was so warped that when I saw the movie "One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest" I seriously couldn't understand why people were mad at Jack Nicholson's character. I thought he was just behaving normally, then they put him in an insane asylum! Needless to say, I went on to marry a narc for 20 years.. Now, I live with a cat. Safer that way.

Dr. Rama I you just keep getting better!

I thought it was about changing client perception.

Your name matches with a serial character

Dr Ramani is a genius!

This is an excellent book, thoroughly enjoyed the sobering reality of how mental health can be traced to not only genetic but to social circumstances behond a patients control. Risk assessments made by the author were always carried out honestly with compassion and empathy and narrated with humour.

Yes. How to heal is where I’m at. I’m truly enlightened about the situation through your podcasts. I really need to embrace the healing process.

I wish there was a cure for what I experienced but there's nothing but time.

I was a professional excuse maker. Recovering people pleaser 😮😅❤

Thanks very much 👍👍

@8:21

This is great

I am 61 and after a lifetime of narcissistic abuse as the designated scapegoat- family, " friends ", colleagues, bosses, social groups, partners- my body has broken down. I dont expect to survive to 70 and I dont want to.

I'll never stop saying it. Doctor Ramani has been extremely helpful for me. I will be forever Thankful for her. I pray more and more therapists/Doctors out there become more educated on this.

31:45 them children out here just attaching for the hell of it haha

And when it gets really bad is when you came from abuse and marry abuse, and then God forbid you get sick. This scenario was insurmountably destructive to me my sons and to me so much so that it is a miracle any of us made it out alive.

This interview is very healing ❤ Thank you for your honesty.

What clear introduction. Thank you. 😊

Yes, I thought your mother was a narcissist and your father as well.

I absolutely hated your parents

the relationship between the therapist and THE CLIENT, interesting business language within psychology. There is no a individual, human being, NO, is a CLIENT