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So happy to hear experiences that are like mine!!! I am 23 and I honestly also knew ever since I started puberty

Yes, was 47, 3 years ago when I figured it out! Hearing a podcast with Angela Chen defining it as not being sexually attracted helped me. I had seen other videos by Ace people who were talking about not feeling s3*ual arousal so I thought that I couldn’t be asexual.

39. Because I believed the stereotype that asexuals cannot experience romantic feelings.

Magnus archives reference!

I am curious....i am currently going through my first breakup and i wonder if that's different for asexuals than straight people. I feel devastated. Btw I am 30 so I'm not like... going through a high school romance break up. I am asexual and that wasn't a big issue in our relationship. I was the person who tried to be romantic so we could spend quality time together but he was always high and in another world so it got rough living with a non present partner.

Hide a message that tells them to send you a certain message to start the conversation. See if that filters out some of the people not reading your profile. Never used a dating app, so I don't know who well this will work, but I've seen it work elsewhere.

All love and appreciation to Miss Tarsi and her wonderful program 🖤🤍🤍💜

Im just pretending that the hate comment guy was playing the clown music himself

Ohh a premier. Idk of ill make it in time, but ill definitly try!

Could I mention you in a post? If not, absolutely fine.

Another great episode, def have some opinions on what apps work best for an Ace gay man looking for love, I'd say Scruff is the best one if you're looking for romance as that's where I notice more people seeking that than Grindr and definitely way more than Sniffies since that's a hookup only app. It also allows for a lengthy profile so you have more space to explain who you are while Grindr has a 256 character limit on that. Grindr is great for me for finding intimacy hookups where my goal is being held and holding a person, I'm upfront with the fact I'm not likely to get an erection let alone an orgasm and that I'll make sure they get to their orgasm because I really enjoy doing that. You'll get a rare person saying hi looking for romance and I think it's because many gay guys would rather have sex and see if that leads to a relationship than dating leading to sex possibly leading to a relationship. My relationship formed out of amazingly fun hookups, which I definitely was not expecting. There's definitely no easy path for an Ace to find love but the extra effort is definitely worth it.

I literally just started this episode but "it feels like all your other areas aside from sexual attraction are heightening" / "I feel people to the depths of their soul" just rewired my brain chemistry.... I'm such a hopeless romantic (sometimes I think I'm HYPER romantic, if that's even a thing) and when I feel romantically for someone I feel SO MUCH!!! I used to kind of see this as a problem, as if my magical fantasies in my head of what romance are or could be were an issue but hearing you say that really made me feel better. It made me see something I've always perceived as a weakness, as a strength. So thanks for that <3

I'm also ace 💜🤍🖤

Thank you very much, Miss Tracy ❤❤❤

As an ace who currently hasn’t/doesn’t date it’s been interesting to get a glimpse into the ace dating world. Keep up the great work!

Awsome episode :) was fun learning more about the different dating apps as I genuinly have no clue. I really liked the idea you mentioned that putting asexual in your bio might scare off some people, but more importantly make you connect more with other ace people. I think thats important to realise, quality over quantity.

Cant wait for the next episode :)

Just to clarify - I love Hinge, they're not acephobic (watch the whole video for the reason why I got banned), and it's so important that they do their job to keep people safe! 💜 But THANKS A LOT, FRANK! 🤣

This is convincing me to try dating apps sometime. I think ill check it out once I move out. I love my mom, but she can be a bit too protective sometime, even for a 21 year old like me. I hope to move out within the next year, and this episode really made me change my mind on some things. At first I concidered only putting some vague references to asexuality, but I think you were right with stating that less, but better matched because you explicitly mention it is good aswell. Quality over quantity.

Thanks for sharing more about your life. I'm definitely a goddess too, loved hearing you say that. I love it when guys address me as Mistress, it's usually a good sign they're going to be able to roll with some chaotic fun.

Right here

What an amazing episode. I hope you keep doing it. Thanks for spreading ace awareness and just being a cool person :)

just started listening to this (i am gray ace space btw) and realized i don't actually know your name, are you the tracey? just feels weird to not address u by name at this point lol

As an older anxiety riddled ace I'm going to offer some advice that applies to anybody with serious anxiety issues. Around my 30's I realized during stressful situations my response would often be to go into shallow breathing mode, which makes the situation worse because your 02 levels go down and your heart rate increases to compensate by working harder to deliver more 02. For 20 bucks you can get an 02/heart rate finger readers that doctors use and then you can monitor those two stats during stressful events and if your 02 goes down and heart goes up then start practicing deep breathing exercises to counter this. Meditation and deep breathing exercises combine really well.

Thanks for sharing aspects of your life and creating a community space for aces. My Grindr profiles begins, "Asexual pervert on a quest to deliver intimacy and ograsms to as many kind people as possible." It's cool to learn that there's no such thing as a typical ace, we're all unicorns. It's pretty wild to have gone decades with barely any sexual thoughts popping in my mind compared to the last three months where they're popping up everywhere.

such a perfect title for the podcast lolll

the irony that i found this on the day I deleted dating apps again. I definetly struggle being allo-ace, wanting that intamacy but not really being all that interested in sex. Trying to date burns me out so fast. I'm currious to see what discussions and points of view are shared here

Learning about attraction in my psychology class today was really uncomfortable because my teacher was really pressing that all romantic attraction is rooted in the physical attraction and I tried to explain as vaguely as possible that there are alot of people who don't work that way. I'm not sure what I would call myself but I do not desire and have even felt fully repulsed from the idea of physical intimacy and I just feel alot of dissonance with the idea of all attraction or romantic or platonic being tied back to sex, I really belive the issue I have with so many psychology theories is that they generally tie back to sex and reproduction which not everyone desires so it's hard to see that as the root of motivations and makes everything feel so dated and difficult or me to agree with.

So happy the mighty Al Gore Rhythm danced this into my feed. I recently learned how to enjoy hooking up and have had more sex in the last six months than I did in the previous decade. Most the time I don't get to an orgasm but I am loving the intimacy and definitely making sure they get to to their orgasms. Been an incredibly life affirming experience. Glad you used the word voyage because that's definitely the word I've been using a lot as of late. Can't wait to see what's next!

I was in the closet for 7 years, becauce I would like a romantic relationship and was scared that my Asexuality would be a dealbreaker and i would not be loveable, until I fell in love with another Ace Person. They don't wanted a relationship with me, but I'm now a part of the local queer community and I'm so happy. If I will find a relationship or not, I never regret coming out, it was the best thing to do.

Loveeee this! I’m looking forward to future episodes!

LOLLL love this so much😂

High school, 9th grade, and I find it really odd that as compared to all the ace stories u hear I don’t notice anyone around me really talking about it? Like out of all the people I would talk with on a regular basis (multiple times a week)(a decent amount of people) I can only think of like 4 that ever mentioned having a crush, or dated. Is this some sort of conspiracy? Are all my friends also ace? /j

So here's my story: Mom and dad split up when I was two. I grew up never really seeing my vio dad, except once in the news. Eventually mom remarried a guy who would talk sex talk all the time, show me various toys and porn. This included fondling.He called this education. I got weird about sex and relationships even before puberty. To me it wasn't ever really something I wanted, it was just something we as humans did. It struck me as odd that my peers were all about dating and such, they seemed obsessed. I thought maybe that was "normal" and pretended to be like them. Thing is it never felt right; I tried it all; heyero felt the most comfortable, but still kind of dirty. One girl actually did call me out for pretending, and shorrly after that I simply avoided relationships and especially sex altogether. One night in my 20's I saw a documentary on asexuality, much of it resonated with me, but I dismissed tye possibility for myself aa an aversupn because of my stefather. Over many years of first seeking therapy ((you'd be surprised how difficult it is to find a therapist that is even willing to treat a boy who has been sexually abused) and then finally finding one, I managed to get past my aversion, but noticed my attractions never really had anything to with sex. Of course most people never believed me, or told me something was wrong with (I'm sure you all know that story). My favorite one was the idea that my standards were too high. Anyway, a few years ago a friend in a LARP group came out as ace, which I already knew about so was perfectly okay with. Tgis started some big debate on the topic. Meanwhile, I atarted revisiting the idea. The more I explore the more it fits. Whether my asexuality has anything to do with the abuse or not is irrelevant. Sure the abuse may have broken me, but I'm mended now and accept who I am as I am. Iam done pretending for anybody, including myself.

Lasexuality, L-Asexuality, L-Ace-exuality. 🖤🩶🤍💜

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Sorry I can only offer puns 😂 "With ace pecial person" spoken like "with a special person". "rel-ace-ionship" "in the m-ace of love" "f-ace to f-ace"or just "ace to ace" "love in a special c-ace " "am-ace-ing love" "in the sp-ace of love"

as a name "Ace of hearts" like the card. I once read that the four aces have a symbolism linked to them in asexual imagery but I don't know wich any more. Don't know if this is excluding to some but it is a catchy name...

Hi, just found your chanel recently and it's been fun! For my journey, I had similar thought processes as you. In particular, I kept saying "oh it'll happen soon" or "it will happen later". When I was going into college, I was all ready to suddenly get relationships or being 'crazy' about a boy but then the first year past and I didn't feel any different. It took up to my Junior year when I went out on my first 'date' and I only really agreed because the guy was nice and I felt like I should want to accept his invitation. Learned quite quickly that I really didn't want the sexual or overly romantic relationships after that. It's just the way I am. Now I'm still figuring this whole thing out, I might be biromantic or heteroromantic or just like the look of men but would rather spend my life with a woman. It's been difficult but freeing to figure this all out.

Thanks for your story. I just want to point out that some Asexuals do mastrubate or even watch Porn.

Hi. Super romantic Asexual here to smoother whoever wants love and affection with cuddles, chocolate and coop gaming times.

This was AWESOME! Would love to see more in depth interviews with each of these lovely humans!! Also a big thank you for including older aces like myself. Just turned 50

Finally a ace like me. I know it’s hard to find a partner because you are asexual and you aren’t in to everyone but you will get there.💜💜💜💜💜

Hearing other aces after so very many years of denying to myself i so amazing. And i love bojack, it helped so much to see it on something at the same time i was realising who i am.

I'm Aego, so it took me forever to figure that out. Being in the sex-favorable ace category was a much more subtle journey of gradually figuring myself out. I didn't question things early on, because I just wasn't aware I was lacking anything. The hiccups more came when I found myself in potential sexual situations, and the way a part of me pulled away. I kept interpreting it as me just not being ready yet, or that I wasn't close enough with the person yet, and things like that. Ace wasn't even something I was aware of was a thing before my bestie figured out she was ace (sex-averse ace, so not being sex-averse I kind of just ruled it out that I was ace myself), but I gradually started considering myself demi, until I finally came over the aego definition in my mid 30s, and the description was so incredibly spot on for my experience. It was a real "aha" moment for me, and helped explain my own odd behaviours to myself. I never had any issue with my ace-ness, it was just lack of awareness, but once I figured it out I was cool with it. Figuring out I was aro-spec (gray/aego/cupio) was harder for me, because while I haven't ever really longed for a sexual partner, I have longed for a romantic one. And knowing just how unlikely it is I will develop romantic attraction to another person (over a decade since I felt any last) it sucks. I wish these things were more paired, that if you lacked attraction you would also lack the desire for it, would make things a lot more easier if I just never wanted someone in that way.

Heeere! 🖐

Sorrry sweetheart iam aromantic asexual but you are awesome

This is for anyone confused on why there romantic asexuals they still want a romantic connection just not interested in getting someone in there pants or someone elses pants if im wrong someone tell me but this is my explanation for thouse who was confused

I ADORE THE "ASEXUAL ROMANTIC RIZZ". (Me myself, I feel super attracted to it and also I'm the only asexual romantic I know around this boring town in which I live in). Anyway, asexual rizz>>>>

Im here! Scared of being like that, so no one would think of me in sexual way instead of just romantic one! :'D