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The Truth About Why Smart Teens Disengage From School (with Jenny Anderson and Rebecca Winthrop)
Is your "good student" secretly struggling? Discover the hidden signs of student disengagement and learn how to help your teen thrive in school and beyond.
In this eye-opening conversation, Margaret Ables talks with award-winning journalist Jenny Anderson and education expert Rebecca Winthrop about their groundbreaking book "The Disengaged Teen." They reveal the four key modes of student engagement:
• Resistor Mode: When students actively push back against learning
• Achiever Mode: The seemingly perfect students who may be struggling beneath the surface
• Passenger Mode: Students who are merely going through the motions of learning
• Explorer Mode: The optimal state where genuine learning and growth occur
Learn practical strategies to identify these modes in your teen and discover how to support their learning journey, whether they're excelling or struggling. Anderson and Winthrop share research-backed insights on why less than 10% of students experience explorer mode in school and how parents can create opportunities for authentic engagement at home.
This conversation offers valuable perspectives for any parent wondering why their teen seems disconnected from learning, including simple strategies to spark meaningful educational discussions and ways to support your child's natural curiosity and growth.
Based on extensive research and real-world experience, this discussion provides hope and practical solutions for parents navigating the challenges of teen engagement in education. Perfect for parents seeking to understand and support their teen's learning journey.
Here's where you can find Jenny and Rebecca:
www.jennywestanderson.org
www.rebeccawinthrop.com
www.thedisengagedteen.com
@jennyandersonwrites and @drrebeccawinthrop on IG
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ABOUT THE WHAT FRESH HELL PODCAST
When you're a parent, every day brings a "fresh hell" to deal with. In other words, there's always something. Think of us as your funny mom friends who are here to remind you: you're not alone, and it won't always be this hard.
We're Amy Wilson and Margaret Ables, both busy moms of three kids, but with completely different parenting styles. Margaret is laid-back to the max; Amy never met a spreadsheet or an organizational system she didn't like.
In each episode of "What Fresh Hell" we offer lots of laughs, but also practical advice, parenting strategies, and tips to empower you in your role as a mom. We discuss ways to prioritize your own needs, combat stress, and despite the invisible workload we all deal with, find joy amidst the chaos of motherhood.
CHAPTERS:
00:00 - Intro
00:56 - The Inspiration for The Disengaged Teen
04:37 - Understanding Engagement: Definition & Importance
06:33 - Disengagement: Biological Imperative Explained
11:27 - Natural Learning: Optimal State of Growth
15:42 - Four Modes of Engagement: Overview
20:50 - Achiever Mode: Characteristics & Benefits
25:24 - Passenger Mode: Understanding Passive Learning
27:46 - Zone of Proximal Development: Key Concepts
29:34 - Explorer Mode: Fostering Curiosity & Exploration
36:50 - Encouraging Explorer Mode at Home: Practical Tips
40:13 - Engaging with Teens: Adapting to Different Modes
47:16 - Where to Find the Book & More Work by Rebecca & Jenny
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How to Yell at Your Kids Less (and What to Do Instead)
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Tired of your kids ignoring you until you yell? Discover why children seem to tune out gentle requests and only respond to raised voices - and learn effective strategies to break this frustrating cycle. Amy and Margaret explore the science behind why yelling happens, its impact on parent-child relationships, and practical solutions for communicating more effectively with your children. Learn ab...
The Really Very Crunchy Lifestyle (Emily and Jason Morrow)
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Ever wondered about the hilarious world of "crunchy" parenting? Amy talks with Emily and Jason Morrow, the creators behind the viral @ReallyVeryCrunchy social media sensation. Dive into the comedic side of crunchy parenting and the unexpected challenges of raising kids with a more holistic lifestyle. In this episode: • The origins of "Really Very Crunchy" and how it grew to 3 million followers ...
From Chore Charts to Self-Starters: Raising Helpful Kids
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The invisible workload of motherhood: it's more than just chores. Amy and Margaret dive deep into what moms really do, exploring the mental load that often goes unnoticed. In this episode: • Why traditional chore charts might be missing the mark • The importance of teaching kids to "notice and do" • How to make invisible work visible to your family • Strategies for involving kids in household t...
Mom Burnout: The 3 Questions That Changed Everything (with Vanessa Cornell)
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Are you struggling with mom burnout? Discover the 3 questions that could change everything. Amy talks with Vanessa Cornell, founder of NUSHU wellness retreats for women, about overcoming burnout and rediscovering yourself as a mother. Key topics: • The dangers of being "selfless" and the importance of self-care • Reframing mom guilt as fear and how to manage it • Setting boundaries for more eas...
Holiday Goals: Less Doing, More Magic
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Discover the hidden secret to creating a stress-free holiday - doing less while keeping the magic alive! Amy Wilson and Margaret Ables share candid insights about resisting the pressure to "do it all" during the holiday season while maintaining meaningful traditions that truly matter to your family. Want to make the holidays more joyful and less overwhelming? This episode unpacks practical stra...
Parenting Through Grief and Loss (with Guest Charles Bock)
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A raw and powerful journey through loss, love, and the unexpected strength found in imperfect parenting. New York Times bestselling author Charles Bock shares his deeply personal story of becoming a single father after losing his wife Diana just days before their daughter's third birthday. Bock reveals how he transformed from a reluctant father into a devoted single dad, navigating the daily ch...
Psychological Phenomena that Affect Our Thinking
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Psychological Phenomena that Affect Our Thinking
The Secret Sauce That Makes Parenting So Much Easier (with Dr. Dan Siegel)
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We Regret to Inform You...This Totally Works
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ADHD & Executive Function: Crucial Insights for Parents (with Emily Rubin)
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ADHD & Executive Function: Crucial Insights for Parents (with Emily Rubin)
Helping Kids Manage Their Friendships
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Helping Kids Manage Their Friendships
The Myth of a Reliable Path to Success for Our Kids (with Gabrielle Blair)
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Decluttering Hacks Every Busy Mom Needs Right Now!
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Cooking with Kids: Make Meal Prep Fun and Easy (with Mark Bittman)
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STOP the Halloween Stress: Practical Parenting Tips
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Balancing Conflict with Connection in Relationships (with Brit Barron)
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Is Parenting Stress Getting Worse?
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Is Parenting Stress Getting Worse?
The Secret to Raising Resilient Kids (with Dr. Tovah Klein)
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Are Manners Still Relevant? Here's What Matters Most
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Compassionate Time Hacks for Busy Moms (with Kendra Adachi, aka The Lazy Genius)
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The Daycare Myth Exposed: What Parents Need to Know (with Dr. Dan Wuori)
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The 8 Rules Moms Are Using to Simplify Parenting
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The Real Reason Kids Freak Out - And How to Help (with Carla Naumburg)
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Combat Gender Bias at Home (with Dr. Jo-Ann Finkelstein)
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Combat Gender Bias at Home (with Dr. Jo-Ann Finkelstein)
Navigating Kids' Curious Questions with Ease
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"What Fresh Hell: Laughing in the Face of Motherhood" Podcast is Going on Tour in Fall of 2024!
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Jill Castle's 8 Pillars to Raise Kids Who Love Their Bodies
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Sibling Age Gaps: What Works Best for Your Family?
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How to Help Without Hovering: Expert Parenting Advice

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  • @chainin-the-blox
    @chainin-the-blox 11 годин тому

    Listen to her justify why it’s OK for her to yell at people the way she feels like it but if someone else has a reason that she doesn’t like then that must be anger and frustration of an unacceptable type.

  • @dacoolfruit
    @dacoolfruit 4 дні тому

    We can learn from traditional societies. But, we don't live in a traditional society if we live in the US. Take what we can, but not guilt if we just can't do everything people in multi-generational families can't do. I feel ao bad for not having a pristine home and evwrything organized right now.with 4 7 and under. My husband is from West Africa and I have felt I don't live up to a Senegales wife. He repeatedly reminds me that his mom had other adults in the home all the time and I am all alone and that it is OK.

  • @christashavers3274
    @christashavers3274 4 дні тому

    It would be interesting to touch on allowances, have you incorporated those into your child rearing?

  • @sarahwray307
    @sarahwray307 5 днів тому

    Love them!

  • @dnwanja
    @dnwanja 15 днів тому

    Love this!!

  • @jacobking6948
    @jacobking6948 21 день тому

    Must be a feminist. The average man, who is able to overcome fear, absolutely can kill a wolf with their bare hands. They may lose one of them or receive ife changing injuries.

  • @caramelcoffee924
    @caramelcoffee924 Місяць тому

    Hi Ladies! I’m so glad that I found this video. As someone who is going through a midlife crisis, I thoroughly enjoyed your discussion on this topic. I laughed and cried, and found commonality. Our youngest left home a few years now. But the death of several female relatives that I was close to and thought we’d grow old together have me in a deep “blah” and confusing season. Thank you… I feel some sense of hope. ❤

  • @mommom3172
    @mommom3172 Місяць тому

    Such a thoughtful conversation. As a child who felt neglected being raised in the 1980's left to my own devices, I WANTED to care for my children. Now, they are 18 & 14. We homeschooled them. Everyone has time to be alone but many routines we do together: clean, cook, shop, play games, walk, talk, help each other and so on. We can only run from evolution for so long before it takes a toll. I'd rather my children be emotionally healthy, connected and supported than striving for academic success and checking off boxes with their peers.

  • @DuongMinh-tc7qf
    @DuongMinh-tc7qf Місяць тому

    I enjoy listening to your conversation!

  • @cbsteffen
    @cbsteffen Місяць тому

    Here is another way to say that someone is too old to go trick-or-treating: You’re taking candy away from the little kids!

  • @annabellajones7167
    @annabellajones7167 Місяць тому

    Can't stand the 'you're too old to go trick or treating!' like, its so much fun, free candy, costumes, and the sneaky excercise, but seriously hate when other adults want to hamper on my fun just because I'm 'too old' You're NEVER too old to enjoy yourself and have fun, without fun we'll all die young and miserable,

  • @sandyslank1752
    @sandyslank1752 2 місяці тому

    I work at a parent participation preschool that has been a part of the community for 40 years and the director with several staff members included myself have worked in this program for over 25 years. Your messaging reminds me of the great late Bev Bos. Thank you Dr. Wuori

  • @russellheyns1846
    @russellheyns1846 2 місяці тому

    Gratitude. You need gratitude. Fulfillment comes from being, not in doing. Feeling content from ANYTHING outside yourself is seeking external validation. You must be happy with simply existing. Anything else will lead to suffering. Be careful of those internal voices and those external messages from media, movies, social media, etc. Our culture encourages low self-esteem because it makes money for the powerful. It’s fair game but just stay aware of it. It also encourages the victim mentality for the same reason.

  • @joward7676
    @joward7676 2 місяці тому

    Thank you so much Gabor & Gordon💓 . In need of this wisdom

  • @kaplanthekaplan
    @kaplanthekaplan 2 місяці тому

    Thats not crazy stuff

  • @GabyHernandez-rv3vo
    @GabyHernandez-rv3vo 2 місяці тому

    😮😢

  • @whiteshellmountainranch4688
    @whiteshellmountainranch4688 2 місяці тому

    I tell my kiddos that it is ok to be angry, it isnt ok to take it out on others. Their dad taught them it was ok to put the responsibility of their emotions onto others. Now that he is not around anymore, I have to reteach them that they are responsible for themselves. As our kiddos grow, teaching them to be able to express themselves while being responsible for themselves at the same time is so important. I grew up the same it was ok to have good emotions, but we couldn't be angry.

  • @BetterDays_Now
    @BetterDays_Now 2 місяці тому

    Please take this as a suggestion, not a hurtful insult : The roller coaster of singing the sentences in the intro, ( instead of just reading normally) the up and down tones actually fries the brains of some adhd listeners. ( It's painful and distracting. ) Love dr k. Thank you both for the interview.

  • @lizsilverwolf6003
    @lizsilverwolf6003 2 місяці тому

    "...view the world with new eyes again...!"

  • @silverdove88
    @silverdove88 3 місяці тому

    Thank you 🙏 What a beautiful way of describing current circumstances. Without protection from pain, we numb, and when we numb for long enough, it becomes disassociation and disintegration - we operate as an empty shell and fool everyone and ourselves. I’ve had the privilege to reintegrate, and deeply honour the protection, support and nourishment that will help all humans, esp the little ones thrive, grow, heal - such difficult work that you two have made a little easier 🐥 and i agree, our ancestors, even in death do so much to hold us if we give attention and tend that relationship - and our descendants too, physical and spiritual even before they are born 😄

  • @bankai4303
    @bankai4303 3 місяці тому

    But it's funny. Can't lie lol

  • @heathermarie3184
    @heathermarie3184 3 місяці тому

    Is that the case with under 12? I have a 9 year old. In your book, you say that at this age, you can and should set limits and stick to them consistently. Does this mean that we are aren’t going to do the weekly check-in and set boundaries with our children’s involvement until they’re older and in the post contemplation stage?

  • @MiguelOrtiz-j9y
    @MiguelOrtiz-j9y 3 місяці тому

    Women often under view the sacred communion of both roles being a big part of any young minds development

  • @iw9338
    @iw9338 4 місяці тому

    Great thanks very much 😅

  • @Rhuipana
    @Rhuipana 4 місяці тому

    Where do you get the book from Carolyn Rosenthal its hard to find

    • @WhatFreshHellPodcast
      @WhatFreshHellPodcast 3 місяці тому

      We referenced an article she wrote in the Journal of Marriage and Family that can be found here: www.jstor.org/stable/352340

  • @nvincenth
    @nvincenth 4 місяці тому

    Dr. K is legitimately a hero. He is who i strive to be like in life. Great interview!

  • @TouhidkhanTK
    @TouhidkhanTK 4 місяці тому

    Hi, Please check your email.

  • @vioricacasu7649
    @vioricacasu7649 4 місяці тому

    ❤❤❤Thank you!🙏

  • @pamelasnopek1275
    @pamelasnopek1275 5 місяців тому

    I just pulled this podcast up and I am from Scranton!! I have chills!

  • @piotrkowalski9528
    @piotrkowalski9528 5 місяців тому

    Dear parents. Please do not buy smartphones to your kids.

  • @ModiLuvs3
    @ModiLuvs3 5 місяців тому

    😂❤❤

  • @ModiLuvs3
    @ModiLuvs3 5 місяців тому

    Oh my goodness!!!! I'm so excited!!! I found your podcast several months ago and I started from the oldest and I've binged it so much that I finally got to a podcast that said you were on UA-cam!!!! I am so so PUMPED!!! I cannot even tell you both that I have clung to this podcast like a life raft. I have a 4 year old and an almost 2 year old (girl and boy respectively). And WOW!!! The amount of information I have gleaned from your podcast as well as the incredible number of resources! I mean...wow... your podcast should be a number 1 staple in every mother's lives. I'm so glad I get to see you in person! (UA-cam you know). I love love love love your content! ❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @elexisbustin4518
    @elexisbustin4518 5 місяців тому

    I clicked on this video by chance! Im not from Italy but I currently live in the Back Mountains just a few miles from Scranton PA. I came for the books and stayed for the local history! 😂

  • @lsen9015
    @lsen9015 5 місяців тому

    Excellent show

  • @WhatFreshHellPodcast
    @WhatFreshHellPodcast 5 місяців тому

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  • @WhatFreshHellPodcast
    @WhatFreshHellPodcast 5 місяців тому

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  • @WhatFreshHellPodcast
    @WhatFreshHellPodcast 6 місяців тому

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  • @WhatFreshHellPodcast
    @WhatFreshHellPodcast 6 місяців тому

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  • @stevenhickey9453
    @stevenhickey9453 6 місяців тому

    The level of gynocentric delusion is breathtaking

  • @velinabrown2708
    @velinabrown2708 6 місяців тому

    Well said.

  • @WhatFreshHellPodcast
    @WhatFreshHellPodcast 6 місяців тому

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  • @Seodejohn
    @Seodejohn 6 місяців тому

    Hey Ms.Amy and Margaret, I saw the videos on your channel. Your video content is excellent. To grow & increase the view of your channel you need to optimize your videos. Inspite all of your efforts videos are not being viewed. Video SEO Score is very low. The title, Description, and Tags are not SEO-friendly. Videos are not shared on Social Media platforms and many other problems are found on your UA-cam Channel. If your channel is optimized a little and if the videos are SEO friendly then your channel will rank very fast and your channel will grow. So immediately need SEO for your Videos & UA-cam channel. Do you want to improve those problems and grow your UA-cam Channel?

  • @akboyz1
    @akboyz1 6 місяців тому

    Being a mother is the most important job in the world. My job is supporting my wife in that.

  • @lsen9015
    @lsen9015 6 місяців тому

    Such an interesting conversation. Thank you

  • @lsen9015
    @lsen9015 6 місяців тому

    Great episode - popping up in my feed lately. With twins who are polar opposites socially, appreciate the conversation.

  • @jennifermarie8707
    @jennifermarie8707 6 місяців тому

    Women as people? Radical😊

  • @jennifermarie8707
    @jennifermarie8707 6 місяців тому

    👍

  • @jennifermarie8707
    @jennifermarie8707 6 місяців тому

    Good point