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Excellent video!

I'm trying to find ways to reassure myself since I have no one around me that seems to care enough to realise that's what I need.

Thank you for the video. It helped me a lot. I was told i had moderate depression at this clinic where i seek consultation.. But, by God,, the explanation is unhelpful. Its like,, ur in the middle,, and it could go there or here.. IDK.. But ur video is simple and easy.. I hope i get over this soon..

holy moly, truly a life changing video. thanks brother

I’m a vacillator & I never heard this get compared…interesting 👀 Getting abandoned doesn’t bother me as much. I’m most likely to abandoned someone first anyway. But if I do they deserve it because they either don’t respect me or they don’t care about my feelings & say I’m too emotional. They lack emotional intelligence which irritates my soul. So u gotta go & if u dismiss yourself that’s even better at the end of the day. Bye! Everyone deserves a partner who is willing to see your views & why u feel the way u feel. That’s why it’s easy for me to cut a narcissist off. They irritate my soul (eventually) & their comprehension skills when it comes to another persons view point is very low. Easily disposable if u ask me. My patience will eventually run low & I’ll continue with life like we never had any relationship to begin with 🤷🏽‍♀️ whether is romantic or platonic friendship. I still do have high expectations but I’m learning to just stay neutral, wait for the representative to go away & see a person for who they really are & then dismiss them if I need to.

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I know I’m a vacillator, but one that has adapted to much healthier patterns. But it’s really hard for me to think about how I was possibly imprinted this way because my parents were amazing. However, as you were talking I do remember dreading my daycare situation because my mom worked. Maybe that was it? Maybe it’s something really early that I can’t remember. But I always wondered why.

Such great information! Thank you

Thank you for the video. What if the partner of the Vacillator is inconsistent and does not fulfill the needs of the vacillator? Should the Vacillator lay low and let their partner continue to treat them that way? There is a difference between having too high expectations and not being satisfied with the partner's ways of expressing their love. It's confusing. Can a Vacillator ever be satisfied?

Great video, thank you! :)

I love your channel, thank you for this video.😊

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Amazing video. Thank you! I'll save this video. Btw, anyone notice how straight the columns and rows are? They distracted me, so I got to see some parts twice. lol

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i think ive been starting to figure this out on my own ( im 18 ) idolizing relationships is still a big problem for me, to the point ill get mad at my parents for basically not reading my mind and understanding what i want even when i say nothing. I hate how much my opinion on my own relationships (freindships) change moment to moment. once second ill thinking this is a fine relationship nothing special but its good and the next ill be wondering if we were ever freinds and if we were why they never reach out to me ( even tho i never reach out to them either) I hate reaching out to ppl i dont know why but i feel strong sesne of dread ever trying to reach out. I guess thats what i need to figure out next

i'm scared at how this is exactly me... i need therapy

Interesting video, but what does that person look like that is counter to this? Should one Not want the most out of there relationships? Do the best they can in relationships? Show, being committed, all they are, and share dreams and goals with that person? Be driven to provide stability and consistency within your romantic relationships? Or to be a victim of there trauma, and not desire healthy things that will fulfill both? There should be reciprocity within relationships, and you should be able to have a person, in your life that supports, nurture and cares for you too. To be present, and there to deal with their traits, and flaws, as you would also do in kind. It is as if with this, that you are neglecting that someone your involved with be not held accountable, and you because you have a condition, you take it, and lay down, in fear of pushing this person away, thus becoming a door mat, giving the green light to be treated in a way similar to how your parents may have treated you. Then in your adult years, rehashing the dysfunction from your childhood, of neglect and lack of agency to do anything about it, powerless and frozen, a slave to your fault. The right person, will, help you to face challenges, and lend the support you need, the wrong one won’t, so you move on. They don’t build them today to deal with the emotional capacity it takes to sustain long term in relationships, and as Kevin Samuels, said most should buy a dog and die alone. Because the opposite of this ideal forces you to be guarded, distant, non transparent and allusive. Perhaps that’s is our lot in life that deals with this condition.

your videos are very helpful. thank you

This hit so accurately, the video is great to understant the whole look of a vacillator and how they interact with loving parters.

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I have bpd and live in Frisco. I've seen my therapist in Plano for 10 years now and would be interested in trying someone closer to home. Do you do in person therapy?

3:56, this contrast is interesting.

2:29, the font is a little too small to read.

Lol at the fact that I’m a vacillator who was raised by a single mother with BPD💀💀

Are you using the term “Vacillator” as synonymous with Fearful-Avoidant/Disorganized Attachment Style? Or are they somehow different?

What’s with the intermixing bipolar and borderline in the description? You do know its two totally different diagnoses, right?

this video is very helpful thank you, but please no coughing 😅😅😅

Self diagnoses are valid asshole but good points.

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I realized this is a documentary of my life. Thanks for sharing 💜

Your videos have been a huge blessing. Please keep making more! They are short, precise, and helpful. I appreciate so much people of faith reaching into a people group that is prone to rejecting/respecting mental health

So what I'm getting is I was a disappointment to my parents then went on to find a vacillator so I could disappoint him too??

Can you clarify differences between this and bpd ?

Awesome video

This video is great thank you. This has been so helpful and has made so much sense of how I am in relationships and why I hold resentment and have high expectations

You’re awesome. I’d like for you to counsel my son.

I met the perfect girl the other day 🙂 we started sending nudes and gf/bf vibes on the second day. She was exactly like me . I see why we stopped talking .

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This is a great video and you did a great job explaining the typical issues, sources, and motivations of people exhibiting the vacillator imprint and then following up with how to address them. I'm subscribing to your channel :)

Great information!!

Great info!!

Hey. Just so you know, this vid was an ad for a porn site.... anyways have a good day

Huge thanks for this upload! Depression is terrible but we can fight it!

Wow that makes so much sense about the addiction being more prone to younger people