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Marilyn VanDerbur
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Miss America By Day Documentary
Marilyn Van Derbur Atler had a fairytale life. She appeared to have it all--from a prominent family, crowned Miss America, enjoyed a successful television career, sought-after as a motivational speaker, named "Outstanding Woman Speaker in America", married to her high school sweetheart, and raising a beautiful daughter. But at age 53, she revealed a sinister secret of trauma and shame: Marilyn had been a victim of childhood incest at the hands of her father. Her courageous public disclosure changed her life -- from one of celebrity -- to healer of tens of thousands of abuse survivors.
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Miss America By Day Documentary
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Marilyn Van Derbur Atler had a fairytale life. She appeared to have it all from a prominent family, crowned Miss America, enjoyed a successful television career, sought-after as a motivational speaker, named "Outstanding Woman Speaker in America", married to her high school sweetheart, and raising a beautiful daughter. But at age 53, she revealed a sinister secret of trauma and shame: Marilyn h...
Marilyn appearing in commercials and other media events before her disclosure.
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Becoming Miss America requires the winner to appear in multiple media events and offers the opportunity to appear in commercials and other media events. Even Andy Rooney had something to say about Marilyn in a 60 Minutes segment! Read more about Marilyn's work with incest survivors at MissAmericaByDay.com Read her personal diary detailing her first year after public disclosure of being an inces...
Marilyn Van Derbur shares How to Achieve Your Goals and Dreams
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A motivational speech Marilyn gave in her 30's.
Once Can Hurt a Lifetime
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This video addresses sexually inappropriate behavior between children and teens and encourages those who have experienced sexual abuse to seek help and support. Watch more videos by subscribing to Marilyn's channel, or visiting her website at MissAmericaByDay.com Comments have been turned off to protect privacy. If you'd like to contact Marilyn privately, she answers all emails herself. Please ...
HOW TO CHANGE YOUR LIFE - Part Two
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This is an 8 part series where Marilyn shares inspiring stories. Each segment is 30 minutes. Part One Surprises of Failure You Decide Yes You Can Accept and Excel Part Two All Successful People Have it Acquiring Greatness Detour: A Challenge If You Don’t, Who Will? View these and other videos and interviews with Marilyn at MissAmericaByDay.com
The Journey of Recovery
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A DVD of Marilyn’s a more recent presentation. For survivors, it is amazing to see the difference in her presence and message from her first talk, “A Story of Hope” For more videos and information on Marilyn, please visit her website at MissAmericaByDay.com where you can purchase her book containing the full story of her survival and information to help supporters understand the survivor. Comme...
CHANGE YOUR LIFE - Part One
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This is an 8 part series where Marilyn shares inspiring stories. Each segment is 30 minutes. Part One Surprises of Failure You Decide Yes You Can Accept and Excel Part Two All Successful People Have it Acquiring Greatness Detour: A Challenge If You Don’t, Who Will? View these and other videos and interviews with Marilyn at MissAmericaByDay.com You can view more videos and purchase Marilyn's boo...
Marilyn Van Derbur's one minute motivational segments.
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Marilyn Van Derbur's one minute motivational segments.
Great Colorado Women - Marilyn Van Derbur Atler
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Great Colorado Women - Marilyn Van Derbur Atler
Snippets of Marilyn's early TV life
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Snippets of Marilyn's early TV life
'Me Too' movement recalls echoes of Marilyn Van Derbur-Atler's story
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'Me Too' movement recalls echoes of Marilyn Van Derbur-Atler's story
Marilyn Van Derbur addresses healing from trauma
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Marilyn Van Derbur addresses healing from trauma
Interview with Marilyn VanDerbur (Long Version)
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Interview with Marilyn VanDerbur (Long Version)
Interview with Marilyn VanDerbur (Short Version)
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Interview with Marilyn VanDerbur (Short Version)
that is my great grandmas sister. My great grandma is Nancy Knowlton, my grandma is Kimberly, and my mom is Kari Freund. i never got to meet her but i was told she was so sweet
You really are an Angel! ❤ Bless you!
Her dad probably made her leave for the summers for control
What an amazing person…I could listen to her speak every single day. Such honest wisdom.
Larry is the dad and husband our America needs. The Lord sent him to her for a reason.
God Bless You, Marilyn❣️You are a beautiful lady with a story that brought tears to me as I feel your heart & soul. My regards to your loving husband & O’hana❣️Thank you for sharing with all of us❣️You MATTER❣️ As the 🌎 turns❣️There are rainbows 🌈 🌈🌈❣️
Thank you, Marilyn. You’ve helped me more than you will ever know.❤
‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️THE MOST BEAUTIFUL PAINFUL INSPIRATIONAL TALK/REVELATIONAL STORY ♥️♥️♥️♥️ May all the pain sexual assault victims incur because of predators, be transformed into change for humanity ♥️♥️‼️‼️
‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️THE MOST BEAUTIFUL PAINFUL INSPIRATIONAL TALK/REVELATIONAL STORY ♥️♥️♥️♥️ May all the pain sexual assault victims incur because of predators, be transformed into change for humanity ♥️♥️‼️‼️
‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️THE MOST BEAUTIFUL PAINFUL INSPIRATIONAL TALK/REVELATIONAL STORY ♥️♥️♥️♥️ May all the pain sexual assault victims incur, because of predators, be transformed into change for humanity ♥️♥️‼️‼️
Thank you, Marilyn.
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This should be available in Spanish too. At least subtitles. My mom just asked if there is in Spanish because I told her your story and she was interested. The first thing she said "how beautiful lady she is, and her voice"
A REMARKABLE WOMAN !👍👍👍👍💙💙💙💙
What an amazing, courageous, and beautiful woman inside and out. She’s truly an inspiration, she has helped so many survivors find their voice and given them the courage they need to begin their journey towards healing.
I remember watching this many years ago, and it still hits me as hard. You are one brave woman Marilyn, and I thank you for speaking up for so many, that don’t have a way to voice their abuse. Lots of love from Australia♥️❤️♥️
I have her book. It's very meaningful to me.
I’m an EMDR trauma healing therapist, and my amazing, strong, resilient clients so appreciate your sharing, as I often share your very beautiful, very painful, very appreciated narrative 😢, and they are re-empowered! Because of you!!!
@@harrietthespy2119 I was raped in 2003 and never sought counseling. I've often wondered how I'd react to him if I ever saw him again. He's a tier 2 sex offender and served 4 years. Anyway, last week I printed off a pic of him from his Facebook account and have it in my apartment. I thought it might make me feel brave and it's my way of facing my trauma. It was my own idea. What do you think.
I grew up not far from Miss Van Derbur. I had no idea that anyone else in the world was experiencing the horror nightly like I was. Not only going through it, but survived. I wanted to destroy myself. I still do. I've had therapy, I still want to make myself ugly so no one will try again, and in the end destroy whatever it was that attracted my abuser. Prayers for us survivors.
I hope you will find peace within yourself, and get to heal your inner child. My thoughts are with you, and you are not alone ❤️🩹
YOUUUUUU are an EARTH ANGEL, BEAUTIFULL and BELOVED, MARILYN.....ETERNAL GRATITUDE 🙏🏾💚😇🙏🏻💯‼️‼️‼️
I'm glad the story continues to be told.
So brave Marilyn. Youve helped so many. God bless you
Everyone owes a debt of gratitude to Marilyn VanDerbur for her courage and persistence. Humanity must honestly face the scourge of child sexual abuse if it is to make any progress.
My little antedote is a bit amusing I guess, but I've never forgotten the hurt and shame I felt ... Married for 6 years and determined to be the best wife ever.. my mom had married 3 times, each time we got a new dad the house rules changed, different school, church and search for friends. I will never get a divorce I said. There was a belly dancing class at the YMCA, I signed up, wanting to impress my husband. Made my own costume with all the sequins and little bells. Learned how to roll my hips and belly trying to appear seductive..lol I bought a Little Egypt album and planned the surprise for my husband ! I started the music, got dressed in my scarves and tinkling jewelry , and swayed my way into the living room where my husband was sitting in his red-neck orthopedic device ( recliner ) His response ? He didn't just laugh, he guffawed...on and on. He thought it was hilarious, I was mortified. ( divorced him 15 years later..had enough ) 🌷
I love you ❤ can I meet you? Going through hell in my life 😢
She's 87 years old now.
❤ love you Marilyn! I’m halfway through your book. You are Godsent to so many
She is amazing! I am going to make my commitment to sewing the BoHo handbag that I have been thinking about and collecting the materials for. The commitment is now. Thank you lovely lady!!!
I can't think of a positive quality this angel woman does not have! Even the physical beauty was given to her. Love you Marylin💖
RIP to your sister Ms. Gwen VanDerbur Mitchell who passed last September 2022. Her corroboration of your truth was most important. God bless you and your family Ms. Atler💞
This woman is such a brave warrior. Nevertheless, seeing Walt Disney as a thumb nail nade me cringe...he has been associated with much childhood trauma with the Mickey Mouse Club and Hollywood. The Disney Corp is very corrupt.
Curious if Marilyn Van Derbur abandoned her father when she accepted what had been done against her
You can read a little about it here: mkculture.blogspot.com/2009/07/ She said that she confronted him at age 40 and they never spoke of it again. By age 47, she was struggling a lot and that is when her father passed away. It sounds like she hadn't abandoned him but there was a little distance right before he died.
I ❤ Marilyn
It bothers me that her piece of shit father and mother had no consequences. Fu$#&ng bastards.
I always love the stories where the counselors said "You'll never do it" And then they do. "You're dreaming!".
Michaelangelo Was Gross too. I mean the think about it. Jeezum.Crow Freaking Weirdo. Yes. His father was a.... 33° FREAKMASON! Old Neil Armstrong. Put your hand.on the Bible with Neil, Buuzzy Don't go all Clockwork Orangey On us bro"
Creepy as F-
What's your problem? Consider the time this video was recorded and the fact that she comes from the baby boomer generation. Her talk seems normal to me.
You are the creepy one
On a sacrilegious errand.
WTH? Explain!! Who are You?
Maureen Obrien is a troll.
"33" Days! Gematria.
Ayn Rand was gross. Rothschild Ho.
she is incredible, her tenacity reminds of me of my grandma
Having learned of the Adverse Childhood Experiences Study in 2010, I have dedicated my life to the pursuit of healing without re-traumatized. Thank you for being one of the of the courageous people to shine a light into your own painful past. I admire you so much, and thank you for living your phenomenal life.
I ❤ you Marilyn ❤
This woman is amazing💜
Yes, I can!
I saw a documentary about your story today. As it has been with many others, I can relate to it. My story differs in that I was neglected and malnourished as a child. As a result, my body was run down and very thin from about three years of age. When I was 6, I had tonsillitis, chicken pox, strep and measles. Because of the malnutrition, I also had a mini stroke. This paralyzed one of my vocal cords and create a partial blockage in my airway. The story gets more complicated from here-but I realized from your experience with your mother that no one was for me. No one had my back. I lived in shame. Today, I am handicapped. I didn’t succeed in anything in life. Thank you for sharing your story. It helped me feel connected just a little.
Dearest Marilyn, There simply are no words to describe the rage that engulfs me when I think of what you and so many people have gone through. The anger overwhelmes me....
She is an amazingly strong and resilient Woman💛
I just had this revelation recently at 64 yrs old. When i was young my mom told me don’t get involved in anything unless you know you can win. Since I didn’t have confidence i stopped trying. Fortunately some teachers encouraged me to do things because they believed i could. I did excel beyond my lack of self esteem because i held on to a quote from Les Brown (motivational speaker & author) which was “if you can’t believe in yourself, believe in someone who believes in you!” This has been a Godsend! It kept me going but most of the time when big opportunities came my way i just couldn’t breakthru the thoughts i had of myself. I was offered a book deal on something i was working on - i was scared but jumped in it. Then a bunch of major obstacles all came at the same time. I gave up the house I worked so hard for bcz my abusive alcoholic husband said he would give me custody of our son who is autistic & he had began hitting him & threatening to break his hands. I didn’t blink an eye & said yes. Despite losing so much money & ending up in a shoe box, it was worth it to keep my son safe. Other things happened too & also ended up in the hospital for 3 weeks with covid fighting for my life. I have long covid now for 2 years which has also given me covid brain & I struggle with major cognitive functions. I cried cause I couldn’t write. I tried not to think about it, i contemplated just letting that dream go. After several meds etc. i can write a text like this but it takes me forever. I hope it makes sense & sorry for the lengthiness as editing is super hard. The things i write about has helped many & so i try & decided if it takes me forever, so be It. Word by word, sentence by sentence, & probably a whole lot of editing so it makes sense, i will keep trying. I realized that i may not be a natural writer but the message is important so i will find a way. And medically i will keep trying to find a way to recover. Your video is so on point & sheds light on how others were able to breakthru. And it doesn’t have to be a natural ability! Despite a number of things i also went thru as a kid... i survived a lot!!! And kept trying. Despite the down days, you have given me inspiration to fight another day. Thank you for your brave story on another video of yours & this one!!!! And even though I discovered the concept of this video myself just recently, i believe in you bcz you believe in US! Thank you so much Marilyn for making such a huge difference in our world! Much love to you & your husband & daughter (& family)! 💜🙏✨✨
Well stated. 💞
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Thank you for the inspiration. I’m a wheelchair user with Cerebral Palsy & most days I feel like giving up due to physical & mental exhaustion, but your words have made me think. God Bless You.