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Gio Valiante
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Overprotection is not kindness; it is disrespectful.
Overprotection is not kindness; it is patronizing and disrespectful (Maslow). A way of saying “You are not strong. You are not capable of solving life’s problems.” It robs people of learning to trust themselves and their own judgement. What emerges is a fragility that makes life’s [inevitable] difficulties unbearable.
Self-Belief and Resilience are the psychological shields in life. They only form through encountering, engaging, grappling with & overcoming obstacles.
Self-Belief and Resilience are the psychological shields in life. They only form through encountering, engaging, grappling with & overcoming obstacles.
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"Confidence matters for athletes and Portfolio Mangers alike." - Dr. Gio on @RealVision
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"A person who doubts himself is like a man who would enlist in the ranks of his enemies and bear arms against himself. He makes his failure certain by himself being the first person to be convinced of it." - Alexander Dumas, The Three Musketeers
Dr. Gio Valiante on Real Vision - "Trust the Process."
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Performance Psychologist Dr. Gio Valiante discusses how he coaches athletes and investors to excellence.
Dr. Gio Valiante named "Sport Psychologist of the Year" by The Golf Channel
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Guru of the Year
Maddie and Christian laughing March 25 2016
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Maddie and Christian laughing March 25 2016
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Justin Rose acknowledges his work with Dr. Gio Valiante in 2010 Memorial Win
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Justin Rose acknowledges his work with Dr. Gio Valiante in 2010 Memorial Win
Dr Gio Valiante on Good Morning America (March 31 2010)
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Dr Gio Valiante on Good Morning America (March 31 2010)
Dr Gio Valiante on ESPN (Feb 19 2010)
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Dr Gio Valiante on ESPN (Feb 19 2010)
The Mental Game of Matt Kuchar interviewed by Dr. Gio Valiante of Fearless Golf
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The Mental Game of Matt Kuchar interviewed by Dr. Gio Valiante of Fearless Golf
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its easier to give a reward. period. the people that dont want to relinquish that are the ones in power. I am interested in this concept and will continue to read up on it. he is very interesting
Society which includes every institution is geared towards rewarding and therefore we get bored people doing boring jobs. Passion is lost.
wow even back in the day there are too much commercial break
You are sooo right Mr. Kohn...!
I have one problem, why was this so short with plenty of interruptions? Is that how Oprah's show is structured? I was hoping for more time on the block for him to get the information to sink in. Some of the ladies were really willing to learn.
What was he thinking when he tried to stiff his Mexican caddy? That is what i's like see in an interview on his brainworks.
so the kid that wasn't paid for being tested were basically used as child labor or you can as say slave labor is not a reward if you work for it, So should I stop rewarding my worker with cash for their work?
not exactly. Alfie Kohn writes about this in his book. Money is more special because we all need it to live in this society. There is evidence showing that people will also be demotivated if they get paid to little to have a good life. However, using cash as an incentive above a certain point, will work just as any other incentive on your motivation. Yes, if I pay you 40.000$ per day, you will be happy about all the money you have, but it will not make you love an activity that you hate. You will do it (bribe) but still hate it regardless.
If you can't bride your children you'll have to learn how to slow down, feel, reflect with increasing nuance and reciprocally engage with your child! How novel! How sad!
lot's of karens in the audience - poor alfie is battling a losing fight
The Karen stereotype is prejudice towards white women.
lol I had the same thought
the ”establishment” represented in the audience by those 2 ladies are in a difficult situation. They know deep inside that the actual school system is killing the joy and passion out of the children.. and she/they think like ”how can i renounce at rewards (and grades), there it will be no more learning, i have to manipulate them, i have to force them to learn what the program says”....”i have to maintain my job, etc ”. Watch Ken Robinson to further understand how school kills creativity and passion with laser precision, almost no one escapes.
I love it
My Granddaughters and we have custody of them. They go to a school that uses rewards for good behavior. Most of the time they end up rewarding the bad behavior. I"m looking for a good plan to suggest/implement in an IEP. PBIS will not be used. I will remove them from this school, if I have to.
How many commercial breaks are there in just 12 minutes of programming.
worse then youtube adds aIr
I read 2 Books from alfie Wonderfull Philosophie
Alfie is one of our top progressives that the media ignores. Scary, because the research is dead on.
Everyone: " He crazy" Alfie: "The research says I'm right" ( till he's proven right 20 years later with Millenials and snowflakes and offence culture).... Everyone: " Genius" Alfie: "The research says I'm right"
youre so quirky 😍😍
Those who bitch and moan over snowflakes tend to be snowflakes themselves.
@@Moszan Combat Vet here who's seen action on 3 continents. But yeah keep telling yourself that cupcake
@@gkool4655 Great for you, bud. What does that have to with snowflakes and millennials?
When Oprah says "We all loved those gold stars" I wish Alfie would have responded by illustrating how the fond feelings of nostalgia and happiness were for the gold start and not the thing that the gold stars were supposed to be encouraging.
I fully agree and I regret it is so often used in society as well to manipulate adults in stead of inviting them to take responsability.
What he is saying is very similar to what Marshall Rosenberg says in "Nonviolent Communication". What matter is WHY the child or young person behaves in a particular way. Marshall also says educating children using rewards and punishments teaches them to become factory fodder in peacetime and cannon fodder in wartime.
Rewards can be used to influence behavior long enough to form habits.
Love Alfie kohn, I completely understand and I do not punish or bribe
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99% of what came out of his mouth was of what not to do. Only 1% of the actual technique, and thats not due to Oprah interrupting. He really didn't have much to say on "what to do". I dont think he is full of itsh, just think he hasn't developed his theory completely. On to the next-one....
Solutions weren't presented in his book?
He's brilliant.
This man is beyond the curve, his approach has helped us in many ways that I keep on seeing with my children, as affirmations that this was the only way to go. Thank you so much, so glad I discovered and had the wisdom to read his books!
Love this guy
Oh my god how did this show ever get famous? How did she manage to reduce everything down to shit with a guest like Alfie?
sounds like Red John
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$$$ becomes the ultimate value, everything else: literature, music, science, art, just necessary contingencies to be exploited for more $$$. It's systemic.
Kids know when they are being manipulated be either punishment or reward, they are also smart enough to understand an explanation of real rationale behind attempts at control. Choices and honesty. Autonomy in education. What a concept. Kids are also quite capable of engaging in counter control. A little respect for autonomy in education would be so healing for so many people.
I think Alfie Kohn's theory makes sense because its important to motivate and encourage the child to do the action for the love of it. Its going to be a harder and longer process but its the right way to do it. We can't keep rewarding kids for action. I have tried and my son gets bored. So now I am going to follow Alfie Kohn's method where you encourage the child to do something because in the long run it will help him.
It's not his theory, it's called Self-Determination Theory and its authors are Richard Ryan and Edward Deci.
Alphie Sucks! He is wrong too!
great vid!
Better quality video anywhere?
I just love him.
watch dan pink the surprizing science of motivation, he recognises similar results
That about sums it up for me.
Just curious... does Alfie Kohn have kids?
Not important.this is not about his personal experience but about what research says. But since you ask , he apparently has 2 kids.
+LeviathanSpeaks1469 Alfie has two children.
+LeviathanSpeaks1469 He definitely does now - don't know if he had them when this aired.
While this is interesting, the example with the students does not offer the 3rd option where the students could get the dollars after they completed the puzzles.
There are other studies which prove that it works the same way. Lookup candle experiment.
Will do! :)
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Ayyy shouts out to Mr. Gorski
I have him right now.
YES! I have been waiting fo this day to come lol
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Thanks for putting this up Gio! My VHS was getting old...
I didn't get rewards, it was "Do this or you'll get a spanking." It was pretty effective to be honest.
It's effective on you.
I think it's plausible that Texas teacher is confused by the reward system because it's possible some kids may have actually figured out they like to read once the program got underway, but that's not what Kohn is arguing. She kept shaking her head like "nope. nooope".
Well and what most people also forget. The science shows that most kids tend to be demotivated by rewards. Some kids who may be intrinsically motivated by something in the book already dont have their intrinsic motivation compromised by a reward. This is what most people seem to struggle with. Not EVERYONE loses motivation by rewards and ususally not for EVERY activity. But the majorit of people do, a significant majority. This is why rewards are not a good method. In total, they dont work.
Truly insightful. Its been years since these discoveries have been made. Its time we started to apply these findings into our everyday life & witness the positive results :-)
Yes, sorry about that. I'm afraid there are larger forces at play.
Something to note, Alfie isn't just giving his personal opinions and theories he's presenting what the research is showing
Eric Fortune Exactly!!
Eric nailed it. And I'd like to add: most of the audience does not have an appreciation for research findings. I wish so bad he could have had 30 seconds (somewhere in between all those "we'll be right back" breaks) to explain how powerful research findings really are. "We have done this over and over with thousands of kids/adults and we find the same thing...this is a fact, not an opinion. Kids ACTUALLY perform/feel worse in the end when they do things for rewards. Under strict, carefully created experimental settings...."
@@EnglishWithMrBaker He does say, "In psychology, this has been shown over and over again". So he implies that these results are from research studies, even though he does not explicitly say so.
He confuses the term positive reinforcement. It's obvious that if you give a child money it will stop interest in the task. He received a reward for doing nothing and lost interest in the incentive to solve the problem \ Puzzle But people are getting positive reinforcement not only by people but also by the world itself \ solving promlems
The difficulty I see is if the positive reinforcements become predictable and it starts becoming the goal itself. It's great to be acknowledged or finding a (re)solution to a problem - because it helps building self-confidence as well - but again, it's very important that it shouldn't be the goal. Learning is a lifelong process and it's going to take a lot of motivation to keep going. Curiosity can so easily be over-written by greed (or other selfish behavior) if you're not careful, and I think the lost human potential today is outright sad.
Muskar you missunderstood me. sorry about that
I see that the clouding problem with this experiment is that the kids were paid before completing the puzzle. However, most parents who reward good grades don't give their kids the bribe until after they have met the goal (i.e. good grades, or completing the puzzle).
Exactly.