James A Parker
James A Parker
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Becoming a Non-drinker and Losing Your Identity
Being a drinker was a big part of my identity. This is how I’m dealing with it since becoming a non-drinker.
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Відео

Boredom Without Alcohol
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One of the issues I faced was the boring mundane days of being sober. I’m still feeling it sometimes but it’s nowhere near as bad as it was at the start. #boredom without alcohol
How I Dealt With the Sleepless Nights After Quitting Alcohol
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Dealing with not being about to sleep is very common in the first stages of quitting alcohol. These are some things that helped me
The Importance of Hobbies
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I talk about how finding a hobby is an important step in quitting alcohol. For me gaming is one aspect that helped me.
Freedom From Alcohol - 2 Months In
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This is my very first video of the channel. I have been a very heavy drinker for a long time and I’ve finally kicked the habit. I’m using this channel as a way to keep me on track and to help others that might need it!

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  • @mikecarpenter3819
    @mikecarpenter3819 6 днів тому

    Thanks, this is what I was looking for..

  • @thelmaidem2323
    @thelmaidem2323 Місяць тому

    I quit for over 3 weeks, and i developed horrible insomnia. It never got good. I could literally be awake all through the night....wouldn't get even 10mins sleep 😢 Unfortunately, i started drinking again to help me sleep. Now, my sleep patterns are just horrible. I'm currently taking magnesium glycinate, citrate, melatonin 10mg, etc. but there's little or no change. I really want to quit alcohol for good, but the withdrawals messes me up. My major reason for quitting is to improve my sleep, but it makes it worse plus digestive issues....arghhhh😢

  • @dorisnumper6996
    @dorisnumper6996 3 місяці тому

    This is terrible. I’m sorry but this is worse than crack. This is worse than all of the effects of ketamine combined on a drip for 6 weeks ! Completely wide awake eyes wide open for 4 days so far. heart rhythm seems messed up or I’m just extremely paranoid, it was like just waking up in a different world, the weird thing about it is how ok I feel still, how this drug inhibits your nervous system ( including how you see reality ) should be more than enough to make it illegal to drink. It works great for cleaning sure , but cannabis never did this, smoking 94% thc diamonds daily for 3 years and then quitting instantly deffo doesn’t do this ( been clean for 6 years and just drink every few days, big big mistake, also I’ve only drank for this past year ! This is worse than when I quit crack, way worse than when I quit ketamine, wow. I really wasn’t expecting this !. Also if I try to use cannabis to sleep rather than sleep, it made me freak the f out with paranoia , also my digestive system seems to have stopped in its tracks and I literally couldn’t eat for the past 3 days. No hunger at all ! I finally ate something after having a single can of cider but after maybe 4 hours it’s back to this ! Didn’t drink anywhere near as much as I was today and it shows lol, it’s been 7 days since I quit. Man this is terrible, by the looks of it sleeping tablets might be the only way for this one which I thought I’d never say !.

  • @mayamobile3606
    @mayamobile3606 3 місяці тому

    I drank for around 15years now i quit but cant sleep its been 5days without sleep i can wait until my brain recover but without sleep, any effect on other organs or heart reply me pls

  • @terencehill3972
    @terencehill3972 5 місяців тому

    That's exactly what Dale Carnegie in "How to Stop Worrying and Start Living" (1948) said. If you can't sleep, just f*ck it. Don't try to sleep. Use the time as you can. You'll be fine the next day. Eventually, you'll get tired.

  • @jonmueller2117
    @jonmueller2117 6 місяців тому

    Any reason to quit drinking is a great reason. I quit for my health.

  • @freddyw4555
    @freddyw4555 6 місяців тому

    I sleep better without alcohol

  • @Plan-C
    @Plan-C 7 місяців тому

    The insomnia was the REASON I stopped drinking. It was Hell. People didn't believe me that I was laying in bed for 8 hours. Wired. Totally awake but knackered. As soon as my head hit the pillow, my mind started to RACE! Stupid things. Blown out of ALL proportion. Clock watching. 6 hours left, 5 hours, 4...3..2..may as well get up! Then getting up. The anxiety of knowing I would go to bed and not sleep and have to go through the next day was crippling! It was horrendous! I was popping Nytol (which wreck your kidneys incidentally) so often that they stopped working. RESTLESS LEGS! OMFG! Laying in bed doing leg exercises to make the RLS go away. Utterly RIDICULOUS! Horrendous! It got better after about 2 weeks for me. 3 weeks later mostly normal.130 days in now and sleeping like log now. My insomnia was ALL DOWN TO ALCOHOL. Sleep is my new drug of choice. No intention of going back to that absolute insanity.

    • @unixjpn
      @unixjpn 2 місяці тому

      sound horrific and also sounds like you quit drinking cold turkey. Anyways congrats on the best thing you can do for yourself. Im relying on this poison to get sleep too and came to realized im an alcoholic because i cant sleep without it. Cheers!

  • @Nemo71340
    @Nemo71340 8 місяців тому

    It took about 6 weeks for my sleep to go back to normal. I was sweating like crazy every night and having extremely vivid dreams.

    • @unixjpn
      @unixjpn 2 місяці тому

      Did you go cold turkey route or with a detox center with medical doctors?

    • @Nemo71340
      @Nemo71340 2 місяці тому

      @@unixjpn Cold Turkey but Tapered with beer for the withdrawal for the first 2-3 weeks. I have done detox before though. When I finally quit, I had no health insurance.

  • @Lone_Star86
    @Lone_Star86 8 місяців тому

    Glass of cold milk or antihistamine, sleep tea, ginger tea, breathing meditation in bed, just some of the things that worked for me in the first week of hell. It is what it is, you put poison in your body so accept the consequences of drinking that shit. Ride it out because it does get better and never touch the shit again.

  • @RaidenSwimsBetterThanSnake
    @RaidenSwimsBetterThanSnake 10 місяців тому

    What’s your gaming channel? I wanna see a video of your collection! That shelf next to you is awesome!

  • @dejesus150
    @dejesus150 11 місяців тому

    I'm going through it. I am having insomnia and haven't slept well in a few days now. I am going crazy, have high anxiety, and am a little paranoid. I have been a heavy drinker for 7 years but I think im finally ready to give it up for good as I'm barley 27 and should not be having these issues.

  • @eriknielsen2134
    @eriknielsen2134 Рік тому

    Took me 6 months to sleep. I could lay on bed for 8 hours. Wouldnt even get tired

  • @jezzdavis9059
    @jezzdavis9059 Рік тому

    Itching, itching batching, circa 8>10 weeks. Antihistamine can help. It's actually a good sign, your nervous system beginning to repair itself.

  • @boxingmonkey8621
    @boxingmonkey8621 Рік тому

    Worst possible advice DONT Ride it out mate Put the bedsheets in the wash If you have a decent GP get diazepam Cold showers Back to bed hot showers Watch Trainspotting Change your doctor For F**k sake Walk Fresh air Sunlight Do NOT watch video games and sit indoors

  • @joshgreer3527
    @joshgreer3527 Рік тому

    I never really drank at bars didn't really drink with friends after 21 everyone was working all the time i really don't know why I still drink after stopping every few weeks other than I don't sleep good

  • @joshgreer3527
    @joshgreer3527 Рік тому

    If I drink much of anything I won't sleep for a few days usually why I relapse

    • @JamesAParker
      @JamesAParker Рік тому

      Yeah that was my main reason for relapse too. Although the more i relapsed the easier it got for me to try again, last time I relapsed was 2 years ago so.

  • @mamaledosholm7011
    @mamaledosholm7011 Рік тому

    After drinking moderately it took me after I stopped 4 month before I slept very good.

  • @gregcooks9
    @gregcooks9 Рік тому

    Must have been laundry day

  • @norbu4719
    @norbu4719 Рік тому

    Day 2 and not a sleep. Going crazy.. Hardcore Drinker and never been rehabilitated.. Eyes swollen and red..

  • @alanmay2837
    @alanmay2837 Рік тому

    So what sleeping pill?

    • @JamesAParker
      @JamesAParker Рік тому

      I’m sorry I can’t remember what it was.

    • @legs_11.82
      @legs_11.82 Рік тому

      Diazepam would be my guess.

    • @adabsurdum3314
      @adabsurdum3314 8 місяців тому

      Try zopiclone but beware of getting hooked on them...worst comedown of my life. Diazapam, mirtazapine (anti depressant knocks you right out) I'm not sure but magnesium might help.

  • @HanasDad
    @HanasDad Рік тому

    Good video and thank you. Other alcohol detox advice gloss over how alcohol detox destroys you ability to get a good nights sleep. It was so helpful to hear your experiences (I found your video during my 24-hour mark). Like others have said, after I quit drinking Cold Turkey I was surprised to find myself going through withdrawal. The first 6 days were hell because I couldn't get restful sleep. I would sleep for a few minutes and wake up with a jolt. When I was able to stay asleep (at most for 1 hour) I would have horrible "Technicolor" nightmares. Your advice about trying to stay awake all night was something I tried a couple of times. Sleeping pills had NO effect at all for me. My only option was to suffer through it one day at a time until I eventually was able to sleep normally again. I never was tempted to start drinking again because I don't want to go through alcohol detox again

    • @JamesAParker
      @JamesAParker Рік тому

      Thanks, you’re welcome! Yes the jolt after sleeping for a couple a minutes is so horrible. I was like well I need alcohol it’s my medicine.

  • @JackTheRipper-nw6wk
    @JackTheRipper-nw6wk Рік тому

    How are things going today? I like your style of videos. Hope you come back.

    • @JamesAParker
      @JamesAParker Рік тому

      Things are going well! I did have a couple of relapses but I haven’t had a drink in 2 years now. Thanks I appreciate it.. was thinking of coming back soon.

  • @king23frye
    @king23frye Рік тому

    Thanks I appreciate this video 🙏🏽

  • @VicDamoneJr82
    @VicDamoneJr82 Рік тому

    Has ashwaganda helped ?

    • @Robylazarus
      @Robylazarus 9 місяців тому

      Mixed reaction here, at times it has has helped, while at other times it seems just a Placebo....

    • @VicDamoneJr82
      @VicDamoneJr82 9 місяців тому

      @@Robylazarus i mix it with my celery drink when i wake up at 3 am if im drinking alcohol it helps me sleep

  • @joshhirth8933
    @joshhirth8933 Рік тому

    I’m on day 25 and have had trouble sleeping since day 11

  • @yamidgaray9074
    @yamidgaray9074 Рік тому

    Thanks for sharing

  • @kidvloggeralfonso6064
    @kidvloggeralfonso6064 Рік тому

    Man U really do be helping me I wish u still made videos and I hope u are still sobar 🙏🙏🙏

  • @devonjacobs3639
    @devonjacobs3639 Рік тому

    I wish I never started. Coming down after a 5 day bender, I’d black out and wake up and start drinking again for right away. Pretty upset w myself bc I have a family whom I live and my wife isn’t impressed obviously. But, I’m happy to be seeking help after a hospital trip. Hope I can sleep decent tn bc I either jolt awake or I have these awful “night terror” like things where I snap awake and i freak out for a few mins. Have a good day everyone and stay strong bc it’s much better not to pick up a drink and feel these horrible effects after ❤ Edit: I have Gabapentin for withdrawal symptoms and have been using it for sleeping lately even tho I would continue drinking. But when I went to the hospital they gave me diazepam

  • @stavrosmoschos3342
    @stavrosmoschos3342 Рік тому

    5th day without sleep. I mean, I'm able to fall asleep but I always wake up randomly in the middle of the night and I can't get back to sleep afterwards. However, I totally get what you're saying and it's actually very helpful in order to process the whole thing mentally! 4 hours of alcohol free sleep is the equivalent of 10 hours of passing out while being drunk. Thanks for the advice mate 🤝

    • @devonjacobs3639
      @devonjacobs3639 Рік тому

      Damn man that’s awful. I have one day under my belt and trying to ease into sleep w Gabapentin and I ended up going to the hospital all night bc of an anxiety attack. Stay safe and know that you’re not alone

  • @CalebBlock
    @CalebBlock 2 роки тому

    Alcohol is great to knock you unconscious but you're not really getting any quality sleep... I almost always would wake back up at 3 am once it had worn off. First fully sober night of sleep tonight so wish me luck

  • @topsyturvyy4558
    @topsyturvyy4558 2 роки тому

    To sleep well you need to consult a specialist that will surely prescribe or administer in his office or in a hospital the proper medication to normalize the function of the nervous system. You can also take some herbal medicines to get good sleep while in recuperation from alcoholism.

  • @washroomezz6613
    @washroomezz6613 2 роки тому

    Ive had insomnia since i was a little kid. Ive suffered a lot of trauma in my life and was sober for most of youth life. Im 22 and ive suffered alcoholism for 3 years, im a daily drinker. Every time i sleep when im sober or without other substances, i have very vivid nightmares. Ive had psychiatrists prescribe sleeping pills and they either dont work (i fight my sleep too which i dont necessarily try to) or make me feel groggy and like shit when i wake up in the morning. Idk what to do. Just a little rant off my chest.

  • @m.douglas5406
    @m.douglas5406 2 роки тому

    Experiencing this with opiate withdrawal. I’m on day five and still haven’t slept. I used for about five months and was addicted. I quit cold turkey five days ago. For the first time yesterday, on the fifth day, I felt amazing, more like myself. But still did not sleep last night. I sure do hope it does get better at 7 and 10 day mark as you mentioned.

    • @dejesus150
      @dejesus150 11 місяців тому

      How is it going brother.

  • @jeffferguson69
    @jeffferguson69 2 роки тому

    Day 4 and can’t sleep like at all but for some reason I feel good and tons of energy all day

    • @JamesAParker
      @JamesAParker 2 роки тому

      Yeah it’s crazy how much energy you have after quitting. How’s your sleep going now?

    • @captainofmysoul6162
      @captainofmysoul6162 2 роки тому

      @@JamesAParker what sleeping tablets. Thanks in advance.

  • @Guratza
    @Guratza 2 роки тому

    Awesome game collection

  • @raymondtavener9797
    @raymondtavener9797 2 роки тому

    2nd day in and I’m literally going mad. Glad to try and knock it on the head at 22 though I have been drinking every day for 4 years + not a good thing at all.

    • @senor9786
      @senor9786 2 роки тому

      I wish and hope your well

    • @JamesAParker
      @JamesAParker 2 роки тому

      How have you been going with it? Even after 3 years i have mad cravings

    • @raymondtavener9797
      @raymondtavener9797 2 роки тому

      @@JamesAParker yeah nah it didn’t last lmao, but I have been drinking less, a few days out of the month I won’t even drink at all. But most days it’s a couple of beers or whisky or half a bottle of red wine.

    • @captainofmysoul6162
      @captainofmysoul6162 2 роки тому

      @@raymondtavener9797 check out fit recovery on you t u be with Matt Finch and Chris Scott

    • @SquilliusSigmaximus
      @SquilliusSigmaximus Рік тому

      @@raymondtavener9797 No turning back now, you’ll never enjoy it again now that you put the sober bug in your brain Lol

  • @OptionsForSale
    @OptionsForSale 2 роки тому

    I've been awake for 36+ hours. My brain is fried and I still can't sleep. Smh.

    • @enochjesus6169
      @enochjesus6169 2 роки тому

      Bro I've gone about a week without sleep and was that a trip. This can spiritually harm and drain you. I suppose it is somewhat common but be careful especially if your a Christian. Eventually it will pass my friend stay strong eat healthy.

    • @naveendhillon5250
      @naveendhillon5250 Місяць тому

      same 68 hours:- india😮😢😢

  • @fur10usal50
    @fur10usal50 2 роки тому

    I honestly was in denial I have a drinking problem. Taking a day off drinking here and there I started noticing on the days off I could not sleep for shit. Never really connected the two probably because it was an excuse to keep drinking before bed. Last night was another day off and I’m finally coming to terms that I have an addiction. I really want to confront this thing head on but I love sleeping lol! Think it’s time that I stop running from this problem I have. Good luck to everyone on their battle with the bottle, and getting a normal nights sleep again. We can do this guys! Stay strong!

    • @JamesAParker
      @JamesAParker 2 роки тому

      How’s your battle been going? I made this video over 3 years ago! and I’m still sober. I didn’t think I could ever do it but here I am.

    • @Pre_Vee_et
      @Pre_Vee_et 2 роки тому

      I am where this guy (was 3 months ago) I don’t party, I don’t go to bars, but I have always been a quiet private drinker. With a wife and two kids, it has slowly caused too many issues as it gives me a temper when I have drank. It’s difficult for me to assess my problem because I never miss a day of work, I don’t get sloppy drunk, and I can/have gone days without drinking. I am reluctant (or at least my excuse) is because of lack of sleep. I need to watch your video on dealing with cravings honestly.

    • @fur10usal50
      @fur10usal50 2 роки тому

      @@JamesAParker I stopped but unfortunately relapsed. I’ve been dealing with a lot of financial stress and it’s sadly still a coping mechanism…I know I have to stop and think once I get my issues sorted it’ll be easier to stop. If you’re reading this and see yourself drinking more than normal do yourself a favor and STOP NOW! Never thought in a million years I’d be battling this but here I am. Alcohol is a thief, and does nothing but steal time from you all the while making you perfectly ok with it. I’ll keep you posted though. I will beat this.

    • @JamesAParker
      @JamesAParker 2 роки тому

      @@fur10usal50 keep us posted it gets easier the more you try. Every time you relapse you are better prepared for the next time you decide to quit. That’s what I found anyway.

    • @fur10usal50
      @fur10usal50 2 роки тому

      @@JamesAParker appreciate the encouragement will do!

  • @justinm1882
    @justinm1882 2 роки тому

    thanks for the vid some help is try to run or walk a hour if you can to wear down it helps some

  • @johnye2210
    @johnye2210 2 роки тому

    Took sleeping pills once after a week of not drinking and for some reason i ended up hallucinating and in the ER. Never took them again. Just go natural

    • @massmuertos7472
      @massmuertos7472 2 роки тому

      I believe that those cheap dollar blue sleeping pills have some shamen spiritual shit going on there

    • @enochjesus6169
      @enochjesus6169 2 роки тому

      I started hallucinating just from going so long without sleep audible and visible hallucinations. Scary stuff man I wasn't on any drugs just went hard for about a week of cheap vodka back to back. Opening those doorways to the spiritual realms man, that's what it felt like.

  • @Alcopone46
    @Alcopone46 2 роки тому

    Your so spot on bro rhis was very helpful from America...

  • @jdsirrom6764
    @jdsirrom6764 2 роки тому

    I don’t even get tired after good workouts! My sleeping pattern is shot after only three weeks of quitting!

  • @heatherofthemountains
    @heatherofthemountains 2 роки тому

    I searched up how to sleep without alcohol and found you. Thank you for your videos. I hope you're doing well. I know I need to quit and your encouragement is really a blessing.

    • @JamesAParker
      @JamesAParker 2 роки тому

      Thank you!! I’m glad you felt encouraged. It’s been 5 months since the comment. How have you been going since?

  • @reginalraymonvil4410
    @reginalraymonvil4410 2 роки тому

    What’s the name of the sleeping tablets?

  • @louisg99
    @louisg99 2 роки тому

    Did you keep on track ?

  • @dang9269
    @dang9269 2 роки тому

    Day 2 without sleep. Not sure why but I have had a few drinks on those nights but it doesn't knock me out like it used too. I feel lost. Probably had an hour or 2 each of those nights. What sleeping tablets did you take? My trouble is the initial falling asleep please help

  • @markhendri8318
    @markhendri8318 4 роки тому

    Getting to the point, we have to change our ways to change our world. For anybody who is not fearful of trying a different plan, probably one of the solutions mentioned in Steffon Barkload's website will make you kick the habit in about an hour or maybe even far less.

  • @braulindisla-elburrodelaba5361
    @braulindisla-elburrodelaba5361 4 роки тому

    I stop drinking. Am on day 4 and i can't sleep all these days

    • @senor9786
      @senor9786 2 роки тому

      I wish and how your well

    • @JamesAParker
      @JamesAParker 2 роки тому

      It’s been 2 years since this comment. How have you been going?

    • @alfonsosierra406
      @alfonsosierra406 2 роки тому

      @@JamesAParker he died

    • @captainofmysoul6162
      @captainofmysoul6162 2 роки тому

      how are you doing now and what did you do? I hope you are doing well.

    • @Drew.Joseph
      @Drew.Joseph 2 роки тому

      ​@@alfonsosierra406 that's not funny

  • @crazystonegamer7593
    @crazystonegamer7593 5 років тому

    Sorry i missed this and idk how i did miss this. But im glad still doing well and have some supportive friends 👍👍 it helps so much having ppl that have your back when your trying to better yourself and break free from an addiction. I'm very happy you have that. I know what you mean about losing your Identity. I was always the guy who would drink everyone under thr table, be the last one awake usually still drinking, the funny happy drunk as well. Basically the life of the party and literally if a friend of mine brought someone they knew to meet me they were warned by them that i would out drink them. So challenge after challenge happened and i was labled the drunk guy to challenge. Now i don't talk to any of them anymore because they turned backs on me because i wasn't the partier anymore. O well i guess they weren't true friends. They just wanted the party guy and not the real me. Thanls for sharing amd sorry so long a response here lol

    • @JamesAParker
      @JamesAParker 5 років тому

      No worries bro no need to be sorry! Yeah people like that aren’t true friends. I was the exact same as you mate! Always last to go to bed drinking hard. It’s amazing you broke your addiction with having friends like that. So proud of you bro!

    • @crazystonegamer7593
      @crazystonegamer7593 5 років тому

      Appreciate that alot👍 was a tough time but i did it!!! Your doing great as well and very happy you are still fighting it!!! You seem to be doing so well and you have the right people in your corner😎