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Lol I'm on the floor laughing. Don't watch then, boomer 🤷🏾‍♀️

The end of my video talks about how Carrie being flawed is the reason we watch her. It’s an analysis based off of my opinions, that’s all. It’s not that serious to make assumptions about my life.

Lies. We would have cheered if she would have had a monumental kick Big to the curve moment . It would have been epic. In the laste 90s early 2000s we were all cheering for the career woman. We all could have used some positive representation

@fireandcurly84 lies? Calm down. Please don’t allow yourself to get upset over a fictional character. Carrie Bradshaw was not the only show on television in the 90’s. She was never supposed to be aspirational. Her problematic behavior was the plot line. If you need to cheer, there are other real world examples available to you. Calm down.

Same here, I always felt that. Glad I'm not alone.

Thank you! I do agree that Carrie fits an irresponsible female archetype more than a pick me girl. Although Carrie wants Big to be with her to a desperate extent, I don’t think she’s an extreme example as to what a pick me girl is. Because like you said pick me’s usually drag women who stand up for themselves and don’t conform to traditional social norms in relationships. Samantha her friend is one of those women. I don’t think she would be friends with her if she was an extreme pick me.

i agree with everything you wrote, well said!

She does have male validation needs. Aidan was in love with her from the get go, and she didn’t feel like she had to «win» him over the same way that Big made her feel.

​@@allie5171Well, he was the one man that she didn't really want that bad so.

She was in love with the IDEA of big, and her life with him. She was addicted to the fantasy.

I once fell in love with a man because of his power and social status (not money, i have my own), it is not always the bad thing, we are still together after 7 years. Carrie's problem was that she couldn't live in peace, she wanted signs, proofs of love, to be the most important person in his life, throwing tantrums when he wasn't around.

Tbf, he had nothing else to offer 😅

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Or smoking cigarettes 😂

You were not alone in that. I however was alone. I was the only one I knew who hated the idea of BIG. I hated the expression 'he was her Mr. Big'. I always thought Big and her were stupid and toxic. I wanted her to be with Aiden but he was no challenge for her

Oh pls. Stupid sht like Big being in Paris while Carrie was in her damsel in distress moment being ‘homeless’ after her fight with the Russian boyfriend and Big coincidentally showed up at the hotel front desk? Oh please? For us real women, we would be out in the cold because all of the hotels would be sold out!

Yeah, I did too. When I saw this when I was 12, I used to think she was so edgy. I used to think like: that must be nice to have a guy that's still pining over you and still visits you every now and then, still gives you gifts and affection. Even though you just went on a date with I don't know how many dudes, single, or someone that you've been dating for a while. And here he is still trying to show you affection and love. That he's doing whatever he can to stay in your life. That he you always be there and that even though you two had something romantic and even though you guys can be together anymore or right, now you'll always be there for each other. Yeah that's so not how their relationship was.

Samantha wasn't a pick me

@@singstreetcar5881And in that era we slut shamed her or called her a commitment phobe

@@singstreetcar5881she gave avoidant attachment to me.

​@@singstreetcar5881Samantha was a very uncommon character at that time. To the point where some people felt it was unrealistic. I agree with Catwoman , you have to see these characters and their flaws in context of its time and environment.

So true..

same

Care to elaborate?

And what WAS life like for GenX women, pray?

Sex and the City came out in the late 90s when GenX women were coming close to or had just passed the age of 30. All of the women are GenX except Samantha I believe. We grew up in a very different time and didn’t have the resources to understanding relationships in the palm of our hands. We also didn’t have the same types of parents as your generation (assuming GenZ or young millenial). This is why I say also that Carrie is a codependent. Not a pick me. A pick me wants to be accepted by everyone. Especially men. A pick me girl often acts like a Tomboy and isn’t nice to other women. Carrie is a silly girl who gets caught up in romance and soulmate tropes. Everything else becomes blurry when this happens to her. Carrie works hard at her female friendships despite her character flaw of being irresponsible and flakey when it comes to Big. I could go on but no time sorry. One last thing I will say about GenX women is that we had to figure out a lot of things by trial and error which led to a lot of mistakes unfortunately. But we learned. Some of us had to go through many years of the types of things Carrie went through. That’s why I’m saying I guess you just had to be there to understand.

Carrie is both a pick me AND codependent.

@@joannejoseph6345 Gen X lady here. For most of the 1980s single women having sex without marriage with multiple partners will still considered somewhat taboo. Remember, the 1980s was all about family values. The nuclear family was put on a pedastal, and what we would call a trad wife today was considered the 1980s gold standard a femininity. Fast forward to the 1990s. The little girls of the 1980s we're now young women. We had contraception, college education, and we're told that gender discrimination was a thing of the past. I'm dead serious, if someone is complained about gender discrimination we were told we were reading into things and not giving people a chance. But that's a different topic I guess. Well, relationship wise and sexually we were still judged on a 1980 standard of what a woman was supposed to be. But we couldn't fit that mold. We wanted to have different boyfriends and different sexual partners because many of us feared we would choose the wrong husband and end up in crappy marriages like our mothers and aunts. And unlike our mothers, many of us had her own apartments and our own money. But we found ourselves being shamed by a standard of womanhood that we never constructed. So when Sex in the City came out it appeared to be a breath of fresh air. Because for the first fime single women were depicted as having different relationships with men, and having sex with different men, without carrying the shame or stigma of being a "bad girl." That was a breakthrough! Honestly, you are so happy not to feel ashamed about having sex, are having different, that we could not have care less about anything else in the show. It was like having lived withThe Scarlet Letter on your chest for your entire life, and then along comes a TV show that says you're beautiful & smart no matter what. Sex in the city was that powerful to that generation of women. Imagine yourself being thirsty for just a few drops of relief and along comes a tall glass of water. Now you can see some specs in the water, maybe you think the class may not have been washed properly. But your mouth has been dry and you've been thirsty for months so you'll take that tall glass of water and gulp it down and ask for another. You see what I'm saying? In the 1990s Carrie was not considered co-dependent. She was viewed as a college-educated woman who was trying to establish a marriage and children before the age of 35 in a world where men did not want to marry. And this reflected the reality of many women in the United States. She wasn't considered desperate or crazy, because we were all desperate and a little crazy to get that ring. To put it in perspective, in the middle of the 1980s there was a "study" that went around. And that study said that a woman over 35 had as much chance of getting kidnapped by a hijacker than finding a husband. And Gen X women grew up hearing this bogus study being repeated to us time and time again. We would hear this bogus study being repeated to us at family gatherings, bars with friends, or even just over here at a restaurant. So we lived on this desperate race to get a ring and kids before 35. As far as Carry putting up with Biggs endless crap, that was a reflection of what many women were doing anyway. Because during the 1990s there were a tremendous amount of self-help relationship books targeted at women. And those books had us believing that if we just twisted ourselves into this or that, or became more understanding, or communicated more, or became distant, or became loving, that the men of our lirves would come to his senses and give us the relationship we wanted. And if we ever became suspicious that the man was not treating us properly, or was cheating on us, or that he didn't have the best intentions....well, ... therapists and self-help books would tell us that we were the ones who had trust issues. Or the therapist will tell us that if we didn't like the relationship we should just cut it off. There was no thought given to the complexity of a woman's emotions and the possibility that the man was being intentionally toxic or manipulative. Relationships were approached as if the man was doing things completely neutral, and that any problems that arose were because the woman had unresolved childhood issues, or she wasn't looking at the relationship in the proper perspective. What made it so difficult for women of Gen X to see that men were being toxic, was that our mother's had dealt with so much worse. So in general, Society looked at us as if we came from a place of privilege. Unlike our mom's, we weren't tied to a stove expected and to sacrifice our desire to travel, or go to college, just to get married and have babies. We can make choices in our lives and we had contraception and the right to abortion. Complaints we made about the men in our lives were quickly shut down my older women saying something to the effect, "At least you don't have to stay home and cook and clean. When I was 22 I got married and got pregnant right away etc, etc...." So Gen X women thought that they were super privileged, and have the right to complain or be dissatisfied with how men were treating us. The term emotional abuse was almost unheard of, Fred's narcissistic abuse will not be coined for another 30 years. So most of us were being emotionally abused or in trauma bonds. But as this was happening we were told we were the privilege generation of women. It was a mass societal gas lighting on us. And when we behaved unstable like anybody who is being gas lit does, we would again be told that the problem was us. So most women just stayed quiet. I realize I wrote an entire book here, but I wanted you to get the full picture. I hope it helps.

@@Yourgoodwitch Thank you, I use CapCut to edit my videos and the images and videos I use are mostly from Pinterest gifs and scene packs on UA-cam.

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