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Oliver JR Cooper
United Kingdom
Приєднався 24 лют 2015
Author of 28 books, transformational writer, teacher, and consultant, Oliver JR Cooper, hails from England. His insightful commentary and analysis cover all aspects of human transformation; including love, partnership, self-love, self-worth, enmeshment, inner child, true self and inner awareness. With over three thousand, eight hundred in-depth articles highlighting human psychology and behaviour, Oliver offers hope along with his sound advice.
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Disclaimer
That which is contained within these videos is based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were created. However, as I continue to grow, what I perceive as the truth will inevitably change and as a result of this - parts of these videos may not reflect my current outlook.
If you appreciate what I do and would like to buy me a coffee, please click here - ko-fi.com/oliverjrcooper
Website - www.oliverjrcooper.co.uk
Email - info@oliverjrcooper.co.uk
Disclaimer
That which is contained within these videos is based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were created. However, as I continue to grow, what I perceive as the truth will inevitably change and as a result of this - parts of these videos may not reflect my current outlook.
Can A Woman Lose Herself In A Mother-Enmeshed Man If She Has Too Much Empathy?
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Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man The ‘Empath’ And His Mother The ‘Narcissist’?
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Has The American Election Result Unlocked Some Peoples Unresolved Trauma?
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Enmeshment: How To No Longer Be Attracted To A Mother-Enmeshed Man (How-To Guide)
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Can Someone Live In Their Head If They Were Abused As A Child?
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Can Someone Reject Themselves If They Experienced Early Deprivation?
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Did A Mother-Enmeshed Man’s Mother Lack Empathy?
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Does A Woman Need To Realise That She Lives In A Mirror If She Ends Up With Mother-Enmeshed Men?
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Can Someone Have A Fear Of Being Seen If They Were An ‘Invisible Child’?
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Can Someone Carry A Lot Of Disgust If They Were Abused As A Child?
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Was A Mother-Enmeshed Mans Father Enmeshed?
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Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Suffer From Depression?
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Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Suffer From Depression?
Why Would A Woman Struggle To Make A Mother-Enmeshed Man Available?
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Why Would A Woman Struggle To Make A Mother-Enmeshed Man Available?
Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Waiting For His Fathers Support?
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Is A Mother-Enmeshed Man Waiting For His Fathers Support?
Did A Mother-Enmeshed Man’s Mother See Him As Her Saviour?
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Did A Mother-Enmeshed Man’s Mother See Him As Her Saviour?
Is A Woman Being Selfish If She Leaves A Mother-Enmeshed Man?
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Is A Woman Being Selfish If She Leaves A Mother-Enmeshed Man?
Can Someone Create An Identity In Order To Meet Their Unmet Developmental Needs?
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Can Someone Create An Identity In Order To Meet Their Unmet Developmental Needs?
Can Someone’s Fears Be Symbolic If They Experienced Early Deprivation?
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Can Someone’s Fears Be Symbolic If They Experienced Early Deprivation?
Can A Woman Help A Mother-Enmeshed Man To Break Away From His Mother?
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Can A Woman Help A Mother-Enmeshed Man To Break Away From His Mother?
Why Would A Mother-Enmeshed Man Feel Selfish For Putting Himself First?
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Why Would A Mother-Enmeshed Man Feel Selfish For Putting Himself First?
What Can Happen If A Man Doesn’t Feel Comfortable With His Sexual Side?
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What Can Happen If A Man Doesn’t Feel Comfortable With His Sexual Side?
Enmeshment - How To No Longer Be Attracted To A Mother-Enmeshed Man (How-To Guide)
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Enmeshment - How To No Longer Be Attracted To A Mother-Enmeshed Man (How-To Guide)
Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Carry Different Entities Inside Them?
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Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Carry Different Entities Inside Them?
Are Some People Easy Targets For Romance Scammers?
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Are Some People Easy Targets For Romance Scammers?
What Can Happen If A Man Was Brought Up By A Mother Who Hated Him?
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What Can Happen If A Man Was Brought Up By A Mother Who Hated Him?
Can Someone Have The Tendency To Feel Exhausted If They Lack Boundaries?
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Can Someone Have The Tendency To Feel Exhausted If They Lack Boundaries?
Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Be Impulsive?
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Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Be Impulsive?
Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Focus On His Mother To Stay Loyal To His Father?
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Can A Mother-Enmeshed Man Focus On His Mother To Stay Loyal To His Father?
Why Do Some People Look Towards Other Human Beings To Save Them?
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Why Do Some People Look Towards Other Human Beings To Save Them?
Yes!! That's exactly what I did and you will suffer the rest of your life. He disliked her but he pleased her because she used her money to manipulate him. Always remember that when you marry you're marrying the entire family not just the man! And these enmeshed families with a lot of money are the absolute worst.
Hi Oliver, You are making amazing video content. I just watched the video and your video quality is appreciable. I'm so impressed by your content. I was analyzing your channel and noticed that you are struggling with video views and video ranking .May i share some tips on how you can achieve your goals?
Hello @Advanced_UA-cam_SEO_Master, thank you for your feedback. Sure, go ahead -
@@oliverjrcooper Hi Oliver, Thanks for replying in my comment. After, reviewed your channel and identified a few key areas where improvements can drive significant growth. Here's a quick overview of the issues SEO Optimization: Titles, descriptions, and keywords aren’t fully optimized, affecting search rankings. Missing Keywords & Tags: Videos lack SEO-friendly titles, descriptions, and optimized tags, limiting visibility. Video Thumbnails Are Not eye- catching No Off-Page SEO: There’s no strategy for generating external traffic through backlinks or social media. If you need any more suggestion feel free to ask me.
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I have this problem with two friends , one of them being my closest friend , but when I feel bad , neither of them bother to listen to me . They never ask me how I’m doing and when they ask me is at the end of the conversation then they are out . I’m going through money issues , depression and a cancer scare and they are not even aware
women are incredibly bad at reading men. like they will think this Oliver guy is a serial killer literally just because he's standing in the forest but then a guy who looks like Jake Paul without the money, they treat like he's literally the only option.
Mothers can be Borderline too.The same happened to my father.His mother had some issues and an absent husband.Appreciate your content.Thank You
Hello Riya, that’s an excellent point. A mother in this position can have an inflated false self and be emotionally unstable. Thank you for your feedback. I appreciate it.
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I think it's more a matter of being forced to grow from an infantile mindset. Personality development goes from a crisis to another. See 'positive disintegration'.
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Just unbeleveble to listen to what you are saying. You very comfortably skiped FEW MAIN Stream reasons for Fathers NON Existance butb Listed few - that are pribably exact causee for his suffering Fathers are Systemicaly and massively falsely Acused and INTRNTIONALY Removed - based on fSS. Theories And craxy ideology. only ..Then many man go into selfmedication dawnfal...
This is an interesting comment, as are the others. So, you say I "very comfortably skipped FEW MAIN Stream reasons..." You make it sound like I was given a sheet of information and then chose to skip bits. It's then as though I'm part of a secret society and intend to deceive UA-cam viewers. Anyway, back to reality. This was a short video and only so much can be said. Additionally, I'm a human being, not an all-knowing god; I don't know everything and thus, I will often miss out on important details. The great thing about this site is that people can share their views and I can learn from what I read.
@@oliverjrcooper No , not .that you are part of a secret society... But you ARE Part of the contemporary postModernistic SYSTEM... AND this system uses certain words, BASED ON and contaminated by the IDELOGY to describe all those dynamics.
This is my take: Look man, you are young and deeply brainwshed by the System. ... ... a system that created an antire MINE-FIELD of legislation that may destroy * man's Life, * Men's career, * Men's livelyhood and * Men's future,.... His 25-30+ years of hard work and investment, PLUS next 10 - 25 + years of life - simply .... by * one Eratic hysteric telefone call... of that lovely person. So.... Modrrn men are very informed nowdays, due to youtub and significan erosion of totalitslarian control of the media space, that lasted, .... Last 70 years , by fss, so .... Finaly, Men realised No one vants to volonteer to become a new Alan Harper ( "2 & 1/2 men"( or dr.Herb, ... a man that was destroyed by this fss. ideology, and lovely Judith, and their poluted type of theralapy ! Previous therapists destroyed Alan's life. .....but, his brother Charlie obviously demonstrates WHAT MODERN Women like and (* into which mixer they give their juices and bodily liquids to get Enriched. Charlie -( Herpes ) An unavailable son of the Bitch EVELYN, Harper , (*A poster child of a Successful modern western mother )(a poster child pushed by crazy ffs.). - Charlie is exactly what they want and ( what thry deserve,) BECAUSE a) THEIR MOTIVSTION For this sudden love for Charlie ( and Malibu Villa) is A) not honest B) nor Love driven, ... Just opposite. "Charlie " is exactly very WELL ADAPTED product of this time Well Addapted FOR these crazy times And those modern worman as well. All printed in thr Andy Whoarhola machine... ... on a very cheep paper.
Everything (!) spot on ...but From the, ( kind of ) Books - that totally skip honestly PRESENT * Social famemework * Legal framework And few other big Topics....that motivate Modern young MEN : Mene these days don't want a relationship .... to "*Progress" ...into anything more ""SERIOUS""" - .... Indeed .... Not becausebot their mothers or fathers but because ... .... do you have any clue WHY ???
Will check out your book for sure. Sincerely, Mr. N. Meshed
Hello @funkadelphiarecords, thank you for letting me know. Let me know how you get on.
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i decided by age 10 that i would NEVER have children so i could eliminate our violent family genes from society. obviously abusive parents deny being abusive, the last thing they want is to admit the truth,, my abusive prick of a father acts like he's the nicest human in history to every one thats not in our family.. he will help total strangers more than he will help either of his children.. my mom had to have a neighbor call him and ask for help just to get her car fixed.. gosh and coincidentally he loves Mein Trumpf !! abusive bullies stick together..
They're always right, and they're the best parents there have ever been. They have nothing to learn. They'll always deny anything that makes them look less than perfect.
My dad was a violent monster who denies that he did anything wrong. He rewrote history to make himself to be a saint, even though he was the devil
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interesting, both of my parents would never admit wrongdoing….
You open a door that should be dig in a psychological point of view, what kind of mental disorder get out of this kind of relationship. As I have see through age, experience and knowledge, many times, the daughter has a narcissistic personality desorder and sometimes the mother was a covert narcissist who recognized herself in the narcissist behavior of her daughter and sometimes the mother is bipolar.
Hello @anthonyrab9468, I don't fully understand your comment. So, if you could write it in a different way that would be good. Thank you.
In my case is not just friends, but even strangers start to tell about their issues... I really want to tell them "Hey, I dont know you or barely know you for you to drop out all your problems like this!"... I think this is kinda rude, but I can't take it anymore!
The cause of most of the grief on the planet.... unresolved trauma being carried forward. xx
Niled it, @lesleyelalami2562.
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Yup.... you can feel the disjointedness, you feel fractured. It's often just provides a sticking plaster, a social mask, until you truly heal underneath the false facade imho. "I'm fine!" LOL
Thank you
You're very welcome, @islamicchannel899.
They also mimic their mothers in that they can be manipulative and controlling when they're not being pathetic and aimless.
Female.... married 2 narcissistic men. I left home 20/21 breathing a sigh of relief and 6 months later the penny dropped that my needs weren't met but those days were over and no one owed me anything. All I could do was manage best I could, look forward repair and expand/grow. Bizarre how others expect a random stranger to pay the psychological bill for their childhood nightmare.
Hello @lesleyelalami2562, thank you for sharing part of what you have been through. Fortunately, you have been able to get on the right track. "Bizarre how others expect a random stranger to pay the psychological bill for their childhood nightmare.", yes, on one level this is strange. However, when this occurs, someone is usually unaware of how they are replaying what it was like for them as a child and are not seeing clearly. Their brain is then deceiving them.
@@oliverjrcooper Guilty M'laud!!! LOL I've come to the understanding that those I'm particularly drawn to happens because THEY are exceptionally in NEED of an empath's care/attention. It's their need not appreciation/love. That wonky connection facilitates an especially strong flow of Holy Spirit through me (being an innate spiritual healer) which is addictive, but that's not love from the chosen partner. I've groped about in the dark too long and now I feel I'm sorted with a wealth of knowledge and experience to pass on to those who come my way....... should they ask for help pointing them in the right direction. Sometimes even listening with a deaf ear is all they require, so they can vocalise their thoughts/feelings. LOL. 73 and learning every day. Can't save the world..... yet...... but one day at a time does me, it's enough for anyone. xxx Love your videos, so validating.
But the reason mother and son enmesh is that the father is absent in one way or another, not fulfilling husbandly role imho. And so down it goes through the generations...... generational curse. Love your videos...... I've been living this nightmare for 52 years, most frustrating and ego will not allow them to self-reflect, face the truth and repair the damage. Love your videos, they'e spot on. Thank you. x
Hello @lesleyelalami2562, thank you for your comment. I'm going to assume that you are a new viewer. Anyway, for me, a father not being there can be what leads to this dynamic. However, I believe that there is generally more to it than this. So, a man and a woman who fear intimacy are drawn together and they unknowingly replay their early childhood scenarios. The same feelings are then recycled and a variety of needs are not met. The trouble is that, thanks to repression, both of them can be oblivious about what is going on. One person then becomes the victim and the other the perpetrator and these roles can change, of course. But, yes, you said it with the "generational curse". Until someone can step back and reflect and heal their inner wounds, the past is endlessly repeated. I'm pleased to hear that you haven’t turned your back on yourself and still going as it sounds like you have been through a lot. Keep going. You are welcome. I'm glad that the videos are assisting you.
@@oliverjrcooper I am a new viewer. Well spotted!!! LOL Your videos speak all the thoughts/words that have rattled around my head for decades. They're so validating..... to know that someone else has come to the same conclusion as myself means I'm not alone. With a lot of tears and hard inner work I have myself grounded and sorted, I'm actually an innate spiritual healing channel - didn't know that until I was 40... I was just doing/living it innately!! LOL Used psychology books and self-help books since late 1980's..... I just followed the bread-crumbing Holy Spirit was providing. So I'm busy bingeing all your videos and have alerted a neighbour to them as well. Very much appreciated. You're a Light in the darkness. Much kudos to you. Thank you. xxx
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mic has a little bit of echo sound (?) but it's a good point.
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True Self - How To Reconnect With Your True Self - www.amazon.com/dp/B0C2RVJKD5/
YES!
"I have never hit any of you" My mother ten minutes after leaving a red handprint on the back of my leg. She even kept her rings on
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Wish I could afford to move out