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20/24 Forgiveness with Tanya Heasley | Character Strengths 24 in '24
Things are getting personal now!! I spoke with Tanya Heasley about forgiveness and why it's such a challenge! We, explored the complexities of forgiveness in topics like:
- practising forgiveness in everyday life
the difference between guilt and shame
- forgiveness in abusive relationships
- forgiveness, self-love, and societal change
- domestic violence, forgiveness, and anger
- self forgiveness and personal growth
Tanya Heasley is passionate about helping teachers and anyone dealing with conflict find their way and succeed in their professional lives. With over 20 years of experience in psychology and coaching, she has grown from a therapy expert to a leading pioneer in anger-informed coaching. She founded Ascend Together CIC to improve the lives of young people affected by adult anger and is dedicated to making their lives better.
As an experienced coaching psychologist and a registered Qualified Test User, Tanya has a deep understanding of mental health and conflict resolution. She is currently working on a PhD focused on how anger affects education, with a mission to help people manage their emotions and reach their full potential.
In addition to her coaching and research, Tanya writes for Brainz Magazine and has given inspiring TEDx talks. She is also the author of A Letter to My Anger, a book that explores the honest truth about dealing with hidden anger and finding inner peace.
On a personal note, Tanya is a proud mum of four amazing kids. Her own experiences, including her journey on the autism spectrum, drive her passion for creating a supportive environment for everyone.
Tanya Heasley is committed to turning conflict into opportunities for growth and success. Connect with her on...
www.tanyaheasley.co.uk/
www.linkedin.com/in/tanyaheasley
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#characterstrengths #psychology #forgiveness #angermanagement
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19/24- Leadership as a Character Strength | Creating Thriving Conditions | Lizzie Bentley-Bowers
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I chat with Leadership Coach Lizzie Bentley Bowers about the best way to cultivate my leadership qualities and it might be a short episode, but wow, the punchy takeaways still have me reeling many days on!! Unlock your leadership potential as we talk about mastering recovery, confidence, team growth, expert tips for overcoming imposter syndrome, and creating supportive work environments in the ...
A Day in Lucknow: Nawabi Charm Meets Modern Buzz 🕌🍽️
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Join me as I explore the City of Nawabs! From stunning architecture to mouthwatering cuisine, experience Lucknow's rich culture and vibrant energy. Highlights include: - Wandering the grand Imambaras - Getting lost in Bhool Bhulaiyya - Savoring famous Tunday kebabs and rumaali rotis - Strolling through bustling Aminabad Bazaar - Discovering hidden gems in old city lanes History, food, and local...
October 2024 Bullet Journal: Practical & Minimal 📘🍂
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October Bullet Journal for the Season Shifters 📘🍂 Need an October setup that works as hard as you do, while still nodding to the new season? You're in the right place! This video walks you through my practical approach to October planning with a subtle nod to the darkening days, and cosy vibes. Learn how to create: - Adaptable weekly spreads for busy schedules (last month's boxes were too small...
18/24 - A new 'Perspective' (Part 2) on *Fairness* with Alivia Burke | Character Strengths 24 in '24
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Alivia Burke returns to discuss the VIA Character Strength of Fairness, offering fresh insights on perspective 8 months after her last appearance (on perspective!). We explore: - How perspectives evolve with time and experiences - The duality of life experiences - UK's anti-immigration riots and migration issues - VIA as macro vs. micro interventions - Logical vs. care-based reasoning in fairne...
17/24 - Honesty with Dr Tania Mohamed | Character Strengths 24 in '24
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Dive deep into the VIA character strength of Honesty with guest Dr. Tania Mohamed. This episode explores the multifaceted nature of integrity and its profound impact on our personal and professional lives. Research shows that honesty, as a core character strength, is strongly associated with life satisfaction, better relationships, and improved mental health. Studies from the VIA Institute on C...
16/24- Perspective with Alivia Burke (Part 1) | Character Strength 24 in '24
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We actually filmed this back in February 2024 when I was in my "oh I'll just film all 24 episodes in one go and upload them in the right order" era, before realising how stupid of an idea that was for my workload LOL. BUTTTTTT....look at the alignment - we have Part 1 for you which is the original episode; and then the very amazing Part 2 where we study our Perspective on Perspective & Fariness...
15/24- Bravery to fight the status quo- Roshni Shergill | Character Strengths 24 in '24
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Join us as we unpack the VIA character strength of bravery. In this episode, we explore: - Personal courage and making tough decisions against societal expectations - Professional bravery, including stories from a recent volunteering trip with refugees in Cairo - Setting brave goals for the upcoming autumn and winter seasons - The courage to question the status quo vs. the bravery of self-accep...
14/24 - Humility with Mohamed Hossam | Character Strengths 24 in '24
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Explore the VIA character strength of Humility with trainee counsellor Mohammed Hossam. We delve into: - Humility as vulnerability - The word 'I' which I interpreted as the 'evil eye'- do they both work?! - Religious and cultural nuances of the VIA - Fighting the ego vs. praising God as lip service - Returning to humility - How humility builds human connection Connect with Mohamed: instagram.co...
Planning for the last 3rd of 2024 | September Bullet Journal Setup
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Hey everyone! Welcome to my September bullet journal setup. Can you believe we're already here? With just four months left in 2024, it's time to reflect, recharge, and recommit to our goals. First, let's take a moment to appreciate how far we've come. Looking at my vision board from the start of the year, I'm filled with gratitude for all I've achieved so far. Now, let's talk about how we can m...
August 2024 Bullet Journal Setup | Mindful Lofi Vibes
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A trip to Cairo this month can only mean one theme... Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!): uppbeat.io/t/ak/noon License code: YP4NYGTKUGCTLK24 Music: Someday Musician: Alexander Delarge URL: icons8.com/music/ #bulletjournal #bujo #august #productivity #planner
13/24: Kindness | Cast of Bollywood Odyssey | Character Strength in 24 in '24
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Yes yes I know it's a weak editing job (it's strength number 13, not 14) but when I have ever really bothered about the fancy bits on top. Function over form always until I can pay someone to do the form for me! In this episode, I chat with the cast of Bollywood Odyssey to find out what acts of kindness gets them through stressful times on set and stage; and kindness in the industry overall! St...
BTN 2024 Relaunch
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Brown Therapist Network is a global B2B community that is designed to connect mental health and wellbeing professionals, who are of South Asian Heritage for the purpose of empowering them in their (decolonised) practice, so that we can serve our communities better. If you want to join the BTN network, please watch this video and sign up using this google forms: forms.gle/PnqcaRehRiFP5z8cA #brow...
July 2024 Bullet Journal Setup | Vision Board Mid-Point Review
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In the true spirit of "do the best that you can with the resources that you have" - I decided to upload this month's Bullet Journal in true chatty style. I was feeling very un-inspired but I realised that this is also the 6 month point so what a perfect moment to review the 2024 Vision Board. That video is linked here: ua-cam.com/video/M1CwoT0nlyQ/v-deo.html The whole page took about 53 minutes...
Screening Minds Bonus Episode: Lights Camera Activism
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In this episode, I chat with Professor Sunny Singh as we explore the unexpected intersection of Bollywood cinema and Palestinian rights. Discover how Indian cinema and actors have been a symbol of resistance, activism, and freedom in the past, and even in the present. Understand how all art is political and walk away feeling a renewed sense of how even you, yes you, can have a voice in the free...
Special Episode: Lights, Camera, Activism
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Special Episode: Lights, Camera, Activism
12/24- Teamwork, with Rohaan Ahmad | Character Strengths 24 in '24
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12/24- Teamwork, with Rohaan Ahmad | Character Strengths 24 in '24
11/24- Social Intelligence Amongst Aspiring Actors | Character Strengths 24 in '24
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11/24- Social Intelligence Amongst Aspiring Actors | Character Strengths 24 in '24
June 2024 Bullet Journal- a dystopian world
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June 2024 Bullet Journal- a dystopian world
9/24- Judging you, Judging them, Judging myself?!- Belinda Batt
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9/24- Judging you, Judging them, Judging myself?!- Belinda Batt
Spiritual Self-Coaching
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Spiritual Self-Coaching
10/24- I'm Curious?!- Coaching with Horses- Zoe Saari | Character Strengths 24 in '24
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10/24- I'm Curious?!- Coaching with Horses- Zoe Saari | Character Strengths 24 in '24
Last week in India! Kolkata History
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Last week in India! Kolkata History
May 2024 Bullet Journal SetUp
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May 2024 Bullet Journal SetUp
8/24 - From Finance To Filmmaking - Hope as a Character Strength for Raihan Hussain
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8/24 - From Finance To Filmmaking - Hope as a Character Strength for Raihan Hussain
Birthday in Bangalore!
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Birthday in Bangalore!
8/24- Hope with Gurchehn Singh (Part 1/2)
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8/24- Hope with Gurchehn Singh (Part 1/2)
7/24 Gratitude with Dr Nadia- The Spiritual Psychologist
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7/24 Gratitude with Dr Nadia- The Spiritual Psychologist
KanyaKumari- 3 hours in the southern most tip of India!
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KanyaKumari- 3 hours in the southern most tip of India!
How to review your vision board- 1st quarter!
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How to review your vision board- 1st quarter!

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  • @OmgItsTania
    @OmgItsTania 29 днів тому

    Loved this!! Made my mum watch it and we both miss Lucknow now haha

    • @mutedhealing
      @mutedhealing 28 днів тому

      haha might be time for a revisit!

  • @bradhackett5592
    @bradhackett5592 Місяць тому

    Love this!!!! ❤❤

  • @OmgItsTania
    @OmgItsTania Місяць тому

    Was such a pleasure being on! Thankyou :)

    • @mutedhealing
      @mutedhealing Місяць тому

      I'm sure it won't be the last time!

  • @OmgItsTania
    @OmgItsTania Місяць тому

    Love both of you guys 🔥 always so fun to listen to your thoughts!

    • @mutedhealing
      @mutedhealing Місяць тому

      keep listening, we do a little 8 month later update in the episode after yours!

  • @MohamedHossamRizk
    @MohamedHossamRizk 2 місяці тому

    Thank you so much for having me here and for having this great discussion, Afsar. It was a really eye-opening journey filled with much insight. I apologize to you and the viewers for the bad quality of sound and video, I am making the best of the resources that I have, and I am incredibly grateful to Afsar for giving me the opportunity to speak here any way. I think it's a great practice of humility on his part. I promise to work on improving my computer hardware to make it better suited for the needs and expectations of ourselves and those who are watching, if I ever have the honour of appearing here again.

    • @mutedhealing
      @mutedhealing 2 місяці тому

      You are so kind- thank you for your encouraging words and for making the best of the resources you have-it's a value I highly subscribe to as well- the conversation was great - very eye opening! <3

    • @SherifIbrahim0
      @SherifIbrahim0 24 дні тому

      This was very interesting and beneficial discussion, thank you and well done ♥

  • @naziachoudhury6151
    @naziachoudhury6151 3 місяці тому

    This is desperately needed in our South Asian community. Look forward to seeing what BTN brings!

    • @mutedhealing
      @mutedhealing 2 місяці тому

      for sure- lot's decolonising systems!

  • @OmgItsTania
    @OmgItsTania 4 місяці тому

    Love this episode so much! So nice hearing you guys go between banterful convo and then deep insightful discussion about teamwork etc.

  • @nasreenmohanna4352
    @nasreenmohanna4352 6 місяців тому

    I guess the phone bugging was supposed to happen to soak in all the environment 😉

    • @mutedhealing
      @mutedhealing 4 місяці тому

      love that reframing! Positive Psychology in action right there <3

  • @nasreenmohanna4352
    @nasreenmohanna4352 6 місяців тому

    Loved watching your journey & reflections!! 😍 That couldn’t be more accurate and well put - we are so deeply colonised and that’s why we go to these places celebrating what the British empire did for India rather than celebrating our own history.

  • @drsabable
    @drsabable 6 місяців тому

    Wonderful birthday plan!! It truly was a surprise(for the attendees) 🎉

    • @mutedhealing
      @mutedhealing 4 місяці тому

      LOL yes...it was. *Asrar* very much enjoyed also :)

  • @SensesEU
    @SensesEU 6 місяців тому

    Big up Pooks

  • @saishahayes7009
    @saishahayes7009 6 місяців тому

    Thank you so much for having me was so fun !

    • @mutedhealing
      @mutedhealing 6 місяців тому

      everyone's commenting about how much they love our vibe so I think we may have to have you back sooner than you think!

  • @OmgItsTania
    @OmgItsTania 7 місяців тому

    Not the Love episode slander 😡 both y'all need Tania & Alivia therapy to accept your SELF LOVE. In other news - love the banter in this episode 🎉 definitely agree in workplaces it needs to be nuanced but it can definitely help with delivering the work you are doing. I do it all the time in my current medical education job and maybe its because my "students" are other fellow doctors my own age but it helps to connect with them. Even when I used to be taught as a medical student i would find it much more engaging when my teachers would be more informal with me (sometimes they'd throw in swears and things LOL) but i appreciate it's different to the formalised teaching in schools

    • @mutedhealing
      @mutedhealing 7 місяців тому

      loooll not the slanderrrrrr

  • @OmgItsTania
    @OmgItsTania 7 місяців тому

    Loved saisha's energy and fully resonated with her speaking about our treatment as women. Great episode 👏🏽

    • @mutedhealing
      @mutedhealing 7 місяців тому

      did you comment on the wrong video LOL

    • @OmgItsTania
      @OmgItsTania 7 місяців тому

      @@mutedhealing oops yeah autoplay moved onto the wrong vid 🤣

  • @OmgItsTania
    @OmgItsTania 8 місяців тому

    Loved this! 🔥 I thought the bra scene missed the mark slightly tbh. I don't think it was gross, but I think the point of "seeing women as equals" and not being grossed out by "womanly things" could have been better conveyed in a different way. I also echo what some of your peers said about Rocky's monologue being a little bit "all about me" when it happened right after Rani's dad had poured his heart out, but i don't think he's narcissistic for doing so - that frustration needed to be let out in some way or another so makes sense in a movie way for it to done there and then. Overall i share ur enthusiasm for the movie cos i also watched it a bunch of times and have made many friends watch it with me since it's been available on streaming services 😂😂

    • @OmgItsTania
      @OmgItsTania 8 місяців тому

      To expand a bit, i think if Rocky had been asked to come shopping for feminine hygiene products that would have resonated a lot more with women - how often have girls had to ask a male partner to buy them pads/tampons only for them to get uncomfortable at the thought? Id love to see bollywood deal with that lol

    • @mutedhealing
      @mutedhealing 7 місяців тому

      YESSSS OKAY i totally hear this- IF the bra scene was replaced with feminine hygiene products I think it definitely would have been much better placed and actually, i think bollywood is so ready for it after Padman at least?! And it probably would have had more of an actual impact on our audiences...i can imagine females asking males to pop out to the shop and buy them pads/tampons but I feel like bra shopping is a thing women enjoy doing for themselves anyway?!

    • @OmgItsTania
      @OmgItsTania 7 місяців тому

      @@mutedhealing yeah absolutely! Lets manifest that for the next boundary smashing bollywood movie!

  • @OmgItsTania
    @OmgItsTania 8 місяців тому

    So much fun recording this one 👏🏽

    • @mutedhealing
      @mutedhealing 7 місяців тому

      thank you for being there and editing!

  • @OmgItsTania
    @OmgItsTania 8 місяців тому

    I love the detail you put into this. So artistic and creative!

  • @OmgItsTania
    @OmgItsTania 8 місяців тому

    Herbal tea to verbal tea. Love it 🤣

    • @mutedhealing
      @mutedhealing 7 місяців тому

      lol can't claim it as my own sadly!

  • @UrsulaCapell
    @UrsulaCapell 8 місяців тому

    Enjoyed listening to you Afsar. I would have a picture of the moment my son entered the world.

    • @mutedhealing
      @mutedhealing 8 місяців тому

      what a beautiful moment to commemorate! <3

  • @OmgItsTania
    @OmgItsTania 8 місяців тому

    Love love love this video!! Your vlog/commentary segments are so nice on the camera!!! I learnt so much from this video and Aarti's experiences make me want to go immediately 😭 and amazing editing 👏🏽 love this format of travel vlogs

    • @mutedhealing
      @mutedhealing 8 місяців тому

      Thank you! You should check out more of Aarti's videos for different experiences! She's just come back from Sri Lanka too!

  • @drsabable
    @drsabable 8 місяців тому

    This video is like a love letter to Mumbai! Felt good to relive some of the memories, almost feel like going back but it's gonna be super hot this time of year. The random videos you were recording at the hostel finally make sense😅 Come back for a longer visit!!

    • @mutedhealing
      @mutedhealing 8 місяців тому

      ufff you're a poet! A Love Letter to Mumbai- what a beautiful sentiment! will always have fond memories of our 'chai-sutta' moments

  • @anas021991
    @anas021991 8 місяців тому

    Glad to see you and Rohini ❤

    • @mutedhealing
      @mutedhealing 8 місяців тому

      one of the best days I had!

  • @OmgItsTania
    @OmgItsTania 8 місяців тому

    👏🏽👏🏽 love it - and messy is totally fine and authentic to yourself 😂

    • @OmgItsTania
      @OmgItsTania 8 місяців тому

      My moment: id love to photograph a moment in the future when a Palestinian person is able to return to their home. 🇵🇸

    • @mutedhealing
      @mutedhealing 8 місяців тому

      this made me feel bittersweet emotions. This hope is....crucial!

  • @OmgItsTania
    @OmgItsTania 9 місяців тому

    finally got round to doing this and my top one is LOVE like the absolute soppy romantic i am... This was interesting, thanks for introducing me to the concept of this!

  • @amangrows
    @amangrows 9 місяців тому

    Can't wait for the Mumbai episode!

  • @amangrows
    @amangrows 9 місяців тому

    Gujju Gang rise up!😁

  • @OmgItsTania
    @OmgItsTania 9 місяців тому

    Your workspace aesthetic is so cute!

    • @mutedhealing
      @mutedhealing 9 місяців тому

      Thanks! Makes a huge difference to actually wanting to be at it!

  • @ayeshak95
    @ayeshak95 9 місяців тому

    Out of curiosity I did the character strengths survey again and found that 4 of my 5 top strengths are still exactly the same as this time last year - definitely didn’t anticipate that

    • @mutedhealing
      @mutedhealing 9 місяців тому

      I find that mine changes a little but not too much, My virtues of courage are still quite lower down! (Go figure?!)

  • @aartiadventures
    @aartiadventures 9 місяців тому

    Love your “messy but you” approach

    • @mutedhealing
      @mutedhealing 9 місяців тому

      haha thank you! It's the one common piece of feedback I'm getting so I guess authenticity really is the way to go?!

  • @humanshipuk
    @humanshipuk 9 місяців тому

    This is so interesting! Thank you for sharing your journey. I have always wanted to visit India, now I know who to walk for advice when I get to book it 💜

    • @mutedhealing
      @mutedhealing 9 місяців тому

      Absolutely be happy to help! I learned so much about how not to vlog during this uploading stage haha, but lots of memories and tips in my photos and journal!

  • @amangrows
    @amangrows 9 місяців тому

    I love how real you keep it in your vlogs!

    • @mutedhealing
      @mutedhealing 9 місяців тому

      Thanks B! I was poorly in BOTH the b-roll AND the a-roll for this one haha- start perking up from here!

  • @amangrows
    @amangrows 9 місяців тому

    I am being called to become more📈

    • @mutedhealing
      @mutedhealing 8 місяців тому

      super excited to see this growth!

  • @joeyvexx
    @joeyvexx 10 місяців тому

    Personally i like writing my goals down, because I like to reflect on them the following year. Although my intentiom is to manifest in rhe beginning, the process of reviewing how far you've come, what you have achieved, what you havent (yet) and how you can adapt for the coming year does so much for me aswell.

    • @mutedhealing
      @mutedhealing 10 місяців тому

      love that! all of this is so important, from the writing down, to reflecting and reviewing! May all your dreams come true this year! <3

  • @nasreenmohanna4352
    @nasreenmohanna4352 10 місяців тому

    Thankyou so much for sharing this, love this video ❤️ I love the second step which is it isn’t just about writing and manifesting but also discussing our goals and so if I’m bold and talking about my goals in the future sense then - I am fluent in Spanish and have meaningful conversations in Spanish and have great relationships that I can learn more about the culture.

    • @mutedhealing
      @mutedhealing 10 місяців тому

      Love everything about this comment!!! May you flourish in Spanish! Toda la mejor! 🫶🏽

  • @Shyl96
    @Shyl96 11 місяців тому

    TiL that Pay as you go Simcards don't work in Srinagar 😂

    • @mutedhealing
      @mutedhealing 11 місяців тому

      haha better you know NOW than when you arrive there!

  • @eprohoda
    @eprohoda 11 місяців тому

    Salut. yo! pro shhots- catch ya later~ Muted,

    • @mutedhealing
      @mutedhealing 11 місяців тому

      Thanks for the love yo ❤

  • @Shyl96
    @Shyl96 11 місяців тому

    And i thought the cold in London was bad 😂

    • @mutedhealing
      @mutedhealing 11 місяців тому

      honestly it felt like no other! but I think it might be because of the open waters?

  • @Shyl96
    @Shyl96 11 місяців тому

    😍😍

  • @AdzB7
    @AdzB7 Рік тому

    Loved this!

    • @mutedhealing
      @mutedhealing Рік тому

      Thank you! Pray for my watermelons please :(

  • @AdzB7
    @AdzB7 Рік тому

    Love it!

  • @adzb6708
    @adzb6708 Рік тому

    Love it - inspiring me to create my own :D

    • @mutedhealing
      @mutedhealing 10 місяців тому

      perhaps this is the year!