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His birth mother may have been fucked up from the trauma of losing her son. I personally would go insane if that happened to me.

I had an emergency c section. I had to be knocked out because I didn't have my epidural before my son's heart rate plummeted. I've always worried about possible trauma he may have experienced. He was able to do skin to skin contact and nurse after I came to but there was a good half hour that he was away from me. Maybe being reunited soon after prevented serious trauma.

What an amazing lady. Bless her.💜

I’m skeptical. He said maternal separation causes trauma leading mental health and relationship issues high rate of thoughts to unalive. Separation happens for different reasons. Mom unalived by health, accidents. self, by someone else, by substance abuse. Foster care. Custody dispute. Separation happens at different ages of children. Birth, toddler, school age. Sometimes family takes child in. Sometimes it’s a group home. Sometimes a foster care parent who’s a stranger. He doesn’t say if any of these factors make a difference. Does open adoption make a difference?

I am also a forced adoptee from Brsbane, Australia 1961. I felt from very young that I didn't belong. I've been scapegoated as being "mental". These podcasts validate me. Unfortunately the people who need this education don't listen these podcasts. How do we reach them? I am totally alone and still not understood.

nice your video

Brad is my ATT hero. Thank you so much for having him on.

Thank you for this episode. I started the search two years ago for the baby my grandmother had in 1959 that she was forced to give up. She passed away in 2001 and I found out about my aunt. I’m now 33 and have done dna tests and have tried finding answers. Laura’s story gives me a perspective from my grandmother that I will never get. My grandmother died with this secret. I’m just hoping I can find my aunt to let her know my grandmother loved her and didn’t want to give her up. My grandmother was 16 at the time of birth and the bio father was Filipino and my great grandfather was very racist. My heart breaks for my grandmother and the women like her and the babies that were taken.

I LOVED this conversation. I think you knew I would Melissa. Yes we have Superpowers, these are gifts. We are Loved ❤️Thank Russell, I'd love to connect with you 💕 🙏🏽

U know u ask hell of good questions and u speak in a manner I just wanna keep listening 👂 I couldn’t leave a comment on the video because comments are off ps keep doing Good interviews and keep that positive energy

Fabulous, I loved sharing with you.Thank you Melissa ❤

It is disheartening to hear someone with so much experience and knowledge of relinquishment, adoption trauma and the child "welfare" system still choose to be part of the problem and take advantage of the supply sold by the adoption industry. Perhaps her lack of a thoughtful response to the question "why did YOU choose to adopt?" stems from her own unrecognized trauma of being raised with adopted siblings by parents who modeled "white savior" entitlement as a family norm. As a natural mother coerced to relinquish a child, this episode was a really hard listen.

Thank you! We, adoptees, have an unspoken siblinghood. ❤❤😊😊😊🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

Part of healing process… most definitely!

Wow…😮😢💪🏽💪🏽💪🏽🙌🏾🫶🏽

Going through the trauma of losing a child to adoption deeply changes a woman forever, not in a good way. So the mother you find when you search will not be the mother she would have been if she'd kept and raised you.

Catholic Charities "helped" her mother "sort through" the unexpected pregnancy with only one certain outcome: relinquishment. CC also falsified her records with outright lies about her birth parents. This is not the exception but the rule in legal adoption.

This was great but has gross misinformation about "open" adoption. NOTHING is legally different for any party - the adoptee, the birth parents and adopters. Even if both birth and adoptive parents agree to some arrangement of continuing contact, it is not legally enforceable AND only 2%-5% of such agreements for continued contact are still in practice after the child is 5yo. Adoptive parents stop contact, disappear, etc. And there's nothing the birth family can do to reestablish contact. The child is still so young when contact is ended the adopters can tell them untruths about the birth parents and won't be questioned and the lies continue.

Because adopters are mentally ill. Instead of getting counseling or psych help for their infertility/baby obsession. Buying somebody else's baby won't cure their infertility, nor ameliorate their mental health condition. Anybody else with that level of entitlement and obsession would be considered a wackadoodle nutjob, maybe dangerous. But, *every single infertile* has scads of people around them saying, "Ohhhhh, but they'd make such a *wonderful* parent!' 😃😃 My child's kindergarten teacher taught their class at age five, "You get what you get, so don't have a fit." Also... please don't place adopters alongside adoptees and real mothers. There is such a power imbalance, it's unreal. The baby buyers, (child traffickers), have all the money, the power, the say so. Adoptees have 0 power; real mothers have coercion, lies, manipulation, lack of options, and pain. Afterwards, there is intractable grief. (Mine has morphed into righteous anger.) Adoption kilked my daughter, not directly and not quickly. It was a slow, lonely, painful death, at the hands of her biological father, the agency, and the social worker... and her twisted adopters. (Mentally ill wife, husband sent to anger management classes at least once.) We had over a decade of reunion, with fits and starts. Ugh! With the "triad" nonsense. Also, "birthmother" is a slur. Oh, and sociopath biodad, (threatened my life and our daughter's), went on to live a great life!! 😃😃😃👍🏻👍🏻 the only "problems" left in his wake were two ruined lives.

I am 72 years old and I am an adoptee. I read your book a couple of weeks ago and loved it. This last summer I went on vacation to Louisiana so the location of your story was relatable to me. Thank you for sharing your story.

Thank you so much for sharing your powerful story Laura. This is such an important series Melissa 👍🏽. My birth mother had another baby less than 2 years after I was adopted. I had a good adoption but the wound was real, who knew ? Me my mother and I. Sadly my mother took her life before I met her. So.much loss shame and pain. Thank you for your wise advise. Thank God we have each other and are speaking out now❤️

What a heartbreaking story of neverending trauma. Adoption is trauma.

I wonder if a PI can figure out ....or follow the money... Of how these judges are making money off of these bogus bs adoptions

Sadly I'm not shocked by this. In the UK and the secret family courts the judges are pushing through many unethical and immoral adoptions.. It's easier to see. They are breaking their own laws because they can whilst we don't understand the jurisdiction. Until we do, and can prove they are breaking them, they'll keep breaking them. They make far too much money to stop. But I do believe it's coming to an end. Thats a spiritual opinion that I'll share when we talk. The money in the UK gets transferred down a chain to different agencies and partners to fostering and then adootion. Im also not sure where the monies coming from if a direct adoption? It could be target driven because there's an agenda at play that creating more trauma. Adoption, broken families DV the list is endless and will only multiply obviously. It could be a very severe outcome if allowed to continue. I dont think it will. Sadly many lives will suffer like Eliza and Pauls in the meantime. Since the 70s when my birth mother was coerced, it seems they've mastered the process. A big issue is the narrative that there must be a reason why. All it takes is for the papers to highlight a child being killed by their parent and soon everyone will switch away from the birth parents plight. Truth is adoption and fostering are not interested in these children. They want adoptable children. And they have to lie to make it work. So many lies. Thankfully birth parents in the UK are grouping together and fighting this and starting to win cases with the European court and get their children back. We have to keep the faith. Keep doing what you're doing Paul, This won't stop until the veil is lifted. Thanks for another great interview Melissa 🙏🏽❤️🙏🏽

The reason everyone is fighting Paul so hard is because it would set a LEGAL PRECEDENT if he wins and the adoption industry would lose. They can shame and manipulate mothers into giving up their rights but if fathers stand up for the rights to their children, the industry will die.

Fascinating story thank you for sharing David. I too had wonderful adopted parents. Your description of being in the fog during childhood resonates. Thank you Melissa for another great discussion ❤

Another great worthwhile discussion. I'm an adoptee and have wonderful adopted parents although have also felt broken with the connection or no connection with my bm. My bm is also passed and I've paternal half siblings born in the same year and have met two of my bio fathers wives from thev60s and 70s. So much to relate to here, I'm inspired with love to look more into my birth mothers life, and will get this book 📙 thanks Melissa and Edward ❤

I loved this interview, what a Wonderful outcome. As an adoptee I could relate to Barbara especially regarding shutting my feelings off. I'm so pleased you're covering their stories too. More birth mothers need recognition. I believe the system that's responsible for our barbaric adoption is trying to eradicate birth mothers.its working when you consider how I used to feel and how many adoptees feel about their birth mothers. It's like a Witch hunt whereby even the adoptees will bypass the primal wound to believe this one. I'm now in love with BM. It's taken 50 years to forgive and understand my story to then realise my bm had a very powerful story too. I'm sad I didn't get to sit close to her like vicky can but happy I can watch reunions like this. Thank you for this great heart felt discussion ❤️

Another great interview, this is definitely something I'd like try. I've been doing somatic breathwork but this sounds like it goes to where I've not allowed hypnosis to take me. This is on an adoptee thing, I now realise. I'll dm.you. This seems like something I'd like to do for me and for clients in the future. Can I do this online ? I do think I'M on my way nicely in the last year I see a completely different story with my bm and adopted mum. Now I see huge amounts of love, all wanting me to be loved, and yet I've not allowed myself to accept this for myself for 50 years!! Gina is great to listen to, great interview 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 thanks to both of you ❤️

Thank you Melissa for honouring birth mothers and their importance in our stories Forgiveness is what's setting me free. I'm now feeling closer than ever to my own bm even though she passed many years ago. Forgiveness for myself and my bm is what's healing me. ❤️

Her father's suicide is so tragic. My son lost to adoption was also a birth father who took his own life.

The abandonment issue is at the bottom of the loyalty to the adopters who lied to her most of her life about her most fundamental identity.

Maddening. All these stories of forsaken fathers who really wanted their child and mothers who are rejecting.

One of the most important interviews I've ever heard. I'm 67 and 1 year into reunion.

Wow. Just wow. What a special sharing. Thank you, Jacqueline ❤

It was a great enlightening interview. Thank you for sharing. ❤

Thank you and take care, Melissa.

I love you GiGi❤

And remember before November is Adoptee Remembrance Day on October 30.

Wow ! What a moving story. I love the way you captured her journey.

Thank you so so much for allowing me to share my story… you are so amazing! It was very therapeutic! 😊❤

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I am so damn proud of my daughter. She is my love and my life

Looking forward to her book!❤

*promo sm* 😳

Oh my gosh I thought I was the only one!!!

Great interview Melissa and Regina.. I agree it's great to hear a positive Réunion story. Also fascinating to hear about this work. This sound similar to NLP.s parts integration but with more depth. I love that this is getting to the root cause and that you now believe the primal wound can be healed Melissa, this is MASSIVE for our adoption community. Love what you do. Thank you my friend ❤️

I think your wrong. I think somewhere along the way someone tricked you into thinking you couldn't possibly have a child ......when you did.

Love this

Brilliant interview, what a powerful story. Thank you Emma for the reminder to grieve ❤️🙏🏽 Fabulous Melissa👋🏽👋🏽