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A good video this one, to take note on Tom. I've not seen this been mentioned on any other retirement video. And is a important video for us all to take note on. I love watching all your videos you do. Big thanks for your time doing these videos. I'm 56 not yet retired. But i'm getting some good ideas from your videos. For when the time i do retire in a few years time. Thanks

Agree Tom, I didn't realize how hard and time consuming all the domestic chores were until after retirement I started doing more than just lawn work and car maintenance. Grocery shopping is a real pain...thanks again mate.

You re a very fair person. My husband and I have retired 5-6 years ago but I still do all the housework and everything. Due to this we fought over this many times but nothing has changed. He is a very free man.. Now I go my way and he goes his... He cleans where he sleeps but I have to cover more areas and do other chores. Right now he doesn't even spent a cent on me. He's got government help and he doesn't share it. I just wait for the day where I can be away from him.. hopefully it will come... but not now.

A fascinating sociological topic. First 40 years I worked full time as a teacher and also did the house management which included shopping, dry cleaners, ordering logs, managing tradesmen, cleaning etc plus care for our son picking him up and dropping off school various sports and activities. Our son and I also tended our 5 horses morning and evening which we kept at home. Hobby went to work. His chores were all at the weekend- gardening, DIY, rubbish management etc mainly because he was out of the house from 7am to 7pm Monday to Friday or was working away. Once we retired I continued to do the majority of the home management, then Covid struck! Hubby was bored and step by step he took over each of the home chores to ‘optimise’ their correct carrying out 😅, he was an Engineer so wanted to show me ‘how to do it better’ haha. After 2 years he said to me ‘I don’t feel appreciated, you take me for granted’ I’m sorry but I cried with laughter for about an hour, even now I’m laughing as I type this! He started to laugh too… when I pointed out my 40 years of doing it without any overt or voiced appreciation 😅 he’s continued to do the home chores as he says he enjoys it and it provides him structure around playing golf etc. I still do the ironing and we share the cooking…. PS Perhaps do a video on humour in retirement as we do laugh a lot especially about our creaking bodies and various aspects of ageing…

This video has made me feel annoyed and rather resentful. My husband does very little apart from the garden and sometimes the dishes. He does take me places I want to go as I stopped driving which helped my sciatica. What annoys me most is when he says ‘I’ve done your dishes for you’. That’s after I cooked the meal of course. Maybe you should do another video of how to make husbands do their fair share!

Glad to see you exploring this subject. My parents have long passed Tom, but I distinctly remember a conversation I had with my mother concerning expectations once my father had retired in '85. She was a bit stung by the fact my father ('23 model) had once told her when he retired he intended to sit down on the porch and rock the rest of his life- she said she thought he was joking at the time. Pop never really changed his habits, he did everything expected of a father of course, but "women's work" wasn't done unless she was gone for a few days (a rare occurrence). Mother was most upset that her hopes of travel didn't quite live up to her expectations, they did a bit, but not enough in mother's eyes who I believe felt that was the "payoff" down the road for being the good wife and raising five kids. It got me thinking that the old nuclear family model was not great once the man retired, each has been tied to his job and her house, but all he wants to do is relax and all she wants to do is get out and DO something. Clearly the two are at odds. It was a bit sad that once my mother developed Alzheimer's they had to be put in separate rooms at the care facility as my mother wouldn't recognize my father and was mean to him. I am sure it hurt him to the core but he never spoke of it to us kids. In my experience, men these days are much more likely to share all chores and try to be a more equitable partner.

Single here on my .75 acre 'estate' I'm stuck w/the man's & women's work. Today was laundry, haven't gotten around to the dishes. At least there's no one here to yell at me about that!

As a single man, I have to do all the housework. I did live with a woman about 30 years ago and we did share the chores, including the cooking. Another insightful video Tom. Thank you and cheers, Sean.

Very interesting topic and it is a great way of understanding

Happy Wife happy Life comes to mind. Who wants to live with a resentful person.

All of my male friends who are late 40s or younger do at least 50% of children caring and housework because their wives work. You need 2 incomes unfortunately in the modern age.

I enjoy subject of domestic cooperation. We each have our strengths. Keep encouraging each other. Thank you for helping. Best regards Tom. 😊👋🐿️

Tom - you have seen many years, and seemed to have lived a rich, full life. Thank you for your words of wisdom; especially about the three stages of retirement. Take care, and I look forward to your next release.

We planned to retire aged 66, but hubby’s brother died aged 57 and it triggered us to retire at 60. The ‘plan’ has worked for 6 years and it’s been fun, however things are now changing as our son and his wife are now settled in Perth Australia ahd want us to move there…..so now we’re formulating a new ‘plan’ that includes Perth!

Thank you for sharing Arthur!

Look forward to the next one. ❤

I decided to retire six months before I actually did. Seemed surrealistic walking out the door for the last time. Then the plague changed everything again. All in all things are good. I am getting more introspective and stoic this year. Best regards Tom 😊👋🐿️

Great insights and wise words Tom. I've got to fess up that between the ages of 25 and 35, I was a pretty happy go lucky, fly by seat of my pants young man. I was working dead end jobs, drinking too excess, partying and quite irresponsible. I'd never married and it was easy to live a carefree, bohemian lifestyle. However, that all changed when I hit 40 and finally bought my first and only home. I had lucked in at age 36 and by chance, landed a job via an agency, where I was able to work my way up from a storeman, into management. I was only just able get a loan as a 40 y.o. single man to buy that home and pretty well paid it off by age 54. I also quit drinking earlier in that period of time. In hindsight, life is choice and if an alternate history was an option, I would have hunkered down and stayed on track when I started full time work (an apprenticeship) in my teens........ Thank you Tom. Sean.

At times its surreal for me to've just completed that distant 'retirement' journey. I'd been a Gov employee since age 19, was going to night school after work when at 28 entered a nursing program affiliated w/my work. They sell you hard on that 'pension' security. So few get there or if they do they're morbidly obese and/or otherwise unhealthy, or divorced, etc. Amazed it's 25 yrs later since those nursing school long days to mostly carefree 'retirement' days that do pass by quickly!

I'm about 11 years into my final third Tom, and the time has went scary fast...good post as always.

How can one go through life and not be a lifelong learner? I know many try. "Retire" shouldn't mean "stop doing stuff" it should just be a transition or reweighting of what you do. Society used to value old peoples experience more than I believe they do now. This was a good thing because it gives older people more to do and we do really need their wisdom and learned experience. Everyone has the chance to get old so that makes it a fair system. Respecting and celebrating your elders makes the world better for people of all ages.

Climbing the wrong side of the ladder - one is your corporate self, the other is your real self. I love the idea that the time between 25-55 is the same duration as 55-85. What a great opportunity to improve yourself.

I've said it before, and it bears repeating: Best retirement channel on UA-cam. Thank you...again!

I retired five years ago at 57. Within two years a former coworker my age died , without ever retiring.

Wonderful commentary. Thank You from Canada.

Go slow stage at your age is inspiring.

I am giving notice tomorrow. No idea how they are going to take it , but it will happen.

Yes, analog recording devices are still the best. I'm trying to get back into my TM (transcendental meditation). It helped me in a crisis many years ago, now I need it as a tool to retain mental acuity. BTW: Have you published any books on Amazon?

You're a Writer the pen & paper is a great habit, Jerry Seinfeld keeps a notepad & pen on his nightstand, and always tries to remember and write down his dreams. I'm guilty of being a bit of a homebody at night, it's cheaper but I've missed out on a lot I'm learning. Balance! Today was certainly a Go Go day, I had to drive over 400 miles roundtrip to get my last check. Direct deposit screwup. Good ole Government! Packages awaited upon arriving at home and now my home gym is complete. Feels like a LONG chapter of life has turned. Onto the Next Best Chapter!

Pen and paper on the night stand...great idea Tom. Many times I get a ''revelation'' in the wee hours only to forget it next morning...frustrating !...You're setting a great example for us ''youngsters'' my friend....thks as always.

Another uplifting and on the money video Tom. I keep a daily journal, which I have done for over 11 years - which I began not longer after I gave up drinking. It's done wonders for my memory and mental health. It is actually like having company and a therapist in the form of a notebook. Meditation and exercise have also helped to keep my body and soul in shape ..... Your videos, of course, help me maintain the spirit. Thank you. Sean .......... Did you locate that photo of the SAS team in WWII Tom? I sent you the link however You Tube it kept getting deleted.

This is quite right that we’re home only some of the time….a whole day spent at home feels ‘wasted’ for some reason 😅 but we do live near to the sea so a stroll nearby happens many times even if we’re not going further afield. We both go out and about for different hobbies, and a date day each week. Today we went for a train trip and lunch at a fish restaurant. We were talking about when we were in our early 20s and laughing at shared memories about our naivety about the world.

Hi Tom, the good ole’ pen & paper is probably rarely used nowadays, most folk just type away on their phone, carry on your tradition & keep jotting down those thoughts! For my videos, lots of my ideas come as I’m out & about hiking the local mountains and walking the trails with my dog, something about the fresh air and silence is really stimulating. All the best mate, Oz

Hi Tom! I enjoy your videos and your perspectives offer me something to reflect on and apply in my own life. Please consider getting a selfie stick or take some pics of your walk every day!

Hello Tom. I have used the pen and notebook. Most times for things I need to do. Also inspiration sayings. Thank you for sharing so much 😊👋🐿️

Hi mate, coming from London Oz was always my #1 choice to live, spent a while up in Noose (Sunshine beach) and met a load of great people. But I still had itchy feet & kept travelling, ended up in British Columbia Canada where I settled down. Both countries have wide open spaces, friendly folk & a good quality of life. Nice video

The biggest issue for us ‘Aged parents’ with offspring living in Australia the current wait for a visa is 14 years for contributory 864 visa and 30 years for non contributory 804. Whilst waiting onshore you get a BVA bridging visa - but with lots of restrictions around buying a home. You have to pay 7% stamp duty plus foreign investor fees which are HUGE. If we move our pensions to Australia again huge restrictions and fees, and we lose 25% to UK govt by moving SIPs from the UK. Also you must have majority of your kids living there. So anyone with 3 kids (2 living elsewhere) has issues… we’ve got just one so we’re ok. The offshore visas are the same with 12-14 years wait (contribution) and 30 years wait (non contribution). The only other option is the 870 which is a 5 year visa (but no reciprocal health care) and you can only get this visa twice with a 90 days where you must leave Australia in between. We’re still trying to work out what’s the best option for us, so just planning on multiple entry tourist visas for the time being.

Australia is on my bucket list to visit. I want to paddle out at Surfer's Paradise, on the Gold Coast. I also want to see Sidney and the Great Barrier Reef.

I have several cousins in Australia around the Melbourne area. One of my aunts emigrated there with her husband as Ten Pound Poms, but they later returned to the UK and retired there. Were you also one of the Poms and do you still have your UK nationality? I've kept mine although I've lived abroad for over 40 years.

Here's the link to the photos Tom. I can't seem to be able to reply to your reply in my first comment. The top row of photos show you those men. www.google.com/search?q=British+SAS+WW2&oq=bri&gs_lcrp=EgZjaHJvbWUqDggAEEUYJxg7GIAEGIoFMg4IABBFGCcYOxiABBiKBTIOCAEQRRgnGDsYgAQYigUyBggCEEUYOzIGCAMQRRg8MgYIBBBFGD0yBggFEEUYQTIGCAYQRRhBMgYIBxBFGEHSAQgxNzU3ajBqN6gCALACAA&sourceid=chrome&ie=UTF-8

One big stable weather system in Australia! It’s a bit different in the UK! The weather forecasters study the UK because we have 5 major weather systems competing for supremacy over the UK: artic maritime (cold and wet), polar continental (cold and dry), tropical continental (warm and dry), tropical maritime (warm and wet) and polar maritime (cold and wet), plus the jet stream moves north and south over the UK depending on the season, but has kinks in it just to make things interesting and keep us on our toes. The only thing that you can guarantee is that the weather is going to change, and you can sometimes experience all four seasons in one day.

Great insights and always uplifting to listen to. Yes we still are lucky to be living in this country. Take this as a compliment Tom, but that thumbnail of you in the Antarctic reminds of a classic photo of one of members of the original British SAS sitting in three jeeps in the North African desert during WW2. You're almost the spitting image of the bearded bloke at the very front. You've probably seen the photo. Thank you as always. Sean.

I Second that, AUSTRALIA IS THE BEST COUNTRY IN THE WORLD.

It is really cool to see pictures of your adventures when you were younger. It would be great to see more.

The leaves are turning here in the lower mtns of the Sierras here in California too. The worst outcome for Australia would be to allow itself to be dragged into the dying NATO/US empire's desire for turning Australia into a staging area for war with China. So many different War Mongers here in the states it's really sad.

Some day I hope to visit Australia..... some day!

Hello. Australia sounds like a nice place to live. Here in mid USA, fall is approaching,leaves are changing colors. Night temperatures are near freezing. I do like the four seasons. Thank you for sharing. Best regards 😊👋🐿️

I think I would miss the seasonal change Tom ...i.e everything from -25 F to 100+ with lots of wind ( blowing hard as I speak lol) here in the Midwest US. Australia sure sounds great though.

Love your positivity Arthur. So many people are negative these days about our country but I always ask them, where's it better? I do hope housing becomes more affordable though but there is never any focus on the good things - just hyper focus on negativity.

Not sure about freedom in Australia. Australia and NZ had some of the most tyrannical lockdowns during the plandemic.