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Troy Spry
United States
Приєднався 20 жов 2011
My name is Troy Spry and I’am speaker, author, and certified dating & relationship coach. I reside in the Charlotte, NC area. I like to call myself a "reality expert" and I believe I have a very unique and practical perspective on life, love, and relationships hence the reason I created my blog www.xklusivethoughts.com, wrote my book also at www.xklusivethoughts.com, and have now created my youtube channel!
I hope to help people get out of their own way in life & love so that we can first become better people, then be better mates, crest better relationship & have better communities.
Come and join the ride and tell a friend to tell a friend to join also!
I hope to help people get out of their own way in life & love so that we can first become better people, then be better mates, crest better relationship & have better communities.
Come and join the ride and tell a friend to tell a friend to join also!
Life, Love, and Everything In Between featuring Ray Singleton!
This episode includes a dope conversation with a special guest, Ray Singleton! Ray is a public figure and internet sensation that went viral and ended up on the likes of Black Love, Americas Got Talent and the Ellen DeGeneres show telling the story of his journey of love and marriage while supporting his late wife, Rosyln Singleton through her fight with brain cancer (glioblastoma). In this episode we get to know Ray on a deeper level, discuss some of his challenges after Rosyln passed from her illness, and dove into his journey towards finding new love with his new Fiancé Lexus Wilson. This is one of the most fun, enlightening, yet mature conversations you will ever listen to with 3 black men who discuss everything from authenticity, to vulnerability, to ego death, keeping long-term love alive, soulmates, and finding new love. Oh, and you know we debated RNB music! TAP IN, you don't want to skip this one.
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Think About This Before Leaving Your Relationship!
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Think About This Before Leaving Your Relationship!
8 Things You Should Look for When Choosing a Potential Mate or Spouse?
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In this conversation with the Awareness Strategist Ladawn Elliott we spoke about some very practical things you should look for and consider when choosing a mate! Take a listen!
The Lions Den Episode 1 "What Men Wish Women Knew"
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In this episode 3 quality men discuss the different things about dating and relationships that they wish women knew.
Common Misperceptions That Women Have About Men!!!
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Common Misperceptions That Women Have About Men!!!
This 1 BIG Thing is ANNOYING & a TURNOFF! Know the difference...👀
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This 1 BIG Thing is ANNOYING & a TURNOFF! Know the difference...👀
7 Reasons A Man May Be Emotionally Unavailable To You!
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7 Reasons A Man May Be Emotionally Unavailable To You!
DADDY Issues In Men & How They Manifest In DATING!
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DADDY Issues In Men & How They Manifest In DATING!
WOMEN HAVE SPOKEN! 7 Qualities of MASCULINE Men That Women LOVE!
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WOMEN HAVE SPOKEN! 7 Qualities of MASCULINE Men That Women LOVE!
MEN HAVE SPOKEN!🗣 7 Things Masculine Men LOVE about Feminine Women!
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MEN HAVE SPOKEN!🗣 7 Things Masculine Men LOVE about Feminine Women!
5 Reasons To Reconsider “GOING WITH THE FLOW” when dating!
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5 Reasons To Reconsider “GOING WITH THE FLOW” when dating!
5 Dating Tips & Why “PLAYING IT COOL” is keeping you single! Especially #4!
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5 Dating Tips & Why “PLAYING IT COOL” is keeping you single! Especially #4!
The #1 Thing People Complain About When Dating!!
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The #1 Thing People Complain About When Dating!!
Why you need to get out of that SITUATIONSHIP & why couples need to stop being miserable together!👀
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Why you need to get out of that SITUATIONSHIP & why couples need to stop being miserable together!👀
Black Women vs. Black Men and how we can be BETTER for each other!
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Black Women vs. Black Men and how we can be BETTER for each other!
LET’S TALK ABOUT SEX! 5 Things You May Need To Do To Improve Your Sex Life!
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LET’S TALK ABOUT SEX! 5 Things You May Need To Do To Improve Your Sex Life!
How To Know If You’re In A “Struggle Love” Relationship!
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How To Know If You’re In A “Struggle Love” Relationship!
Why your relationship might not be as HAPPY as you think!👀😩
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Why your relationship might not be as HAPPY as you think!👀😩
NEWS FLASH!!! Why your EXES might just be whats keeping you SICK 😷 👀 🎤
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NEWS FLASH!!! Why your EXES might just be whats keeping you SICK 😷 👀 🎤
Why you need to stop making DATING so HARD!!
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Why you need to stop making DATING so HARD!!
3 Reasons Your Relationship Might Be Falling Apart & why you should SHUT UP & Listen!
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3 Reasons Your Relationship Might Be Falling Apart & why you should SHUT UP & Listen!
Are you experiencing real LOVE or just unhealthy CODEPENDENCY??
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Are you experiencing real LOVE or just unhealthy CODEPENDENCY??
NEW VIDEO 🚨!! 5 VERY UNHEALTHY & UNATTRACTIVE THINGS PEOPLE DO WHEN DATING & IN RELATIONSHIPS!!
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NEW VIDEO 🚨!! 5 VERY UNHEALTHY & UNATTRACTIVE THINGS PEOPLE DO WHEN DATING & IN RELATIONSHIPS!!
4 Things Your Parents May Have Never Taught You About Relationships!!
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4 Things Your Parents May Have Never Taught You About Relationships!!
How To Create Deeper Intimacy! (Can’t We All Just Get Along)?
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How To Create Deeper Intimacy! (Can’t We All Just Get Along)?
Should women “shoot their shot” and approach men?
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Should women “shoot their shot” and approach men?
Why Your ENERGY might be turning people off & keeping you single!
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Why Your ENERGY might be turning people off & keeping you single!
Why are you so “stuck” on this person?
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Why are you so “stuck” on this person?
I have an honest question? My business partner is married and I didn't find out until months of working with him. Before I found out I would be flirtatious and sensual with him. I am a feminine woman. But since I found out I started calling him bro or bruh. lol He never really talks about his marriage nor have I seen his wife so I often forget he's married. How can I still be feminine around him without crossing the lines?
We no longer care… most women are checking out of the toxic, player, fake, alchoholic time wasting deadbeat, victims bu by .. never was a feminist.. but y’all are just absolute time wasters. No, I did not go for the chads.. no, I did not go for money.. dates several different age groups and races and there’s absolutely no point.
Yes!!!!!
I like😢men to do all these things!
Sorry 😂🤣😆🤣😅!!!! I left that shit behind me decades ago !!!!! Buh Bye!!!👋🖕
This was good 🎉
What are ypu wearing 😂
My first time seeing your content. And I'm sold. I have boat-loads of respect for you for giving unpopular opinions. The coaches who just tell us what we want to hear to rack up subscriptions is exactly what's STILL wrong with dating as a woman. I believe every point you've made because these are also qualities that will make or break most of my female friendships.
Love this♥️
Are you talking about black women? As black women we are very feminine. We look good, we smell good, we good. ❤❤❤❤
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I guess it just depends on people's understanding of "go with the flow" i personally tell men that because I want to be friends first.. therefore, I keep my options open, I don't make myself openly available such as giving sex and doing next level things with no direction. I don't even wanna pursue a relationship with someone without even being their friend first. Building a friendship is the 1st thing to any romantic relationship. If I don't like you as a friend I damn sure don't want you as my man lbvs
Yes just ended my 2yr relationship with a mommy boy with severe daddy issues, they were both physically abused by the father, they both need therapy the trauma bonding is unreal..!
I was listening to a Tupac song and he literally said if we keep up the way we do men are going to hate women. Called it.
Speak Lord!!!!!!
you forgot to say a lot of BLACK men. sorry to make generalizations but i have rarely met an emotionally available black man....African and Hispanic men however...are 9 times out of 10 emotionally available
Go with the flow = selfishness cloaked in pretense.
"He didn't leave you. I REMOVED him." (GOD) "Rejection is often GOD's protection. Take comfort in knowing that whatever is for you, will not pass you by. It obviously wasn't meant for you. Stop thinking that something is wrong with you. Everything will come into your life at the right appointed time. "Sometimes, the BREAKUP is the blessing." (Tyler Perry)
Thanks for this 🙏🏾
What if you & you ex still communicate from time to time, she still wants you but in a situation where she’s just going with the flow & says it’s complicated. What do they mean by that?
Honest question - but if a man has/had a preference and always only dated that preference/type of woman, even if they found someone entirely different they say they love, wouldn’t they possibly have a wandering eye or when things get hard in the relationship, it be easier for them to return to what was the original preference? Sorry for the run on sentence! Trying to make the question clear. lol
Yes. For example, I recently broke up with a guy who followed really thick/fat models or women with bbls. After a few months of me requesting he unfollow them, he admitted that’s his type (big butts). He knows it’s wrong to be following them (he doesn’t even allow his daughters to follow him because they’ll see), but since that’s what he likes he refused to unfollow them and said that I shouldn’t judge what he likes. He even told me if he’s with his friends and someone with a big butt walks by, he’ll/they’ll point it out cause “that’s what guys do”. If his love for me was strong, he would unfollow them and change his mindset. It’s a really immature mindset. I’ve always liked any type of guy as long as he had good hygiene, nice style, etc. But men are raised to be lustful so they are mesmerized by assets whether they like them big, small, a certain shape, etc. It sucks that this is the way things are but I love myself too much to settle for a guy who only half way loves and respects me.
Some men are able to mature and change their mindset, but other men are stuck in their childish ways. The world has set us up to fail. I wanted to be married and it’s like that may not ever happen because of societal norms these days.
@@d.c.5033please dont think all men are like this. What a pig. I never look beyond my partner, i cant even imagine looking at another woman like that
Is 7 weeks too early to ask this ?
Make more videos please 🙏🏾
Thanks for the message, definitely needed to hear it
Men are stupid 😂😂😂😂
I know this guy for 2 years we were friends first, then we had some intimacy but nothing tooooo much out of it. All good, I had to move from 1 county in Europe to another and we were never too much of a big deal. Recently I came back to basically the same city where we met and some months before coming back, he started to reach out and really coming after me, asking things, being presente and straight forward with his intentions, so we reconnect and start texting but still very chill…now has been 2 months that we’ve been going ona few dates and texting (because we live pretty close by but still not in the same city) but, almost a month ago he stopped texting the same way, often doesn’t reply my messages or reply one out of 3/4 messages that I sent and then sends me something nothing related to what was in the messages. I asked him if everything was okay, if something changed, that I was feeling him distant and also said that I enjoy being with him and I’ve been wanting more connection but because of how things were happening I wasn’t sure if he still want that and so on….he was in a work trip so he said that he would be coming back in the next day and he would be able then to reply for my text…proceed to not answer me for 7 days and then when he does he says "let’s not make it difficult or a science out of it , that he really likes spending time with me, has been missing time with me as well" and after that fells like im trying to get an appointment with him every time we try to see each other, he tries to make dates but just when doesn’t mess up with the rest of his week. I’m reading this wrong ??
It's hurtful when the person you loved chooses someone else. He wants back into my life but is blocked. If a man doesn't appreciate my presence then he's not worth being in my life anyway. 💯
Can we also talk about the “go with the flow” kind of men that goes out of his way/put on this mask like he wants an exclusive relationship with you? Does and says the right things intentionally and then later on switch up? This video put out great facts, but I wish that was talked about more 🍵
exactly!! Wise words
This sounds legit but a lot of men don’t even know how to lead. So that alone throws everything off.
Wow. I’m sure you were trying to help with this video, but this just made me feel worse than I already was. Basically you’re saying it’s our fault the guy chose the other girl over us. Thx!
Found this because I searched "what is struggle love" because the way people describe it, basically, if he has money, and we're together, it's not struggle love. Which is wild because some people with money are not good people. I really love that you broke down struggle love beyond physical means. If my life has taught me anything, it's that resources come and go as do physical things. It's all replaceable. I feel it's silly to base love off of physical things and to an extent money, although that is important. I can get things and money on my own. He can get things and money on his own. This clarified a lot of what I've been feeling about what struggle love actually is. Thank you. 💜
This is very true no again. There's obviously exceptions to the Rule. And it really depends on the woman because if she really likes you She wants nothing more than your time in attention and to be in a relationship with you.. Now with that being said if she starts to pull away or say I want to go with the flow Uber going to fast. It can mean multiple things This is where clarification comes in. Now if she wants to go slow because she's been hurt in her past Let's use that as an example. It's something that needs to be discussed because her past experience is ruining her present experience she's bringing the past into the present. Saying I don't wanna get hurt again or whatever the situation is. Without fully understanding that you are not that guy.. What at the same time as men you can't Logic Explain to women. Because they go off of how they feel.. So you only have 2 choices in the matter You could go with the flow And literally that relationships probably going to come 2 and end You're just avoiding the inevitable. Or you could talk about it and come to a solution. Now it depends on the woman If you think it's worth it if you want to put the time in.
Women need to learn submission, men should be given there place 💕
~ "let's take it slow" ~ "let's see what happens" ~ "let's go with the flow" Unless both people are very clear on their expectations from the get go, these arrangements can [& will] set people up for disillusionment, disappointment, hurt & betrayal in the long run 😢
Just bought it on Amazon
Amen
That's my cue to wish him all the best in all his endeavours and find someone who isn't just looking for a place holder. The one guy I dated who wanted to go with the flow was 38, never married no kids but desperate to start a family but wanted to go with the flow. Our convoys fizzled and 2 years later when I saw his FB he was still single and 40 now. In my experience go with the flow men are users or just genuinely clueless in what they want. If you want a life of purpose, stability and direction steer clear or risk wasting your own time.
#4, stay away from me! Don’t waste my time! He got me invested after months of dating and when I asked if we’d progress to more, got rejected and said he’s not interested in a relationship right now. Truth is, he’s ready for a relationship… just not with me.
I totally agree
Thanks mate
how can i properly tell/introduce this to someone i am close to? i see them falling into a deep father less personality
we woman appreciate you....
Thank you!
You're right, bruh. 😅
Ahh really good thank you for these words of wisdom
Men deprive others of love so much, boys become targets for enmeshment from many members of society probably as they are not able to defend themselves yet and people are so starved for validation from men. Its a cycle. If grown men were more present that would take the pressure off of boys but they are just remembering the fear of childhood so they stay guarded. So the cycle continues. A truly evolved person has to both process the pain and fear of childhood and decide to create a different pattern for the next generation at the same time. Without people like that, patterns just cannot change. Its okay for boys and men to feel scared, to feel victimized and until they realize its safe to admit that, they will not heal. There is also the element of shame obviously and many men cajole others to be complicit in doing wrong especially toward women just to not feel alone in their shame and self-loathing.. it has obviously become a big problem - just something men refuse to acknolwedge - shame hurts too and men need to address their shame for themselves instead of being afraid of being condemned.
Went with a girl who tells me "I'm going with the flow." My flow could be different from hers. lol
He didn’t choose you because it was God’s plan. Not because any of the things he is saying in here.
That's right . But not always , even God's plan abide with conditions.
what you're talking about with son and mother is called emotional incest, as the boy tends to be their emotional support