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You are so pretty!

Autistic people always look so young, you look 24

I'm kind of the opposite of you regarding coffee shops. I like the background noise, like white noise, and being in solitude but with others. Like parallel play for grownups lol. I don't like malls/shopping centers either. Too much. Lush is a Canadian company. We have them in the US too, but... you can't use US gift cards in UK Lush shops :( I go to the UK every summer and found that out.

I'm 38 and a special education teacher so I have loads of autism knowledge and work with autistic children every single day. I've thought for years that I might be on the spectrum, but dismissed my feelings of myself because I didn't want to be one of the many diagnosing themselves with autism. Last week at therapy though, my therapist mentioned it too as a wondering and now I'm deep in. I'm thinking about getting formally tested, but haven't decided yet. I live in the US. Thanks so much for your videos :)

Thank you for seeing you and sharing your witness. I have late diagnosed high masking Autism also. 🌻 I see it’s been three years since this video was released. At the end, were you referring to your flat affect?

May I ask if you’re married? If so, how do you manage emotional dysregulation when he’s at home with you? When you feel the need to vent alone, as you mentioned, how do you explain that to him?

Your voice is just fine! 🙏❤️

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Led lighting is difficult for me. I have to were dark glasses. I struggling with traveling.

That's a very interesting point to make that I've thought a lot about, too. Years back I went out with a friend to a restaurant while I was mildly sick, and my hearing was like being under water. I noticed that my anxiety level was strangely low though I'd usually be very anxious about going out, and it dawned on me it was related to not being able to hear all the noise around me. That was a huge eye-opener. I always thought it was just the people who freaked me out, but it's actually largely the sensory information that makes me feel I have to be alert for EVERYTHING that is happening, and I get overloaded (people still freak me out). I still don't know if I have GAD or not or if it's autism, because if there is a new situation or something, I will run myself crazy trying to predict every single little thing that might happen and prepare myself for all of it. I can't stop until every single scenario is thought through and I've found a 'solution' to deal with all of them. But I suppose that might very well be related to needing everything to be predictable and certain.. but they say anxiety does that to you too, so it becomes hard to distinguish. Sigh!

Hearing my experience here! Since my 20's I have had 'GAD'. It would trigger every time I went out of the house, any little change in the environment or situation would trigger it. It was so severe I developed agoraphobia. I suffered depression and an extremely serious negative mental health state (now much improved) all due to not being diagnosed sooner. I received my diagnosis last month at 43. I managed to stopped the 24/7 cycling of constant anxiety, however treating the agoraphobia wasnt working. GAD was just an effect of undiagnosed ASD. I did manage do deal with that spiral and stop it. I came to realise that what triggered me when I was 'out' actually wasnt fear or anxiety that agoraphobia is. It was a very different feeling. Now realise that the light, sound, motion around me was causing me to overload, what I was feeling was overwhelm just before the bodies reaction of flight. Late diagnosis is only pointless to those that havent had that 'something' ruin their lives up to that point.

Thank you so much for this video! That was very insightful and real, and very relatable. I really appreciate it. I'm about to be assessed as well and I fear a surface level stereotypical assessment, especially as a woman later in life. Unfortunately, a private assessment wouldn't be an option, so I hope everything goes well. I liked the point about how you develop strategies. I do the same, even in terms of trying to make my mind work, so my executive dysfunction and my generalized anxiety don't act up too much. I'll remember to mention that, too :).

Omg..... maybe my GAD is not GAD 😮😮😮😮😮 this really hits home. Shopping in any form is actually torture for me

Thank you I'm going to have my assessment soon thank you very much for your video loads of love

I know am autistic. Period

Where I grew up in Northern Ireland if you wanted a full portion of chips you would ask for "a chip" and if you wanted a small portion of chips you were asked for " a half chip". As you might expect my first visit to the a shop in Oxford got me some very funny looks especially as I wasn't very hungry and only wanted a little bit of food.

Thank you for raising awareness about these distinctions, they're so very important for our capacity for self regulation and de-pathologising ❤

If I don't see the title I won't watch that video.

So let me just clarify, I'm not supposed to ask out pretty women in the supermarket? Idk how I will ever find a date.

What you're saying about watching disaster movies to know what to do is spot on. More towards the horror genre, but there's a fascinating book called The Frighteners: Why We Love Monsters, Ghosts, Death & Gore by Peter Laws. It goes into this in quite some depth. The research suggests similar reasoning for women watching horror movies, especially ones in which the victims are female. It's a 'what would I do,' or more often, 'what shouldn't I do,' situation observed from a safe distance.

I'm pretty sure I had a lunch box, but I can't entirely remember what was on it. I feel like I may have had a blue Thomas the Tank Engine one and a bright-pink My Little Pony one at some point. But I vividly remember the Dogtanian wallpaper in my bedroom. And I can't think about it without hearing the theme tune. It was pretty annoying.

I can relate to everything you said. I was diagnosed with audhd a couple weeks ago, I'm 49. I was also diagnosed with anxiety a couple years ago and yes, the medication didn't work but I did end up with awful withdrawals. Thank you for sharing your story.

Well done you and thank you, thank you...this really helps me.

Thank you

One can have autism, and GAD. Autism never exists as a solo condition.

I wants one! I needs one! 😍

Is it possible to purchase one of the pendants online? I went to your website & didn't see anything. Unfortunately, I am unable to visit Glasgow. They're beautiful! Thanks for posting.

Beautiful

Another woman co-opting a disability. Why is it women are always the victims, never the victimizers.??? I’m a man not diagnose until 59.

Just had a similar experience (as a 45 year old male) trying to get an ASD diagnosis with the NHS - apparently I can't be autistic because 1) I have a degree 2) I managed to get a job after being long term unemployed. Was diagnosed with "autistic traits but not the full condition". The same for ADD.

ASD late diagnosed is rarely if ever seen without CPTSD. I’m so sorry you had to endure such outdated and limited perspectives that led to dismissing your experience. Congrats on finding what you needed with adequate depth to feel confident in the result. I’m sure you’re familiar with the concept of masking, especially in late diagnosed females. You might appreciate taking the CAT-Q test, which is free and well explained on the Embrace Autism website. Thank you for speaking up to share your experience. It takes a lot of courage. It’s nice to see a mid forties woman representing a broader view of the Autism Spectrum. I’m 44 and late diagnosed as well, and a writer and creative type. And I just got an ADHD diagnosis too.

Thank you for this, it's very relatable for me. A therapist would ask "so what are your thoughts in the run up to this overwhelm?" I'm like... there are none, literally. It is not a problem of thinking.

Thank you for Pushing to the finish line. I parallel you quite closely. I am a woman and i just happened to embrace sci-fi at a very young age. Your last remarks were the best ones for me as i lay on bed trying to remember to breathe and relax. (49,) My kids are almost grown and my of think I'm cool because i like to play Diablo 3. I see I must change my communication style from Assassin to Sorceress. It is Very difficult. I do it 5 min, then 10 baby steps. I have to change my "battle" style from hand-to-hand to range "fighter". It is soooo hard 'cuz I love the game, and I HATE being a range fighter. I have to move slow and and steady, no matter what is going on around me in the game. I am an expert assassin, soooo I already know what "they" might to next, and that seems to help me. Allegory. I hope you can understand. P.S. The closing credits almost caused me a heart attack😂 husband is sleeping, so heart rate picked up instead under muffled giggles into my pillow! You're killin' me, Girlfriend, in a good way 😊I haven't even Read them yet. Well done, bravo sister you lifted me from my utter despair to cheerful hope in an instant w your end credit humor. Thank you i love you i get you you are a hero. There is no emoji to tell you how deeply you touched me and how grateful i am. Nighty night 🙏🏻 HEAVY EDITs. 2 hours. exhausting, yes? If you'd ever like to discuss sci-fi w another person like you in almost every way important, or Robert Jordan, Brandon Sanderson, Tolkien, etc I have that under my "lid" as well. Love it. 😊 Peace out ✌🏻

You do all that!? Wow... Remember, you are not ILL. We are just Mac hardware try to run Windows operating systems. Natural divergence occurs amongst all species on the planet. Why not Humans? Thank for speaking for me. You are helping to allow balance amongst humans All of Us, typical or atypical. Time for humanity to re-embrace common courtesy. Minding our manners and slowing down across the board on the Earth, i think would help everybody.

Thankyou for this. I need to know all you said. I often am out of balance and disregulated. My brain gets overwhelmed like its swollen and I freeze causing shutdowns. Alone time and movies help distract and calm me down.

I totally relate but was thinking it's like this for everyone 😄

Thank you for your video and I hope you are doing OK 🫶🏼

It boils my blood how many women are let down this way . I believe, I can relate. I am not officially diagnosed. Had a 30 minute chat with the junior nurse (man) through the NHS. After this they were confident I'm not autistic. Wow. Pathetic. Left me feeling like an idiot. It's total BS and neglect to work like this. Going for a second opinion (hopefully a proper expert now).

thank you, Emma.

I have found that man hating - misanderistic NHS policies hinder diagnosis for many many men and boys. Feminist man hating theories are now embedded in the NHS... It is such a great shame because many men and especially young innocent boys suffer because of misanderistic man hating feminist theories found within the NHS... IT REALLY IS A GREAT SHAME..

One thing as of July 2023: I would advise against getting involved with Librovox. It is a way to learn the business, but any projects that you complete with them you should be aware that your voice and that recording is in the public domain as is the source material. It has come to light Microsoft and Apple and other tech companies have absorbed those recordings in their AI synthetic voice training. If you plan to make money from your voiceover efforts, it may be down the road you will be competing with a synthetic version of yourself. Real human a narrators and voice artist of all kinds are doing everything they can not to help AI replace authentic narration.

Oh captain my captain!

Once or twice I questioned myself if I was on the mild side of the spectrum after my son was diagnosed, but I brushed it out of my head. I am revisiting those thoughts in recent days because my second husband is in the process of getting evaluated. As I was doing research on ASD, my husband & I questioned if our daughter may be on the spectrum. If she is she masks it really well in hiding it. As I looked into how difficult it is to diagnose girls & women in general, I saw signs that I displayed!!! A lot of them. But to come to the reality of it, brings me clarity & shame of who I am if I am autistic. I always felt like the underdog,the outcast, the black sheep, now I have a clearer why if it’s true. I think I might go thru the process if I am too. I need answers. I do have dyslexia and I was terribly shy as a kid but flourished around people I was familiar with. Thank you for sharing your story! It helped me so much!!

Interestingly some autistic people are at the opposite end of the senses spectrum.. eg my autistic friend and I were in the same room where the smell of bleach to me was unbearable, whereas he couldn’t even smell it!!!!

Are you able to share who you had the second assessment with? I found out recently that the NHS has a ‘right to choose’ scheme where you can use a different provider for assessment without paying if it’s an NHS approved provider. I am trying to look into it for ADHD as have been referred but the waiting list is about 4 years. I now also think I could have autism as well, so may see if I can get assessment for both.

After a shitty diagnosis, I would have trouble believing in the second one. I would ask myself again and again: What if the first one was right? What if the second just told me what I wanted to hear? How would one overcome this dilemma?

Got a 39 out of 50 on the AQ. I've been diagnosed with social-anxiety / generalized anxiety / major depression disorder in my 20s. I'm 41 now. I already know I've developed coping strats / masking skills as I've gotten older. I don't know if I can / should pay people to give me a label because I don't know if would really change anything or help me in the end. The whole situation makes me feel sad and a bit hopeless. Healthcare in USA is really bad. Least I'm not the only one. Wishing all of you love and endurance.

Blind worship of the NHS is profoundly toxic!

A late diagnosed 40 year old male here. When I received my diagnosis I was in the middle of burnout. I was near hysteria at the beginning of my assessment. Thank goodness I was in the hands of a professional who recognized what he was witnessing. I also believe I have ADHD and would have to pay another large sum of money to get that diagnosis. I’m so happy I went through with it. I feel for anyone who is not so fortunate to find a good doctor. Do your research. Not only for ASD but for your practitioner. Bless you.