Відео

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He gave up his job, we had two children, I went back to work as a teacher … he didn’t pay the bills, added to our mortgage without my knowledge by getting me to sign paperwork “for the accountant “ as I was leaving for work … he was devious. I finally got out after 3 years of counselling when I finally felt strong enough to ask for a divorce.

I Do Not Have A Penny For Food,Let Alone Escape.

Have gone through this, was married to an Narcissist for 28yrs, it was MENTAL TORTURE.

Thank you UK ladies for this video 💗💖! Very informative and educational along with helpful. I'm a feminist and I believe women can change the world for the better. I'm a victim of coercive control myself and can relate to y'all.

Menopausal women with feminist agenda have infiltrated the health system in Australia and uk

Why isn't anybody talking about the psychological abuse meeted out to Lady Di from Charles...this scenario was played out for all the world to see...any consequences for Charles...NOPE

Don't give them a frontdoorkey!

Befuddles their victim with shock, trauma etc

My ex husband = PTSD.

I hear you. Xxx i know.

14:45 awwww

THIS happens in families as well. I had this from my Mother and Sister.😢😢

it creates more fear than physical violence .

He always makes excuses. I’m so tired.

Just bullies they are how dare they abuse females.😮

40%+ of victims are male. Why do poele only care about women? We must stsrt treating domestic violence as the genderless crime it realy truly is.

Say something _I've given up on you_and now u don't exist_i can not see you any more_bye bye

Thanks for the information. During my divorce, my soon-to-be ex recruited his friends and family to help him harass me. After the divorce, his family received the same treatment. They divorced him as well. It wasn't personal, although it felt that way at the time. He was abusive and controlling to everyone that would allow it. I was targeted because I was there, in the line of fire. I realized that it was unhealthy and removed him from my life via divorce. I'm not a punching bag or an emotional dumpster. It's great that information about coercive control is reaching more people. Thanks again.

It’s actually called Narcissistic Abuse. Coercive control is just one of their many tricks.

YOU LEAVE BUT YOU NEVER FORGET

The stereotypes depicted in these videos is always focused on men who abuse. When the perpetrators are: in a position of economical/ influential power - a relative - female then the coercive abuse can seem invisible and doubly difficult to evidence as it is invariably perpetrated under the guise of feigned care and concern.

Back in the early 90’s. I left my coercive control relationship. It didn’t have a name then. He is also a narcissist. I agree that it has damaged me forever. I am in a great relationship now. I am glad this side of abuse is coming out & being recognised.

No it can't happen to anyone and does not happen to everyone

Trauma bonding 😢

Are only men perpetrators, and only women victims?

I actually think I’d rather not be alive than to be in a controlling relationship. However, I understand the complexity and the challenges of escaping from these terrible types of relationships. Respect to everyone who feels strong enough to share their stories.

My ex would break things, and rage if I spoke to her about her behavior. She isolated me, and punished me for speaking out about her hitting me. I couldn't communicate with her on anything without her twisting everything on me. I eventually just started walking away, and that would infuriate her even more. It seemed like she always started arguments just to kick me out of the house. Then she'd tell me how I don't deserve this, or how I don't deserve that. She would talk to me in a condescending tone, and would say I was emotionally abusing her if I told her how I felt. She also started blaming me for her problems at work. She said she felt the relationship was a one-way street, and how I made her feel like a stranger in her own home. She made me feel undeserving of being her lover, and she would never introduce me as her girlfriend. I didn't matter when her friends or strangers came around. I could go on and on. I've been single over ten years now. I learned to tolerate that toxic behavior from my emotionally abusive mother. Been years and years of therapy and healing. Just wow...this was very powerful.

The POS who killed the bird should be in jail, and they should throw away the key. Its vile, disgusting animal cruelty. Hope he rots in hell.

What about false accusations of controlling behaviour

No time for the woman who bought her known to be abusive partner a small vulnerable animal as a present. You put something even more defenceless than you in an environment to be harmed when it had not need to be.

We broke up over 6 years ago and it's still happening

Tells me to shut the mouth jumped up starting hitting me in head put pillow over face I scratched his face to get him off he did it in front his Freinds who are weaker scared of him so they could not help

He smashed up phones and also controls what to cook eat

I went to see a neighbour my Freund and told him what we said he threw into a rage threw phone at my head pulled my hair said I'm not allowed to have a Freind no more and said will tell her not to talk to me said he will ring her husband to say not to talk to me he breaks up my phone's uses my money blows it all does all the shopping jumps up over me and yes pillow if I cry or scream he pushes hand over my mouth

So this is a weird story. for about 10 years I have been writing a book about a guy who is abusive to his wife and of course his wife. Jeromiah and Daisy. Although I knew a lot about abuse already because I'd heard alot of stories and seen it in films, TV programs and videos and the like growing up, I gained a specific interest (sub consciously, so not consciously for research for the book) in domestic abuse and started watching lots of videos and reading stories and even buying books about it (people's real life stories of their own experiences) and videos like this one and short films about it. It was partly out of interest and partly for further research for my book and to explore and discover the nature of the characters even better as well as create more content for the book (because I see that there's not much detail in most fiction books about the psychology of the abuser and more details about the stuff that he does) I just had to stop... as I delved into it deeper and deeper I started comparing alot of the details to my own life and situation with someone I currently live with. It still didn't gel with me that this is actually happening to me. I figured because there was not alot of verbal or physical abuse I figured this is not my own situation and not happening to me. I have realised that my mum has been doing this to me for many years and have only just realised this now, at 31. Here's a brief summary of what she's done and what has happened: she has isolated me from other family (I always thought they just left and abandon us, i still don't know what is true anymore). they've disappeared and I don't know why. I find I have no friends now even tho I try to make new friends. I always thought it was my fault. I find myself isolated and don't understand why. I remember when I did make friends mum would try to turn me against them. There always seemed to be something wrong with them, she'd always say she had a bad feeling about them. my mum never really encouraged me to be independent growing up. I was always joined at the hip with her even by 16 when most kids are going places on their own. I didn't start going out on my own until I was 18. I've only just started going out by taxis and buses at 29 after mum broke her hip and covid happened because now I had to go do all the grocery shopping. I've never been able to go to college because she convinced me to become her carer when I was 20 because she started experiencing pain and couldn't cope. Because we had nobody else I had no help so had to do all the cooking, cleaning and other chores all by myself. I became depressed a few times because of it. No social life, no dating life, didn't get to do anything fun. Everything was now about my mum and not me, and she even said that. She said it's all about her now. She didn't even care about how I felt about it and if I was happy and ok with it all or if I needed help. I did complain a few times saying it's too much for me to do it all and I needed help but she insisted that i could do it all myself because she said she could. If I had any struggles with anything she's say i was just lazy and need to just get on with it because she did when she was able bodied and did everything herself. Plus she'd say she didn't want anybody else in the house, no strangers looking after her. after her heart attack she did become very aggressive and would have ago at me and yell at me for every little thing I did wrong or didn't do as she expected me to do and remember every little thing. She had to have everything done a specific way and expected me to remember, because she has OCD. She started getting all up in my face yelling at me and sometimes grabbing my shoulders/arms and shaking me and chasing after me even tho she was supposedly fragile recovering from a heart attack plus her other disabilities. there's so much more but it'd take me forever to explain every single little thing that she's done, said and what's happened. I feel like I've been robbed of my youth and even with all this I am still in denial

Financial control/dependence is my biggest barrier in breaking free from 12y of coercion, an invisible assault that has decimated my soul. Money is a huge obstacle for mothers with no childcare. No childcare, no work, no work, no money, no money, no freedom.

This is excellent. Such brace and moving testimonies. Thank you. I can relate to much of it: m.ua-cam.com/video/Ni069Rkbb6A/v-deo.html

If these laws were really prosecuted properly, 99% of women in long-term relationships would be in prison, right now.

I need help but I don't know what to do

Wasn't till I left that the fog lifted you never just get over it

Very true, walking on eggshells, blowing hot and cold, and it is not just in domestic situations it is in the workplace too

Men are victims too.

really important message and the production of this was fantastic

amazing work