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So true, it only takes one to end it. No matter how much you don't a divorce, if the other person isn't trying.

You are 100% correct! A husband is not enough people. Most Men just want women that do not talk. Clean and cook and are available for sex when they want it!

oh no have all the strength you need

What are the signs

Does it mean i am colder? (I have adhd and gave this ‘object permanence’ you mention -first time I have ever heard of it put into words)

Wow

Thank you

When they play mind games they wont be playn physical games

I really do not understand how any parent can decide to divorce and then loose at least half of your time with your children; especially if you are a male... Can anyone help me to understand; it seems to be very selfish?

So glad it is helpful!

This is valuable information for me right now. I’m holding it close. Thank you Kim and John Baptiste❤️

Are there other indications of an emotionally unsafe person, cuz I don't seem to fit the stereotype ans my wife recently said she doesn't feel emotionally safe around me. I am a highly logical person so when faced with emotions combined with reasoning that is possibly flawed I try to help her see a differnet perspective. I have recently realized that she doesn't respond well to this and have decided just to take it in and keep my reasoning for myself, even if I'm the reason of her discontent. Sex is non-existant and I'm kinda glad she hasn't expressed the desire for it because the idea of being intimate with someone who sees me as an emotuonal threat is unappealing. I'm not the type to cheat or seek a divorce because I know the pain those cause. I've resigned myself to keeping possibly controversial thoughts and emotions inside while trying tobe available physically instead of withdrawing into my cave of solitude.

This stuff is hell to heal from. The first time I heard a door slam in the hotel I’m staying at (after separating) and I immediately broke down in tears. Because my first reaction was about my ex, even thou I knew he wasn’t there with me. This feels impossible to heal from, and I just feel like a pathetic traumatized thing who will cry at the drop of a hat. Flee from situations that even remotely remind me of my ex. And leave me just full of self loathing because of the things I’ve allowed. And even now, I’m crying.

I feel like crying every time I come across new information about adhd that I struggled with all my life due to being late diagnosed and so thinking that everything was me being “terrible” The sheer amount of self esteem issues I’ve had because I couldnt understand myself is immeasurable and I’ll always be thankful to people who put out videos like this one that help educate not only others, but ourselves, ‘cause that’s how I’m finding little by little that I make sense. So thank you, I appreciate it a lot

I didn’t go because your poor I didn’t leave because you have nothing in your hand no job and can’t support me and the child i understand the big responsibilities behind i understand the pressure that pursuing you to make a decision that goes wrong and led to a bad situation i understand. Your efforts are never be forgotten it is a priceless it is a gift. and i see your efforts for bringing me to hospital for buying for me medicine for fixing my laces in my shoes for bringing me strawberry yogurt for bringing my strawberry 🍓 fruit and strawberry smoothie and for taking care of me for the 3months sickness when baby doesn’t accept the food in my stomach i appreciated everything. Your a wonderful husband a man that easy to get angry easy to get nervous 😬 and easy to laugh when he is happy 😃 The simple love and life you provide is what i need and what i ask to allah. i want to be your wife your best friend your lover and you are the best thing happen to me. I am sorry for my mistake that it is against your way and your rules i may not perfect as you want but thats all i can offer i have small heart ♥️ that offers you loyalty, love, trust , i leave for your peace, when you needed a wife and a child to be around you, our home in the Philippines is ready for you. I understand that you are lost your hurt and feeling empty inside but remember this is not a mistake this is Allah plans and soon you will appreciate this pain and when you feel lonely 😞 frustrated lost 😞 and not complete Our home is ready for you and you will reconsider to be home with me again. Loving you dearly Aamirah ♥️🇩🇿🇵🇭👩‍🍼

What do you do when they go from 0 to burn the world down in .03 seconds, and you're the focus of their rage?

I am filing on Monday. I can already feel the weight lifting. No time together, no dates or valentines. No vacations since 2008. I am the main breadwinner he is a failed entrepreneur after 20 years nothing to show. Worked me to death to support him and our 3 boys. Nothing to show for it but possible ovarian cancer, which I will find out about in a few weeks. I would rather die in my own filth by myself, than live one more year as his “wife”!

It’s not my safe place.

My husband wants me to spoil him on special days but he never remembers me on special days. He has so many excuses. I resent him so bad, then he always plays the victim

Because he's not gay, Pat

This was very helpful, thank you.

If you've tried literally every other line of communication throughout your entire relationship without any success, to try to explain this to your partner, this video I thought for sure could be the final success. After 3 years of trying to explain what I meant when I said I am lacking emotional trust for him and that it is what's been blocking my desire for closeness, I found this video. I thought it perfectly (and differently than I had been) described what I was feeling and what I was trying to convey. Thank you!

Living with someone with ADHD is very close to the same as living with a Narcissist 90% of the signs are exactly the same

I think marrying 10 months post death of spouse is way too soon!! I think both need to Compromise . I am dealing with adult Children giving him hell and judgement and the wife has been gone a year and a half!! He wants me to attend countless functions with all of them almost every weekend and they barely speak to me!! So I’ve been putting my boundaries up. The house looks like a shrine to her memory ! Here’s the kicker…I’m a widow too and all my deceased belongings are put away completely !!

She is in a parallel

Good counsel…

This is strong.

Wow, thank you. That was enlightening for me.

Super helpful!! I wish more people would put all this effort into their marriage rather than jumping straight to cutting things off and then regretting it later when it’s too late.

For me, I chose divorce after my 24 year marriage was obviously no longer connected. We were living like two roommates in the same house and there was nothing left. I wanted connection and love and commitment. He wanted to play and have fun on the ball field and the bar at night and I wanted to have a husband who cared as much about me as his good times (playing sports, canoe outings, camping trips, bars and drinking.-tihngs I was not interested in. I was interested in finishing the raising our two sons, building my business and regaining my health. .

Having gone through a divorce after 24 years at age 46, I wanted the (tiny three bedroom w a tiny lawn) family home because that is where I I felt safest, the most familiar and the most calm. I needed to heal in a place that I knew and could manage.

Girl, you are singing to the choir here. I believe that my husband age 78 has undiagnosed ADHD. We have been married 27 years and I have also been constantly disappointed, feeling let down, angry and resentful most of the time most of the time. I am currently in therapy to try to deal with what we had been thinking was his depression and his cognitive decline. But the more I study and research, I now think it is ADHD instead. How do we find the person who truly specializes in ADHD.

Thank you lord Jesus Christ for restoration in my marriage with Floyd Custodio Goes my husband in advance

Thank you so much for this information. It was very helpful.

10 minutes of saying nothing

I was actually going to list somethings from a male perspective... But women don't care about that. They just want validation. They/y'all never listen. So just divorce, never get married again, ride the carousel until you can't anymore. Dont look at yourself in the mirror, dont self reflect, dont put in any real effort and whatever you do, don't ask men for a mans perspective on men's issues. Stick to social media validation and women. That's been doing great for relationships the past 20 years.

It's the same for men, after a few years of marriage other things become more important.

My husband has done this. He'a a drug addict and mentally ill. It's not my fault at all!

Hi! I was looking for the links to the books you'd mentioned but im not seeing it.

The kicker is when the angry person flips it on you and makes it like you’re the problem 😢

BEST. ADVICE. EVER.

I'm working on it lady.

It's as tough question because she's right, it depends on each person's needs and those are as varied as the stars. But what I can say is that there are three things that keep a marriage going (IMHO). Communication. Listening. Action. Tons to unpack on each of these, but that's the groundwork (I mean outside of initial attraction, some common interests, shared values etc.). When the you know what hits the fan, you need to be able to do the three above things and have the partner be involved as well. I think a lot of couples struggle with that.

My husband doesn’t want sex and won’t talk about it won’t seek help talk to a friend or nothing he swears is is still attracted to me but there is no nothing but he watches porn and lies about it

If both spouses are in their 70's, most no sex anymore.

Every point you listed was present for me. Sad thing is that if one partner is already checked out, the counselor can’t save the marriage. We attended counseling at your firm. I learned a lot. Thank you.

7:00 - Men don't live in the world of "good enough." Men just don't put unrealistic expectations on another person in order to make themselves happy. Otherwise, I found this very, very refreshing... good to hear a woman understand a man's perspective so well. Thank you!

Women are habitual complainers... they get a rush from the conflict.

I have a similar situation, we have a good relationship we both have our flaws but have always communicated. Anytime I need emotional support from him he runs away and won't speak to me and uses reason why he's leaving that were OK before and we communicated about against me when I was under the impression it was still fine . Then all of a sudden he's told his family those reason which are so embarrassing for me and he knew it's something I'd only ever want him to know and told him how hurt I was he weaponized the one thing I trusted him with the most and then after hanging up that call , went and told my mother. I was so good to him and make sure he know I would do anything for him and he's done this before when I asked for emotional support so same situation I asked for it again this time and he took off but now using the thing I trusted and communicated to him as the reason. I'm so incredibly broken , I can't eat,sleep or even leave the house ,every Fibre of my being is on fire, and what happens if we do work it out , this one instance has created 1000 more issues , trust issues , I'll never want to be around his family cuz they enable this so he has never had to work stuff out he always runs home instead. I built us a beautiful life and was a good man to him , I don't understand how he can blame me and do every single thing he knows would break me the most , iv never felt this kind of pain

I been long suffering with husband with a prejudice that new he married a black woman that was playing with porn and emotional abusive me and would be nice to him because he was a slow learning thing I work and let him sleep in the bed until I got him SSI and social security then nurse at methodist hospital came in to try involved they self in our so called marriage and case manger behind my back because iam a black wife now abult protection service got into our so call marriage after I work ahelp him get on ssi and his social security now they took away from home because he fell out the bed on purpose lyning to get away from me because he was not responsible at all I had to do everything paying the bills may sure we had food to eat 100 percentage me the caregiver ,wife take him to his doctor a he was not irresponsible man it was a one side relationship I was neglecting my self and doing everything die him but adult protective services took away from home and he not calling me and I not call him I going to see what God doing do ? Next month in this marriage help me father God