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Paula Fontenelle
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Приєднався 18 вер 2019
This is a safe community to talk about suicide. I interview therapists, authors, and loss survivors to fight the stigma that surrounds this theme. For more information vist www.understandsuicide.com.
How to help a partner through suicide grief | Michelle Collins
After a series of losses, including the death of her mother and her husband’s suicide, Michelle Collins combined the tools she had collected as a yoga therapist and wellness coach and studies in positive psychology and neuroscience to turn post-traumatic stress disorder into post-traumatic growth and resilience.
She is the author of two books: “Surviving Spousal or partner suicide loss: A Mindful Guide for Your Journey Through Grief” and “Supporting a Survivor of spouse of partner suicide loss: A Mindful Guide for Co-journeying Through Grief.”
In this interview, we focus on how a partner or spouse can help their loved one through suicide loss.
Find Michelle: inhabitjoy.com/
Are you looking for an online suicide loss support group? Join mine: t.ly/gYW-G
Find my book "Understanding Suicide: Living with loss, paths to prevention:”
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Enroll in my course "How to help suicidal people."
bit.ly/3klNZ7n
Subscribe to my UA-cam channel:
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Visit my page www.understandsuicide.com
If you need to talk, contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline:
suicidepreventionlifeline.org
Phone: 988
She is the author of two books: “Surviving Spousal or partner suicide loss: A Mindful Guide for Your Journey Through Grief” and “Supporting a Survivor of spouse of partner suicide loss: A Mindful Guide for Co-journeying Through Grief.”
In this interview, we focus on how a partner or spouse can help their loved one through suicide loss.
Find Michelle: inhabitjoy.com/
Are you looking for an online suicide loss support group? Join mine: t.ly/gYW-G
Find my book "Understanding Suicide: Living with loss, paths to prevention:”
amzn.to/3QYe0II
Enroll in my course "How to help suicidal people."
bit.ly/3klNZ7n
Subscribe to my UA-cam channel:
rb.gy/0emdk
Visit my page www.understandsuicide.com
If you need to talk, contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline:
suicidepreventionlifeline.org
Phone: 988
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Surviving his mom's suicide: Dr. Richard Brockman
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Richard Brockman is a Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at Columbia University, College of Physicians and Surgeons, and Attending Clinical Psychiatrist at Columbia Presbyterian Medical Center. When he was seven years old he found his mother’s body after she died of suicide. This traumatizing experience reshaped the narrative of his life. In his book, "Life After Death: Surviving Suicide”, Dr. Br...
Two sisters grieve their mother's suicide | Veronika and Krystina
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Kristyna and Veronika Delmar are from the Czech Republic and they lost their mother to suicide a little over a year ago. In this interview, they share with us the different paths they took to live through their grief. Kristyna tried to “learn" everything she could about the topic by reading books and trying to get in touch with people who were going through the same kind of loss. Veronika was t...
Long COVID & Suicide: a growing concern | Dr. Jim Jackson
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Among specialists, there has been a growing concern about suicidal ideation among long COVID patients. In this interview, Dr. Jim Jackson shares his experience with long COVID patients and the struggles they experience when searching for answers, recognition, and proper treatment. Dr. Jim Jackson, PhD, is a neuropsychologist at Vanderbilt Medical Center and one of the world's leading authoritie...
He is a murder-suicide loss survivor | Michael
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My guest today, Michael, is a murder-suicide survivor. Nine years ago, his wife took the life of their two daughters, Kennedy, 13, and Bella, 6 years old. Then, she took her own life. In this interview, Michael talks for the first time about his experience, the impact it had on his life, how he dealt with suicidal thoughts after his losses, and what helped him stay alive. Trigger warning: This ...
A secret too heavy to carry | Marie Be
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Marie lost her husband, Joe, in June 2020. They had been together for thirty years and were also business partners, so as you may imagine, after his death, she had to pick up the pieces of her life. In this episode, she shares her journey, including the family secret he kept from her for years and its impact on his mental health. “He could not come to terms with what his memory was revealing to...
Dr Kirk Honda's view on suicide
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On my 100th episode celebration, I interviewed Dr. Kirk Honda, a therapist, and host of the podcast Psychology in Seattle. Having been a therapist since 1996, he has a Doctorate in Psychology, and a Master’s in Marriage and Family Therapy. Kirk has also been a professor since 1998. In the first part of this interview, Kirk talks about his experience with suicidal patients, as well as the theory...
A psychiatrist who fights the system | Dr. Aruna Tummala
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When Dr. Aruna Tummala, MD, came to the United States, she quickly learned that being a doctor here meant something quite different from her experience in India, her country of origin. One of the first things she was told at the University was never to touch her patients, which was quite shocking to her. She looks at the patient in a holistic manner and avoids conventional medication, particula...
Loving someone with suicidal thoughts | Stacey Freedenthal
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In this interview, I talk to Stacey Freedenthal, who just came out with a wonderful new book entitled "Loving Someone with Suicidal Thoughts: What Family, Friends, and Partners Can Say and Do.” I’m sure this will be tremendously helpful to those who have loved ones struggling with suicidal thoughts and ideation. Find Stacey’s book and take advantage of the promotion in January: bit.ly/3QN3bKk F...
Dealing with the holidays | Dr. Doreen Marshall
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In this conversation, Dr. Doreen Marshal, Ph.D., vice President of Mission Engagement at the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention, talks about how to avoid - or at least diminish - stress during the holiday season. Doreen has a Doctorate in Counseling Psychology from Georgia State University and a master’s degree in Professional Counseling. Find out more about the American Foundation for ...
Losing a son to suicide | Major General Mark Graham
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In this episode, Army Major General, Mark Graham talks to us about the loss of his two sons, Jeffrey and Kevin, one of them being of suicide. He tells us how his family dealt with the shock and pain brought up by Kevin’s suicide, how it affected each member of the family, and how they came together to heal from the compounded grief of losing both kids within a short period of one year. He also ...
Lisa Klein "The S Word" documentary
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When Lisa Klein was 18 years old, she had already lost her father and brother to suicide, and as it often happens, she felt that their deaths had to be related to who she was: “My thought was that it was a reflection on me, that I wasn’t good enough” she says. Her family shut down, suicide was not discussed. “We couldn’t talk about it and I had so many questions.” Years later, she started talki...
A mother's loss inspired thousands: Scattering CJ
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When her son CJ took his life at the age of 20, Hallie was numb, confused, and full of guilt. One day, she had an idea: Hallie put out an open call on Facebook asking people to help fulfill her son's wish to see the world by scattering some of his ashes in a place of beauty or special meaning. Her initiative touched the hearts of tens of thousands of people all over the world. To this day, over...
Understanding Bipolar Disorder | Terri Cheney
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The bestseller author Terri Cheney has struggled with bipolar disorder since childhood. In this amazing interview, she talks about decades of multiple misdiagnoses, which took a toll on her life and stopped her from receiving proper treatment, and her suicide attempts. One of the things I love about this conversation was her openness to sharing not only her grounded knowledge of the disease but...
Parents healing from suicide loss | Kellie Woof
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After the suicide of their son, Chris, in 2020, Kellie and her husband had to retrace their path forward. In this interview, we discuss the many challenges couples face when dealing with suicide loss. Through her story, she gives precious tips on how to work on the relationship and ways that help keep the family together after Chris’ tragic death. Kellie is the author of the recently published ...
Her son struggled with addiction and died of suicide
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Her son struggled with addiction and died of suicide
Mother and daughter share their suicide grief | Jeanne and Thea
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Mother and daughter share their suicide grief | Jeanne and Thea
Gun Violence and suicide | Andrew and Linda
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Gun Violence and suicide | Andrew and Linda
She lost her husband to suicide | Lori Prichard
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She lost her husband to suicide | Lori Prichard
Dealing with blame after suicide | Dr. Jack Jordan
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Dealing with blame after suicide | Dr. Jack Jordan
How to study and pass the NCE (National Counselor Examination)
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How to study and pass the NCE (National Counselor Examination)
Suicide rates drop during pandemic: what is behind the numbers?
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Suicide rates drop during pandemic: what is behind the numbers?
She lost her son and brother to suicide | Georgena Eggleston
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She lost her son and brother to suicide | Georgena Eggleston
From three suicide attempts to a meaningful life | JD Schramm
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From three suicide attempts to a meaningful life | JD Schramm
Self-harm and suicide | Juliana Falcão
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Self-harm and suicide | Juliana Falcão
Finding answers within the self | John Siddique
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Finding answers within the self | John Siddique
Quitting his job saved his life | Aaron Wanserski
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Quitting his job saved his life | Aaron Wanserski
Thank you so much Heidi for sharing what you did. SI is a true struggle to live with and I liked how you described how to be able to live with those thoughts yet conquer the episodes. Glad to have ran into this video.
Thank you❤
It is recorded that the earliest people migrated up from Africa to the Middle East, to China and to the Siberian peninsula before crossing into North America. They then sailed down the coast. Europeans sailed from Europe to the Eastern America. So everyone who ended up in North America were immigrants - including Indians. No indigenous people (except those born here, including caucasians ).
Thank you for this insightful video, taking the nce in two weeks 🎉
I find it hard to watch these videos stay blessed everyone ✌️🙏💯
So much outdated information here.
This is me
Thx Miss Paula. I m taking my 4th attempt in NJ of the NCE.. your video was helpful….. youre very beautiful
If I’m studying for 35 days how many pages of the book should I read a day? Thank you!! I’m going to use this method.
Way way to political and condescending
This helped me so much. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for this interview. My long distance partner took his own life after we were close to breaking up. We loved each other so much. But the relationship was more and more complicated and had hurtful moments. He had CPTSD from the battlefield, Asperger’s and childhood trauma. He was so troubled ever since we met. I always thought i could heal him with my love. But I have my own deep wounds that needed healing. On that day, I was proposing saving our love by doing our therapy and inner work so we could build a healthy relationship later in time. He was already in a mental health facility in that moment. I regret so much that in that moment, I told sent him a long letter via text about how our relationship dynamic hurt me throughout the years. But I told him how much I loved him and how deeply I want us to heal. He replied that he understood and he said good night to me. That he would go home. I didn’t understand what he meant with home. But after trying to stop him ( I called his phone 40 times, sent him so many messages asking him to speak with me, not to harm himself, I loved him) but it was too late. There was nothing I could do because we were so many miles apart. It was and still is traumatic. It happened two weeks ago. I am so full of regret and guilt and so heartbroken. I miss him so much. Your words were amongst those that helped me a little. Thank you so much.
Really? I have 4 pictures ideas, some have only one? I also have been in situations where I need 2 IDs more then 5 times
Kubler-Ross's stages of grief help me tremendously in understanding the normality of my grief. While I know I have not gone step by step through each stage in order, I am glad to understand what is happening. It helps to confirm that I am "okay."
Thank you. This is very helpful
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I am studying for the test and will soon take it. I want to say thank you for this video and for how genuine you are. I felt like I was in the room with you, and you were speaking to me directly, especially in the last message. I am confident that these tips will help me pass! Thank you again ❤
Thank you, Johanna for such kind words. Best luck to you. And welcome to the profession.
How and to whom does one give a gift to suffering. Bit confused.
Thank you!!
you're welcome!
Would you considering all of your tips and resources to be up to date for taking the NCE in 2024? :) Just wanted to confirm
for sure!
Your video is straight forward and accurate! I have been a counselor for 15 years, with 13 of those years as a high school counselor. My state licensing exam for school counseling consisted of theory, ASCA, ethics, and mostly application-based questions! One year ago, I took the LPC licensing course through my school district and The Citadel college. i am now about to embark on the NCE in about a month. This video has been very helpful. Thank you :)
good luck, Karen!
Hi. Is the only requirement to take the test is having your masters degree or do you need a set number clinical/supervise hours to take the exam? Is the an application test prep book out to help us study for the exam? Did you use flash cards?
You are supporting a fugitive
shes liying con man
This gentleman got lucky, good for him. ❤ Excellent interview.
Thanks for the interview. I think these would benefit from a discussion of what leads up to the suicides of the individuals so that we can better understand what is going on in the person's mind.
If you browse through the interviews, you will see many that address this issue. I agree with you, it helps us understand their state of mind and circumstances.
@@podcastunderstandsuicide6823 Thanks Paula, yes I agree there are many that do address this. Thank you for the important work that you do! ❤️
Thanks for the work you do Paula. This was an excellent interview. ❤
you're welcome.
Suicide is oftentimes not a choice. There are times where it's an inevitability,
I’ve come to believe that. I think the mind can control the brain but the brain can’t control the mind. My husband was a loving man, great husband and wonderful father but would not accept that he needed help. Perhaps he knew that it wouldn’t work. I don’t know. We miss him and love him so much.
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Was a JW at that time. Not only felt betrayal from him but also my congregation. Abandoned by them as well. Two kids, one very angry who bullied the younger. Devastating time of my life
Sorry to hear that. Unfortunately, this kind of grief is often met with judgment. Hope you have found some healing.
I found Megan’s book to be a good read.
I loved her book
Realmente ela fez do limão uma limonada. Transformou a dor em ajuda ao próximo. Seu pai deve estar muito orgulhoso de vc.
Muito obrigada!
I am scheduled to take the NCE this upcoming October (the 23rd) at a Pearson facility. I have a month left of studying. I am so nervous. Thank you for sharing your experience.❤
How was it???
How did you do?
I needed to hear this and can relate so much to your journey in my own way. So many parallels. It’s been 2 years since your interview and listening to your story is helping to save my life and I’m sure others as well. Thank you 🙏 ❤
Please keep talking to anyone that will listen until you find that one person who will truly accept you and stay by your side! Hugs to you! 🫂
Thank you for your words, dear. Hope you are in a better place, so glad his words were of help to you.
Amazing video!!! Thank you so much for taking the time to make this video, Paula - I feel so much better about studying and preparing for the NCE. Very grateful!
You’re welcome! Good luck
You are loved and your in my prays, I’m so sorry for your loss. Love ya ❤
Thank you 🙏
I'm a survivor of three suicide attempts myself!And that's all because of mental illness.Cant hold down jobs,no girlfriends,not much money.Still here though,but suicide is always at the back of my mind.Medication,sickness benefits help,but only to a certain point.
Glad to hear that you've been keeping yourself safe, James. thank you for the comment.
Please open to some one close and let them that you need them in the darkest of days! I know so many ppl that deal with pain and wanting the pain to away,but nobody knew because of the fake mask that they were wearing,and when it’s too late everyone is saying, I never knew that they had problems! Reach out! Sending hugs! 🫂🫂🫂
Thank you! I will take and pass the NCE (reframe 😊) in 46 days so this was perfect timing that I found your video and your study plan! I needed the organization, so much to study and your information helped me. Thank you!
Good luck!!
Thank you ☺️ you made me feel better about my upcoming test! 🙏🏻💕
hope you AceIt
Great insight but my state requires the test to get a license.
Some states do, but the tips on how to prepare apply just the same. Hope they are helpful to you, good luck!
What state are you in?
I saw my boyfriend of 12 years shoot himself under the face and it has caused the worst damage and trauma to me. I loved him so deeply. I miss him so bad. He was so close to the Lord. I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost my boyfriend April 9, 2023. It’s only been a few months. I’m struggling so so badly
Sorry to hear about your suffering, Courtney. It takes time, give yourself grace and follow your grief path. Don't be afraid to ask for help... take care.
I will pray to the Lord our God to grant you hope, healing, and peace while you mourn. I am so sorry for your loss.
I’m confused- how are you working unlicensed? Or is Oregon different? We do a year of internship- but we can’t work until we are licensed in Texas. How are you gaining another year out of school and working?
in Oregon we only get a license after 1900 hours of direct client hours, but we get to work as an "associate" until then, otherwise, we would never reach the hours.
@@podcastunderstandsuicide6823 oh dang. Okay I understand. I wish we could do that, so we could have time before taking the exam. We graduate (pass comps during that) then we have to take the NCE to become an associate. We can’t start working (outside of the internship time in school) until we are an associate. Then we have to work as an LPC-A for 3000 hours (minimum 18 months). At that point, we can stop with supervision and become fully licensed independently. Makes sense. I like that y’all can have work experience prior to this exam, in a meaningful way. Taking this exam next week. :)
wow, glad I'm in Oregon. We used to need 2500 hours, they just changed to 1900.
Funny is what it is.
Just discovered this man and am so grateful for your interview with him. Thank you so much
Thank you for your words.
This happened to me and our little family It was devastating- like a bomb
It certainly feels like a bomb, Virginia. So unexpected and shocking, isn't it? hope you and your family have found some ways to heal... sending you love.
Yes. My husband committed suicide and it blew our lives apart. It has been a year and a half and the devastation continues to unwind. Gunshot to the head, I found him in our garden under the kitchen window. The person I was before it happened is gone forever, and a stranger stands in her place. My daughters too. The damage cannot be explained in words. It steals things from the survivors that they can never get back.
Thank you for making this video- Books helped me also- it was such a devastating and confusing time. I own most of these books and other books.
you're welcome, books have helped me a lot too. I do believe in the power of knowledge... it brings us answers and understanding, and they make us feel less alone in our grief.
That was just a lovely story it mad me cry
These are hard stories but also healing.. thank you for your words.
Great video!! Thank you!! Lets hope i pass. 2 weeks left!
Did you pass???? hope so.
@@podcastunderstandsuicide6823 Yes I did!!! Thanks to you!!! Thanks for checking in.
I'm in the process of studying for the NCE a little less than a month to go. This video was so helpful. Those reframes at the end brought such relief. I fully believe you are such a great counselor even just from those reframes and being mindful of how important anxiety can be. Thank you!
Thank you, Katie! Hope you are doing well with your studies. :)
My university is mandatory for the students to take the CPCE before we graduate.
really? I guess it's different everywhere.
Same, I graduated from Liberty University Online studies in Lynchburg, VA.
Love his work. Just found him and trying to take in as much as I can of his work. I just read the newer version of the Healing the Soul Wound and am waiting for his other two books to arrive so I can have something else to read. Looking forward to it! But this conversation was incredible. Thank you.
He is a good soul. I have great admiration for his work.