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Hi hope all is well with you I really need some advice So I’ve been dating this guy for like a month he makes me extremely happy from time to time ofc every relationship as it’s ups and downs but we always manage to bounce back he’s always taking accountability whenever he does something out of line he as mode swings from time to time and he gets really silent on me and then I start to over think on whether or not I done something wrong becuz I have anxious attachment style he always tells me that am not the problem everything isn’t about me but whenever he as mood swings it’s like am getting the cold shoulder i addressed the issue and vocalize how I felt and I see some improvement in his behavior he as open up more to me on what he got going on and he has become make vulnerable and we’ve been good ever since then until this morning we woke up at 5:30 am becuz that’s the time he usually gets up for work we ended up having a quickie he was satisfied but i wasn’t after he fulfilled him self he got up out of the bed as if i wasn’t even there anymore and went to the bathroom for over 20 mins I felt so neglected so I got up and knocked on the bathroom door to have a chat with him midst of vocalizing how I felt he was awfully quiet he only said a two words then went silent again so I got heated because I felt as if he was being dismissive of my feelings I touched him on the shoulder saying “Am talking to you bae” he stared at me crazily then he started to say that his mood and Vibes changed which indicated that he’s not going to come back in the bed to satisfy me he continued to push me away telling me to leave him alone I then started to resent him I got so heated I ended up giving him a light slap on the side of his face I barely even touched him and that’s when everything went left he got heated and punch me in the face try to block the punch a little bit thinking he was gonna throw another punch that’s when I saw this look of shock on his face he then stopped and said “See you made me do something i didn’t want to do” he fell to the ground got up trying to apologize for punching me only thing i said was is this what we’ve really came to ?! My father treated me like an egg he never once laid a finger on me how you think he’s gonna feel if I tell him about this ?! I then walked away with tears running down my face back to the bed room Ryan came shortly after trying to console me and apologizing over and over saying that’s not him he never once laid his hands on a female and it will never happen again like he always does my silence was so loud as I thought to myself what am I doing with this man we should’ve just left each other alone from the get go if this how it was gonna turn out after he left for work he texted saying that he is sorry from the bottom of his heart and he will make it up to me even if it’s the last thing that he does I don’t know if I should believe him I don’t know if he’s truly sorry or not am afraid if I forgive him and give our relationship another try he will do it again i have no bruises whatsoever but I went ahead and took out a temp order of protection In the meantime while Internalize on where we stand .

I need to leave immediately but financially I can’t 😩 I’m trying everything I can. My son and I are in danger.

Gosh not good but I’ve heard worse

I was told I'm a burden to him

My wife was prejudice and verbally abusive and as i result i became miserable. Always angry with everyone and anyone. It got so bad i was becoming verbally abusive right back.

Please , please, please listen please get out. Trust God, but be wise. God is faithful

You can get help for all of that.

he obs had alot of hate towards himself then if he wanted to treat you like that

I am just leaving a 15 abusive relationship. It was abusive physically and emotionally on and off the past 10 years. Hurts alot because I still care about him. He is deep in addiction with alcohol and even going to jail numbers of times was not his rock bottom. I don't think he will change. I need to leave for myself and my children. Hurts thinking what if he changes for someone else.? 😢

I was in a verbally and emotionally abusive marriage for 26 years - it was like the boiling a frog analogy - it started of semi-mild- but grew increasingly intense and so unbearable that I finally had the courage and strength and focus needed to divorce him before my soul and spirit were “boiled to death”. He is also a covert narcissist. I too, used to write down the hateful things he said - just for a strange validation - to look back to see what I escaped and survived. Ya.

Can abusers change? It depends on the person. I saw two different men change drastically (married to some loved ones of mine). Unfortunately, this isn’t the norm. Not everyone is the same. Prioritize your safety first.

I'm sorry you had to go through this. It was a long list of abuse. Thank you for sharing. I'm sure some of us had some of the same verbal abuse you had.

you obviously married a jerk because you were////////////// or you showed disrespect like my ex did and belittled and degraded me all the time so this is the reaction you get back, like i told my ex you dont like being with me leave, that goes for all you females that manipulate things and its time guys started recording all the shit you females do, i would have lots of tape dealing with that crap and the shit my ex pulled on me, i didnt call her names i just wound up leaving when the opportunity came and said good bye to trash.

My dad called me a bratt he hit me with a belt at the Georgia hotel, called me aunory sh word ,the b curse word and that i don't deserve anything

Oh.

That is full on narcissistic abuse. And its much worse to your mental and physical health, than being beaten. I know as i got both. First from my step dad, then multiple boy friends. Then my husband. now my adult daughter. Can anyone imagine you finding out you most likely have cancer and tell your daughter, who then slaps her legs and belly laughs and walks away? Then i stupidly took her to my ap to find out the results of my biopsy and she starts an argument in the waiting room, then acts supportive as i get the bad news. Then we get home and i mention about something that hurt my feelings and she called me an efin B and slammed the bathroom door in my face. She has become my biggest bully. I have never really recovered from all the other abuse i have been through, so im an easy target

I’m so sorry that you put up with that abuse and it’s great for you to share with others who are in an abusive relationship ❤

I wonder what you did for him to say all those things, I ask because the last time I heard a woman with similar complaints, I found out from her ex that she drank away all the money he allocated for their child on top of leaving the child home alone whilst she went out drinking with her friends. Fairness always requires both sides of the story.

They never change no !

They always say "you have a fat ass" whether you have one or not. My abuser said that and I was slim as a rail. Aren't they disgusting & infantile!

That’s not true cause I changed but you have to want to change anybody can change just because her abuser didn’t doesn’t mean the person in your life can’t you may need to step away for years and have no contact but anybody can change to say it’s impossible is a false statement

I am my wife is verbally abusing me and tonight she punched me

My husband is very extreme abuser to the point he cuts my clothes

Very true

again, we are hearing one side, what his side, what shit did you do that you didn't mention, sorry, i don't buy ,

How can he feel good beating me with evil words! I bore his children. I was committed to my vows. He acts like a spoiled 3 year old. His mother told me “he was my most difficult child”. Words hurt and stay. He demands respect but respect is earned! Jesus got respect for being mild patient kind. I have been married 42 years to this man. He never even uses my name. I get called Bi&ch, retard, c8nt, bit6#olla, cj (co7+jaws). My kids are ruined by his example. After ripping me apart he goes to his electronics to enjoy his evening. Nice. I want a companion and he isn’t it. We have nothing in common. I married way too young pushed out by my parents last child to leave home poof parents sell house gone! It’s been a sad horrible existence. Our infant son murdered at age 5 months he never held me he didn’t talk to me. He and his dad burned my baby (creamation) without my input. Then I got cancer at age 42 no sympathy he hold me. I can not respect a man who claims he loves his wife but doesn’t show it doesn’t say it. He can’t even use my name.

Ex on his last chance said.......... Stop talking about the past...... This is now....😮😮😮 I couldn't talk of his behaviour

I am out four weeks. It was worse when I gave him a last chance. I had boundaries. He just ignored them and got worse saying I'd broken him

I read out my boundaries. He flipped out on day five

Mine didn't change even tho he said he's changed to prove himself .... He lasted three weeks. He went to therapy for three weeks lol and stopped drinking for eight wks

Ok, what about abusive women, can they change? Or is it just men who never change?

More power to you 🙌🏻

I left him for 7 months he found out I was seeing another man and said he would stop peacefully coparenting with me if I didn't chose to be with him or cut odd the other dude. I really need someone to talk to because I'm not sure what is best for my kids.

When mothers allow drunk boyfriend's to do this.

I hate to disagree with you, but it all it's just exactly as you say, because people, if willing can change if they really want to change, and drugs and alcohol can and will control your emotions, also it's not just men who abuse, it's honestly all human beings no matter the race or the color or the sex.

Very useful information to evaluate your life and give you a clear perspectives. Thank you so much. X

My ex girlfriend was really vicious with her words behind closed doors. I didn't consider that it was verbal abuse and thought I always deserved it. She'd yell, curse, make me feel stupid, make me feel guilty and at fault for everything, slam doors, get cold and silent, toss remotes, hit herself in the head, cry on the floor, meltdowns behind the wheel threatening to crash the car. I was with her for 6 years when I finally decided to leave. She was hypersensitive, fragile, affectionate and had such a sweet side underneath all that pain. leaving her was the hardest thing I ever had to do. It's been 16 months since I left and I still miss her everyday.

Does this count as "verbal abuse"? My boss was upset I had signed up for a one-person shift. I'll admit, I am much better with a helping hand and guide, but come on, that's no excuse for being insensitive. One of our student leader's responsibilities is organizing who works which shifts on the schedule, and my boss scolded him for not noticing I had signed up for a one-person shift. When she asked him if she thought I could do the shift, I answered for him with a firm "yes," because I felt belittled by her. She said she didn't think so, was all "I've told you not to sign up for shifts by yourself, I've been very clear about that, I don't know how much clearer I can get for you to listen" (something like, that, so I'm not perfectly quoting her), and she told me I need someone there to give me instructions and guide me. I'm mad at myself for not standing up to her. She intimidates me when she's in a bad mood, but still, at the very least, I should've told her "my family always taught me to be self-confident and believe in my abilities," to challenge her to coldly disagree with that. Can't believe she would condescend me like that.

I am in a relationship with a woman that has hit many times. I have hit a woman....Address a woman that's hits men as well

So naw you live in a van ?? It’s better ?

Sounds familiar and equally if not more vulgar 😣

What if the abuser wants to change?

I left my abusive relationship year ago , and even though I knew was hard I knew was right thing to do , what only hurts now after year on being in out refuge, is from what heard his lies excuse for why he nearly killed me in my own home in with our two young boys .I'm glad am.away and best thing I ever did for my children all thought was safety of my boys . The boys are my life not him . Boys need there mummy .he abusive behaviour was for 4 years first two years looking back lot red flags . But I was too far in to turn back . I phoned police and a social worker the last day I thought he will ever do this to me again. I was left with broken nose and ribs had fled my home miles away . It's best decision I ever made he can go around say what he likes because I know truth , and I am safe in our home with my two beautiful boys. He was spoilt from me felt like mother to him end .

Women aren't the only ones who can be victim's of this.....

Same, super sweet, kind and fun in the beginning. Fast forward the verbal abuse started. I only lasted 5 months. I think for me knowing how much my family loved me and the loving environment reminded me that I didn’t deserve that.

Nope I refuse to be a door mat for someone who can not control his temper. Nah I’m good. Boundaries are important guys! We have to love ourselves more!

So... who was in a relationship with a narcissist... you were. Check out Dr Les Carter's channel... Surviving Narcissism... just go check it out. No one is born to be abused by somebody else. Sorry that you had to go through that. Dr Carter is helping 100000s of people everyday. I feel your pain... been there ... just go check it out.... :)

I have no family or friends to help me and I’ve been getting abused every day for seven years and I just want out ! I have never been a suicidal person but the thought has crossed my mind because there’s no way out of this.

Is there such a thing as two abusers in a relationship? Also, is abusive behavior a learned trait? For example, from trauma they endured in childhood throughout until adult years?

This is not a gender issue. It hurts like hell to be verbally abused, and constant reminded that we're not good enough. It took me almost 11 years to get out. But I guess it's not considered abuse when it's done to a man in this feminist day and age.