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More power to you, my brother!

So sad..Ill pray that you heal and recover well..🙏🙏🙏

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One of my biggest traumas that i wouldn't share with anyone was when i was 16 I wanted to work in the summertime, and a taxi driver from my dad's friends said that his family owns a clothes store and that he can let me work there, my parents didn't want to get a job but i insisted so much. When we were on the way there he got a call and they told him that there's no place for an employee (i think it was all made up) On our way back he told me that he teach teens to drive and can get them a license, he asked me if i wanted to try and the innocent me said yes why not. He told me that it wouldn't take long so your parents won't realize you being a little late, so don't tell them about the driving thing. We went to a place with low population and there was small highways. He talked a little bit about driving and stuf and then he told me that i should sit in the driver seat, but he should sit there too, like I'll be sitting on his lap. I didn't want at first but he insisted and told me that it's alright you're little (my body is so petite for my age) So i did so, he started moving weordly and stuff and then i felt vey unsafe, but still i didn't know what was going on So i started telling him nonstop that the time is too late i should go home and stuff So he drove me back home, on our way back he talked about his dead wife sexually (she's not dead) and when we arrived back home he told me not to say anything to anyone and that he can continue teaching me if i told my parents that i got the job Anyway, becuase of the uncomfortablilty that day i didn't want to go or either see him anymore I didn't tell anyone anything. Like at the age of 18, i realized what happened with me that day. I was in my first year of uni and i was going abroad and having to use taxis, i got into depression because i was getting too scared to get in a taxi and i dropped out after two months of uni I'm 20 now, but hey, it could have ended in a worse scenario, I'm glad I'm ok. The trauma from taxi drivers is still here but my dad bought a car and he's teaching me how to drive, so this is good

You are a brave man. I was three. Remember him laying on top of me, and everything fading to black. Within a very short period I began sexually inappropriate behaviors...doing almost violent things to my body in an effort to achieve pleasure. He quickly stopped getting on top of me. My aberrant behavior must have alarmed him as it increased odds of getting caught.

Society laughs at the pain of men while it cries at the pain of women

Idek what to do. I feel like I cant do anything because the girl who did it is straight up half my size, but it is eating me alive

when i was 8-11 year old . i was assualted nightly by my brother 7-8 times 😭. Still Recovery

I’m a female whom I deeply believe that my X- boyfriend of 4.5 years was abused as a child. His abusive adult behavior towards me has been gut wrenching, in my own search for peace and healing I have been awakened to a life swept under the rug” he’s in his 50’s and his behavior is horrific. I thank God ended the relationship finally in June and am on my journey to put the pieces of my life back together. In saying this no- one talks about this” I applaud your courage and strength to share your story. I also understand very few men” come forward or do the work to heal “- hence my situation where he became more enraged, hateful, zero intimacy/ sought outside I guess ways to live multiple lives, all the while NOTHING I ever did mattered, I gave him all the love I had “ I don’t regret the experience, however I believe deep in my heart that he has chosen to hide his past, one main factor that’s very telling is his own son abusing women- why “? Learned behavior it’s sickening and I have been lucky to escape his world. Again keep talking men in particular need to hear these stories “/ best wishes.. just shedding light into a dark world is huge!! 🙏

Wishing you all the best in putting all of this behind you. Take good care

I told the truth spoke up . And now I'm in xhile and have no family no friends . I often think is that what being in prison alone is like I wish I would had kept my mouth shut sometimes

I don’t remember my age, but a friend my mom’s son made me do things that I still think about. It only lasted about 30 seconds to a minute, but still it never leaves my mind.

try changing your enviroment avoid cities start a new life in real nature

Thanks for your story, you are believed, you are loved, you are beautiful ❤

It happened to me age 11 to 16. I’ve never told anyone, and I’ve never gotten any support or counseling. I’m 55 now, and it ruined my life. It still does.

Amazing. Bless your heart. Keep on keeping on! And...thank you for being a man.

he is still struggling 😢

I was molested repeatedly when I was very young. I remember it happening around 5-7 but I don't know if was occurring earlier than that. I have struggled with sexually deviant behavior. I don't feel like I make memories like other people. I can remember facts and information really well, but I don't have many vivid memories of my life. I first felt depressed when I was 13. I remember riding the bus home and feeling like I was nothing and started to cry. It was completely out of nowhere. I feel lucky that I always had a fixation with psychology so I have always been more mindful than the average person. This at least gave me the ability to self diagnose to a degree. I have mostly controlled my OCD and depression. The thing that bothers me is that I still get the depression periodically and I have a lack of motivation and passion. Not completely but not as much as I can see is possible. I can see clear paths for myself or routes to happiness, but they seem like fictions somehow. I have problems with faith although I can clearly see the benefit. It's like the analytical part of my brain won't allow the free part of my brain take the wheel. Sometimes I can control it but only in small bursts. I had to rewrite "free part of my brain" 4 times because I was using other word trying to more explicitly explain the difference but I realized I was doing the exact thing I was trying to describe so I kinda forced out the word "free" because it just felt right. The point being that these experiences affect us in a number of ways. Some of which are probably not ever seen or heard. I'm sorry if this is all very strange but it's my experience. I hope it helps someone to feel less alone. I'm here trying to, maybe, do the same or at least try to understand myself better. Much love to all who see this, and everyone who doesn't too. Love is the answer after all. That's one thing I do know for sure.

I was 7

im so sorry man. im not gonna chare my story but this is just incredable strong of you. i thank you so much. stay strong

Michael, I know the heartache

I am by your side

I never had that support, I wasn't allowed to be a human

They all end up 🏳️‍🌈

Thanks for speaking out .

Very articulate, very brave. I wish you all the very best for the future - you absolutely deserve it.

FRIEND ----- YOU ARE A GOOD MAN. A COURAGEOUS MAN WITH STRENGTH OF CHARACTER. THANK YOU FOR TELLING YOUR STORY. ALLOW ME TO EXPRESS A COUPLE OF CONCEPTS : 1. CONSIDER WHAT POSITIVE PERSONAL TRAIGHTS DEVELOPED IN YOU MORE STRONGLY BECAUSE OF THE ABUSE YOU EXPERIENCED . 2. YOUR IDENTITY IS MUCH MORE THAN PERSON WHO WAS ABUSED---- YOU ARE A CHILD OF THE MOST HIGH GOD---- STRIVE TO BE THE GODLY MAN GOD MADE YOU TO BE !!! A YEAR AGO, FOR FATHER'S DAY, MY PASTOR GAVE THE MOST BEAUTIFUL ELOQUENT SERMON, ABOUT WHAT IT MEANS TO BE A MAN OF GOD . I WISH YOU COULD HEAR IT !!! PERHAPS ONE CAN ACCESS IT ONLINE THROUGH FIRST CHURCH OF THE OPEN BIBLE, CEDAR RAPIDS, IOWA, PASTOR HARRIS HOLSAPPLE, FROM JUNE 2023. MAY GOD BLESS YOU AND EVERYONE YOU REACH, AND GRANT YOU COMPLETE EMOTIONAL HEALING !!! MY NAME IS DANIEL AND I AM A PART OF YOUR CHEERING SECTION !!!

Thanks for having the strength to share your story. I've never had the guts to tell anyone.

Feels weird "liking" the video. Thanks for your bravery, Michael!

I feel your pain happened to me at 8 years old and happened two weeks ago had to go to the police and found out that 20+ people come faward to the stage it'd going to court November will be the time to let the pressure be lifted

It's happening to when im 13 old years and it's destroy my life 😢

I was 8 it happened twice once by one man 2nd time by the same man with his friend. To this day I sometimes want to throw up because of how much I am disgusted by myself. To this day that I'm 19 I haven't talked to a girl because I'm disgusted of myself and I feel I deserve to be isolated.

I honour you Michael . I know the journey.

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what happened to me lasted 15 very torturous yrs of my life and has since left me a perminant paranoid mess. i never sleep without access to at least 3 or more weapons at my disposal. im armed to the teeth and only live around people i can easily physically overpower if they tried to attack me. i can only ever really achieve as much sleep as my sense of peace (which is fleeting at times due to my inability to trust anyone). I'm so enraged and depressed at the state of the world and its inability to recognize and start drafting solutions for mens issues. ... i couldnt watch your video for my brain isnt capable of handling that at this time.

Far more common than any of us want to believe. Thank you to those courageous enough to tell their own story, like this young man; and to those willing and able to listen, like the police officer and the counsellor that Michael spoke of with gratitude.

You are an angel with the heart of a lion. thank you for sharing this difficult tale. Much love, belief, and support to you.

You are very brave to come forward in details. You are helping many old men, middle age men, young men, teens, and children. I know how hard it was to come forward first hand. It's extremely hard for women to come forward. I think it's even harder for men to come forward. All the men I know that had it happen. Only opened up to me. They think people will think they are gay. Or there is something wring with them if they did not enjoy it, if it was a woman. When men come forward. They are believed. When women come forward. SELDOM DOES ANY ONE BELIEVE IT.

Michael thanks for sharing and being so brave. Im a survivor myself. From 12 to 17 years old i was sexually abused by a teacher and a brother. Got some help in my late 20's and more in my 30's, never have been in a relationship until my late 50's. Now I'm 61 and still deal with issues from way back then. Wish I had the support that you got. Proud of you.

Big hug from Rienzi Mississippi 🫂

Thanks dude for talking ❤❤❤❤

Michael is the definition of a real Man. I’m sorry you were hurt deeply, and for all the suffering you have endured. It sounds like you have learned how to cope with this trauma and become a thoughtful, caring man. I can see and hear the deep trauma in this video. Definitely a lot of learning tools for myself and others on there path of healing. God Bless you Michael and I will remember you in prayer, with others who suffer.

My name is Chris Malan from Kleinmond, South Africa. It is my privilege after 25 years to still be working with survivors overcoming the effects of csa on their lives. I want to honour Michael for sharing his experiences, and giving back to the community of survivors battling to take their lives and voices back. Every survivor that crossed my way has impacted and transformed my life... no longer can I be silent, no longer can I ignore power inbalances in our society! I completed my doctoral studies while working at a children's home with teenage survivors. Their strength to stand up for themselves and others have transformed my life and work as a counsellor, therapist and researcher. I am affiliated with ACRP (The Association for Christian Religious Practitioners), as an Category 7 Advanced Religious Specialist in Pastoral Counselling. I am also a specialist trainer and thetapist in a narrative approach to counselling, therapy and community work. Anyone who is looking for someone to support them on their healing and empowerment journey, are welcome to make contact with me. English is not my first language but I get by quite well. Blessings Chris Malan

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I was 8 when it happened to me. The first time I felt safe after was when I was 50 and walked into a therapist office and finally told my story.

This was so powerful. I have so much respect for this man speaking up. More men need to do so.❤

So did an much older neighboor did this or a neighboor who was close to his age?

We survive. We dont live a life. We died a long time ago. And ppl are fine with that. They even praise us for being survivers, such strong ppl. We are not ppl. We are dead ppl.

Thank you so much for your bravery in telling your story. I’m the mother of four sons around your age. It’s heartbreaking to hear this but so necessary for us parents to be aware. Thank you again and I pray that God’s Love will fill your life.

thanks for your story, your not alone.hope you heal and you are belived