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Black Man, White Woman | All the Forbidden Things - Ep 6
Mallury and Rebecca were "color-blind" friends for over three years until a vulnerable admission opened the door to a frank and sometimes shocking dialogue about our races. These conversations became a primary inspiration for All the Forbidden Things, as we found that the more forbidden the dialogue became, the more powerfully we understood each other. We discovered that there were problems that we'd over- or under-estimated and things we never knew we never knew about the inner workings of the other's community. No matter how many personal secrets we had shared, there were significant parts of our lives and selves that we realized had been obscured from each other. In this episode, we offer a taste of our dialogue by talking about the particular dynamic between black men and white women and each group's perceptions about racism. We hope that you can feel the power of our connection and feel brave enough to talk more earnestly and more authentically with friends about race. The cost of never really knowing a loved one is much greater than a momentary awkwardness. We look forward to sharing more from our conversations in the future.
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The Pagan Priest | All the Forbidden Things - Ep 5
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Armando is a Pagan priest. What on earth is that? In this episode, Rebecca finds out what Paganism is, how it relates to the Occult, and whether or not it's a religion. Armando asks what she thinks pagan priesthood might mean, and Rebecca takes a guess based off an earlier "session". Rebecca realizes she has some experience in new age things, but she didn't know much about the old gods, and wha...
Anti-Drugs | All the Forbidden Things - Ep 4
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Rebecca knows her friend Emily uses psychedelics for personal growth. However she doesn't know exactly what that means in practice, and has some concerns for herself. In this episode, we hear what Rebecca thinks Emily's psychedelic experiences are and uncover what's really going on in Emily's Ayahuasca trips. Rebecca reveals fears she has about psychedelics, such as losing control of her mind a...
Mexican Lite | All the Forbidden Things - Ep 3
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Roberto is a first-generation Mexican-American. Rebecca always perceived that Roberto lives within these two worlds with pride and ease. But she finds out it isn’t accidental, nor is it exactly right. In this episode, we explore who Roberto really is and how he relates to both Mexicans and Americans in terms of appearance, relationships, culture, language, and family expectations. Roberto revea...
Are Gen Z and Millennials Getting Along? | All the Forbidden Things - Ep 2
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Laurie is 23, Rebecca is 35. We are friends-which feels rare between women of our ages. In this episode, we explore the differences in our experiences of life and the world at large. We discuss lives lived online and off, the origins of self-esteem, new and alternative relationship models, and how each generation is managing projections of a dark future. 0:00 - Introducing Laurie & forbidden to...
What is XX + XXY? | All the Forbidden Things - Pilot
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Juleigh is intersex (XXY), Rebecca is cis (XX). In this episode, we explore the realities of our relationships to gender. What do we think we know, and what are we wrong about? 0:01 - Why don't we talk about our identities with people in our lives? 7:13 - Introducing Juleigh & warm-up 13:51 - Rebecca's physical insecurities 17:10 - Juleigh's physical insecurities 20:03 - Being female or male en...

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  • @DaggerSecurity
    @DaggerSecurity 4 дні тому

    Great discussion. While racism exists everywhere (even in seemingly mono-ethnic cultures) it is definitely more pervasive in countries that were former colonialists as opposed to plaecs like Russia, China, Asia, and the Middle East. Being a mixed person myself I can whole heartedly say that the weight rascism is considerably lightened having lived in or traveled to the aforementioned regions. So I encourage you both to go and experience the rest of the world ,

    • @notyourenemyproject
      @notyourenemyproject 4 дні тому

      Wow very interesting perspective. Makes a lot of sense - the history itself is such a key aspect. I (Rebecca) never thought about the experience of race in the absence of that kind of history.

  • @HappySlappii
    @HappySlappii 5 днів тому

    What?

  • @SirJaslo.
    @SirJaslo. 16 днів тому

    what are you yapping about about,

  • @Candy097.
    @Candy097. 17 днів тому

    New to the channel ❤️.

  • @camarec2282
    @camarec2282 23 дні тому

    I generally introduce my name (Adrian) in the English pronunciation to english speakers because it’s a really common name and sort of native in both languages that pronouncing it as Adrián sounds really extra. If i i have any notion that you do speak spanish then i say Adrián cus its the actual way it’s supposed to be pronounced and i personally prefer it to Adrian. You deciding not to pronounce Roberto the hispanic way because you feel like pronouncing the R in a different way would be overstepping a boundary was a really interesting take I hadn’t heard before.

    • @notyourenemyproject
      @notyourenemyproject 23 дні тому

      Oh that’s interesting yeah if it’s common in both languages vs a name that’s definitely one origin I’ve never thought about how that happens with a lot of names too

  • @tonidimitrov6758
    @tonidimitrov6758 Місяць тому

    We are fixated on the least important aspects of ourselves tbh. Not sure why people can't understand that character and strength is what we should focus on. Im curious, why did you name your channel like this.

    • @notyourenemyproject
      @notyourenemyproject 29 днів тому

      You are very right. It's interesting because these things run our lives only because of the social and systemic focus on them. They have a real effect, but it's caused by a meta phenomenon. I've found in talking about them it almost neutralizes the marker itself and forces us to look at the person underneath. It reminds us that the marker is not who we are but is instead an experience and a basis for altered perspectives. The name comes from the way that we demonize people when we don't know enough about them or make sweeping assumptions. This leads to estrangement on an interpersonal level and also in society. But we are not the real enemy - false perceptions and our focus on these markers are. It may become more apparent why I chose the name as the episodes unfold and people on opposite sides of aisles enter into discussions. Appreciate your comment

  • @flakeyjay
    @flakeyjay Місяць тому

    I am 51 and have lived through the social media introduction and exponential growth over the years. I could not make myself care enough to participate and had my friends fairly locked in by the time the tech dominated everyone's time. I left most social media and keep a instagram account, but don't feel the need to partake in new iterations. For the short time I had a FB account it certainly made me feel lonely, envious and anxious of lives that presented unrealistic expectations and then influencers became a thing. I can't imagine the dystopian future we are sleepwalking into and it saddens me when I see younger people struggle to have casual conversations.

    • @notyourenemyproject
      @notyourenemyproject 29 днів тому

      Yes. Whenever I spend much time on social media (apart from for this) I feel infected by it and have had to cease on any personal accounts. - Rebecca

  • @JoanneMaher76
    @JoanneMaher76 Місяць тому

    This is an incredibly interesting discussion. I'm sorry if I missed it, but I'd be interested to know your ages :) I'm a feminine woman, just turned 48. Ive dated men throughout my life, and recently dated women. One in a long term relationship, which was bisexual in nature. The more recent was with a non-binary individual. I have been surprised by the level of 'penis-envy' I experienced at times in both these relationships. I am a feminine person, and love being a woman. But I am certainly attracted to male traits, and feel a firm desire (pardon any puns) to be able to give and receive pleasure in a really passionate way. The best way I can narrate this is that l, with age and social experiences, I'm coming to embrace all aspects of who I am. As regards my sexuality, I find myself taking initiative, and desire to share loving feelings and pleasure. I recognise and embrace those aspects of my self as much as the more feminine aspects. Hope this is a helpful contribution to the greater discussion. ❤ EDIT: Today, I identify as Cis Female, but embracing my sexuality in a more fluid way. I seek relationships with women, but find attractiveness in people, rather than gender. I have no problems with men, but feel greater connection and sexual desire with women. Lesbian? Perhaps, not a fan of labels

    • @notyourenemyproject
      @notyourenemyproject Місяць тому

      Joanne thank you! I really needed that. Juleigh is 49, I am 35. I look forward to becoming more and more comfortable as I age and grow into myself more, and that honestly does play a factor in that acceptance. Experiences and also feeling more confident as a person too.

  • @veronicabatteham9864
    @veronicabatteham9864 Місяць тому

    Too much navel gazing , self preoccupation is unhealthy

  • @lauranbahr228
    @lauranbahr228 Місяць тому

    SLAVA UKRAINE First time watching the podcast. I would like to know and talk with Rebecca. I do not want to cause ANY stress or drama for the two of you as a team. I wish you both the best you are both amazing people. I only wish to support you. OKAY, I am wanting to get to know Rebecca better because I want to ask Rebecca to marry me. Of course I can accept rejection, but I just wanted Rebecca to know my feelings. I need you and I do not want to have a negative effect on you two. I just want the chance to show Rebecca who I am, and learn more about Rebecca. I am sure of what I want. I just want her in the same place in her own time. Sorry, but I am a very direct person. I am also a very calm person. Have a great day, God Bless you both. SLAVA HEROYI