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Empowering Divorce Transitions
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Приєднався 20 вер 2017
Welcome! I'm Steve Schleupner, a Divorce Transition Specialist, Financial Planner, Mediator, and creator of the Divorce Support Center on Patreon, where I bring my podcast "A Man's Journey Through Divorce" to life. My goal is to help you navigate the challenges of divorce with clarity, confidence, and support. Whether you're just beginning the process, in the middle of negotiations, or rebuilding your life post-divorce, you'll find practical advice, tools, and inspiration here. Subscribe for insights on managing finances, mediation tips, and thriving in your next chapter. Let’s work together to turn this transition into a new beginning!
Post-Divorce Sex: How to Handle Performance Anxiety and New Relationships w/Sexologist Kevin Anthony
After divorce, many men find themselves caught between competing pressures: societal expectations pushing them to "get back out there," internal doubts about their readiness, and uncertainty about dealing with a dating landscape that's radically changed. In this episode, I'm joined by certified sexologist Kevin Anthony to talk about how the approach back to intimacy isn't just about physical connection; it's about healing, self-discovery, and learning to be vulnerable again.
Tune in as Kevin breaks down the key steps to rebuilding your intimacy, why healing takes time, and how to know when you’re truly ready-regardless of when society says you should be. This episode is a must-listen if you’re ready to take back your power to approach dating and sex from a place of strength and confidence.
For show notes and more visit: tinyurl.com/2vyxe433
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Transform your divorce experience for long-term success. Learn how to manage conflict, elevate relationship dynamics, and enhance financial savvy. Visit www.youtreecoaching.com/ now, or schedule a app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=14149096&appointmentType=61861686 to determine what services might benefit you.
To enjoy the remainder of this Premier Episode visit our www.patreon.com/youtreecoaching/membership on Patreon. New subscribers pay just $3/month, after a 7-day free trial, for my full body of podcast episodes and exclusive community events.
For additional divorce support visit our www.patreon.com/youtreecoaching/membership on Patreon, as well as online divorce support courses in the www.patreon.com/youtreecoaching/shop.
If you are looking to make quick, targeted progress, consider a one of our 90-minute navigation sessions. You can schedule them here:
In the early stages of divorce? app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=14149096&appointmentType=67560119.
Challenges post-divorce? app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=14149096&appointmentType=67560579.
Preparing for mediation or a hearing? app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=14149096&appointmentType=67560783.
Find my poetry book www.amazon.com/dp/B0B6XX8PZL on Amazon.
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Steve Schleupner is a Divorce Transition Specialist who views divorce not merely as an event but as a transformative life journey. His approach empowers clients to strategize for long-term success and achieve the outcomes they truly desire.
Steve advocates for mediated and DIY (pro se) divorces, believing that families benefit most when they can make informed decisions independently. Understanding that couples often enter divorce at their weakest point, he provides essential guidance to help them achieve successful outcomes. His pre-mediation and settlement services focus on coaching clients through relational dynamics that hinder progress and providing objective, neutral financial analysis. This preparation enables clients to enter negotiations with clarity and confidence.
Steve's mediation process fosters communication around each party's aspirations for themselves, their partner, their children, and other important stakeholders. This crucial step lays the groundwork for effective mediation and smooth transitions as divorce agreements are finalized.
Post-divorce, Steve offers steadfast support to help clients implement their plans and navigate changing life circumstances. Through coaching, financial transition support, and micro-mediations, he ensures clients continue on the path to a successful transition.
For those who prefer to work independently, he provides online coaching materials tailored to guide clients through their divorce journey. Additionally, Steve hosts the gender-neutral podcast "A Man's Journey Through Divorce," where he explores diverse perspectives and experiences to support individuals navigating their own divorce transitions.
With over 20 years of financial planning experience and certifications as a CFP®, CDFA®, and ChFC®, Steve brings over seven years of divorce coaching expertise. He serves clients in Maryland, Northern Virginia, the District of Columbia, and beyond.
Follow Steve on:
1. Patreon for Online Coaching Materials www.patreon.com/youtreecoaching/shop
2. LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/steve-the-divorce-coach
3. Instagram: you_tree_coaching
Tune in as Kevin breaks down the key steps to rebuilding your intimacy, why healing takes time, and how to know when you’re truly ready-regardless of when society says you should be. This episode is a must-listen if you’re ready to take back your power to approach dating and sex from a place of strength and confidence.
For show notes and more visit: tinyurl.com/2vyxe433
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Transform your divorce experience for long-term success. Learn how to manage conflict, elevate relationship dynamics, and enhance financial savvy. Visit www.youtreecoaching.com/ now, or schedule a app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=14149096&appointmentType=61861686 to determine what services might benefit you.
To enjoy the remainder of this Premier Episode visit our www.patreon.com/youtreecoaching/membership on Patreon. New subscribers pay just $3/month, after a 7-day free trial, for my full body of podcast episodes and exclusive community events.
For additional divorce support visit our www.patreon.com/youtreecoaching/membership on Patreon, as well as online divorce support courses in the www.patreon.com/youtreecoaching/shop.
If you are looking to make quick, targeted progress, consider a one of our 90-minute navigation sessions. You can schedule them here:
In the early stages of divorce? app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=14149096&appointmentType=67560119.
Challenges post-divorce? app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=14149096&appointmentType=67560579.
Preparing for mediation or a hearing? app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=14149096&appointmentType=67560783.
Find my poetry book www.amazon.com/dp/B0B6XX8PZL on Amazon.
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Steve Schleupner is a Divorce Transition Specialist who views divorce not merely as an event but as a transformative life journey. His approach empowers clients to strategize for long-term success and achieve the outcomes they truly desire.
Steve advocates for mediated and DIY (pro se) divorces, believing that families benefit most when they can make informed decisions independently. Understanding that couples often enter divorce at their weakest point, he provides essential guidance to help them achieve successful outcomes. His pre-mediation and settlement services focus on coaching clients through relational dynamics that hinder progress and providing objective, neutral financial analysis. This preparation enables clients to enter negotiations with clarity and confidence.
Steve's mediation process fosters communication around each party's aspirations for themselves, their partner, their children, and other important stakeholders. This crucial step lays the groundwork for effective mediation and smooth transitions as divorce agreements are finalized.
Post-divorce, Steve offers steadfast support to help clients implement their plans and navigate changing life circumstances. Through coaching, financial transition support, and micro-mediations, he ensures clients continue on the path to a successful transition.
For those who prefer to work independently, he provides online coaching materials tailored to guide clients through their divorce journey. Additionally, Steve hosts the gender-neutral podcast "A Man's Journey Through Divorce," where he explores diverse perspectives and experiences to support individuals navigating their own divorce transitions.
With over 20 years of financial planning experience and certifications as a CFP®, CDFA®, and ChFC®, Steve brings over seven years of divorce coaching expertise. He serves clients in Maryland, Northern Virginia, the District of Columbia, and beyond.
Follow Steve on:
1. Patreon for Online Coaching Materials www.patreon.com/youtreecoaching/shop
2. LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/steve-the-divorce-coach
3. Instagram: you_tree_coaching
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My wife divorced me after 27 years. It does few years. I learned a good deal from my new relationships too. Toughest part is 19 year old son is more distant than I wish he would be. My ex wife and I now have really nice conversations.
So many have there ball in the purse zipped tight living on a small amount of his own money and getting played to the end.
if a women tells you she wants a divorce she has been thinking this for months if not years...and more than likely there is another man involved. Emotionally/physically or both. Bet on it..
RUN AWAY FROM WOMEN WHO WANTS TO GET MARRIED
Never enter into a contract with someone who gets paid to break it.
My xwife was having an affair with her doctor. Classic I know lol. No kids so I just got in my truck and left everything. Clothes, home, business and I mean everything. It's been a second chance at life. I hiked for 1500mi for six months last year. Now I brew beer for work, fly airplanes and a lot of other fun stuff. Life is good and I'm usually the coolest guy in the room:)
Now this is a story I like to hear. Brought a smile to my face.
@Divorce Coaching for Men that's just a very small piece lol. Right after I got divorced I worked a sweet job for couple months. Then my mom developed full blown alzheimers and my dad lost his mind too. I was their caregiver during 2020. It was so brutal. Didn't even have the energy to worry about the divorce. Sadly my mon passed early in 2021. Then my brother raided the house and stole all he could from our dad. I just dropped everything again LMAO and hit the Appalachian Trail. Best thing I could think of at the time lol. Buy I would do it all again. There is still a lot more to my story for sure. Definitely a lone wolf but it's fun most of the time. Thanks for your video!!
Believe it or not, she did you a favor... do it right and it can be the best thing to ever happen to you.
Being married nowadays is high risk & low reward for men. There are no benefits for men.
There isn't a handbook for life, for marriage, for relationships. That's the key. Stay the course to your own path, helping your heart, understanding who you are - and being THAT guy no matter what. Taking accountability is key for any/all who have divorced. It is the only way we grow and learn. Not every part of marriage is/was horrible, or none of us would've been there in the first place. Some seasons are good, others are difficult, and most brought us through stronger - or so we had hoped. There are ways to grow from the blindside. Men, I've learned, seem to take this differently than women do. I am learning after 10 years of divorce. There are a lot of wonderful people out there. Work on yourself, get crystal clear about your future, and do not lose hope.
ha . you'll smack the wall in a couple of years and there wont be wonderful " people " anywhere .
There all the. Same
Thanks for this video, keep moving forward brother
The Man Who Didn't Ask for the Divorce... :I pity the fool"
Any man who gets married in 2022 is a fool.
Divorce 75% instigated by F. Wake up outta Ur fantasy
Why you get married lol thats not smart
Only way to win is not to play fellas
Never trust a woman. Never take them serious. The Bible says "GUARD YOUR HEART" And always remember GOD HATES DIVORCE. So you are supported by no.1.
Never get married. These hoes cannot be trusted. 90% of American women are liars and are on some kind of pill because they have psyc issues. They are depressed, neglected, you don't give enough attention, 1 out of 3 has had abortion. Marry a foreign woman and move to her country. Do not bring her to the states or she'll be ruined.
With thanks and respect from Ireland 👍
77% of all divorces are initiated by women. So always watch out for yourself. Get a bank account away from your wife’s. And if she stays then you have a nice retirement. Also don’t 100% commit with your heart. That way when she breaks it it doesn’t hurt as much. And if you decide to get married again. Don’t have joint accounts. And don’t commit 100%.
Iver, thank you for sharing this perspective. Seriously! It's a common one, and I understand where it comes from. I truly do. This doesn't have to be our stories, though. We have the power to create different ones. I'll share my perspective. It's not to change yours, because yours may work for you. It's merely to give other readers another point of view. I've seen the 77% stat. It might be true, but it is also a convenient way for us to say divorces are mostly women's vault. To move beyond, we need to take 100% responsibility for the role we played in the relationship, period. Break-ups are 100% her fault and 100% his fault. Without this equal accountability, we get the live with some level of blame. This blame cords us stay to the pain of the divorce. It allows the divorce to define us, and hinders our ability to move on with our lives being the person we want to be. Hiding money is financial infidelity. When you are tempted to hide it (which is a natural protective inclination) realize that the money is a resource to either invest in working on your relationship, or invest in working together to create a healthy exit. Use your money to invest in positive outcomes. There is no size of account that eliminates divorce pain, not even Tom Brady's. Hiding money is a scarcity, fear-based reaction. One can't receive abundance when they operate in scarcity. I understand it's scary to recommit. I just remarried. I am familiar with the thought process. However, not committing to anything you choose to do in life is a recipe for a let down, if not a failure. If a person chooses to stay in non-marriage relationships, commit to that 100%. If a person chooses to get married, commit to that 100%. But, think twice before staying in, or entering, marriage if you are not willing to commit 100%.
This is terrible advice. You are preparing for divorce from the first moment of your marriage. That marriage will be tainted. You are treating the woman who probably has done nothing wrong yet as the enemy from the very start. A marriage started like this will not work. If you can't trust your spouse from the beginning to this degree, then don't get married.
terrible advice
A man of wisdom 👏
Don’t marry in the first place !
Thank you brother🙏🏼
Learn from your mistake of MARRIAGE the first time and mazke sure theres never a second your life alone will be 100% better
I found out. That when I got divorced. That all my problems were over. And $$$$$ Started adding up. I’m happy doing my own thing. And the ex wife is extremely pissed 😠 off. Because I showed her I’m no simp. Now she’s regretting her decision. lol tough Shit. She made her bed she can lie in it.
I think my ex is on the way to feeling this, I can feel it when I'm around her and my child
Same here mate especially after her friends husband dumped her and levelled up
My beautiful girlfriend left, I am glad she started it because I knew if we were to marry it wouldn't work out well. I pray for her.
why did she leave ?
horrible advice
Because today women have been taught it’s ok you don’t need a man in fact go get a girlfriend go have casual anonymous sex, get drunk be wild…..
Do not get marriage . Ever ! Ever ! Please consider to never get marriage
100%
She used filing as a last resort but she is keeping her options open…do I still have hope? We are separated because she wanted space
You always have hope. However, what's within your control is your decisions, choices, and responses. Her decisions, choices and responses are not in your control. Hope is great if managed correctly. Attachment to hope can be harmful because when an action beyond your control blocks what you hope for, then that hope (or desire) bounces back and creates suffering. The suffering is around wanting something you cannot have.
Dont be a beta wanting space is nothing more than her fn other guys as a tryout to be her next fool to sucker into marriage its over for her and has been for a while buddy
My wife of 10 years advised me that she wanted a divorce. She wasnt helping me with the kids or chores. She didnt want me touching her. She was going to let me have our young kids and the new house so she could "find herself". Two months after she moved out, she wanted to come back, her affair partner was not working out. I could never trust her and I didnt want to go through this again with her later on, so I told her No. I filed for divorce and got it done in 5 months. The kids are grown now and married. Divorcing her and moving on with my life was something I never regretted.
‘I need space’ & ‘ I need to find myself’ means she’s getting plowed or 💯 open to it with ppl she’s already got an eye for. It’s over.
Walk away now. Its over. She wants space? Ok. I believe Bezos is selling seats to space. She will have all of the space she wants. And then some.
Never look back and don’t ever attempt to get her back. Work, succeed, enjoy your new life.
💯 true. I just want to kidnap these people who do unfiar things .. Sort of reminds me of something the government taught me
You changed my life wirh your previous videos. Thank you sir. Keep posting brother 🙏 💯
This is great to hear, and quite inspiring. TY
as I watch this video, what arises in me, is longing and desire and an immense and intense ache inside my soul... I pray magical blessings in the lives of myself and my true love (that I am yet to meet). may him and I, both experience magical transformation and new levels of enlightenment and bliss... and may that lead us to each other, very-very soon! and may you, as well, beloved reader, be blessed, too...
He’s moved on before the divorce
Thank you brother, I needed to hear this.
You bet. You have what it takes to get through anything. Just ask "how can I..."
My wife took my gold, silver money, and im stuck here waiting on her heh. Im the disabled husband, she is a bread maker. she moved my payments to her account lol. why to F me . She planned all this while i was visiting my dying mother. I cant make this crap up.
Great tips Steve - and I love that you broke out the differences caused by who is leaving who.
Glad it was helpful! If you're interested in a free consult, I'd love to talk with you about your situation. youtreecoaching.com/about/contact/
Thanks Steve - these are great tips!
Thanks Brighton. I'm glad you enjoyed them. Is there any one tip that stood out for you?
@@divorcecoaching745 #3 was the best - it's hard, but it works out in the long term.
Great tips - thanks Steve!
You bet!
Happy I found this
I'm glad you found it too. Reach out if you need anything Kreston