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My husband has always denied anything he doesn’t want to deal with as long as I’ve known him. When his parents had dementia he wouldn’t do anything because “they were fine”. Now he is exhibiting symptoms of dementia in the early stages, and also is in denial that this is happening. I can’t get him to tell the doctor there are issues with his memory and other symptoms, and the doctor listens to,him when I ask that he has an assessment. He gets very angry and denies there a problem and then points out my flaws to the doctor, real or imagined. This is shocking to me and a change in his behaviour. He’s never been confrontational or angry. He’s become childlike in arguing about things. He never argued like that before and I don’t know what to do other than let him deteriorate and allow him to get lost when out driving. I’m so scared he’s going to get into a bad accident, or get a call from someone that he is lost and can’t find his home. He forgets his wallet and get stuck in a rut of things he has to buy. He has bought 8 toilet bowl cleaners so far, and keeps buying more coke for himself when he went out to buy Fresca for me. I am disabled so I can’t go drive and shop for him to avoid this. When I tell him I will buy it online he forgets and goes shopping again. How do I tell the doctor I’m concerned when he doesn’t listen to me about my husband.

THIS!! was the most informational and phenomenal video on dementia I have watched! My mom is currently in the hospital in another state and transferred to the psych ward. I have been reading and watching videos to try and educate myself on dementia. Thank you Dr. Cummings! I am sure I will be reaching out to you as I am blown away..mildly put..you really know your stuff! and with a great sense of humor like my own..which I am finding to be more rare as each day passes. Thank you again, many blessings!

Here in my province of Nova Scotia, Canada: for Long Term Care payment comes from the spousal net income. They won’t touch your house, savings or investments and they will leave the remaining spouse 60% of the net joint income no matter what.

I’m a full-time caregiver for my 63-year-old wife with FTD and PPA. She’s lost her speech and comprehension and is completely dependent on me for every function during the day and has urinary incontinence and once in a while has a bowel accident. I have systems set up to help me get through my week… I’ve streamlined processes and come up with approaches to dealing with her particular needs and I’ve enlisted two sisters and my daughter to give me respite breaks of 2-3 hours one day each during the week, in addition to taking advantage of a local day program for a few hours three times a week. I guess I’m very lucky in that she’s cooperative, placid, and generally content. To keep my mind occupied, I started a UA-cam channel about our journey and general tips on dementia care, with a focus on husbands caring for their wives. There seems to be a real gap in that knowledge base as I think most husbands don’t carry-on as long as I have. My aim is to keep her home as long as possible, possibly to the end, however, I haven’t ruled out long-term care if the need really arises. Please check out my channel!

My mom is in a home with only 7 residents and she’s alone all the time. She hates it. All of the residents eat in their bedrooms and my mom eats alone at the table. It’s a terrible situation

People would be happy for respite or moving their loved one to a memory care facility early on, but the cost is prohibitive. Most people don’t have $7,000 extra lying around to pay someone to elder sit. Extreme work (waiting until you can’t do it anymore), makes more sense for the extremely high cost.

Awesome Video. I appreciate the tips for family members and caregivers. Thank You. Emma and Kim :)

I learned something from a nurse friend that really helped me on our dementia journey. I was then trying to get my 79-yeard old husband diagnosed. He would "rise to the occasion" at the doctors appt. and they could not see his memory and behavioral changes. My nurse friend suggested that I do the following; Write out a bulleted list of "What I see at home." Then ask the receptionist to please give this to his new gerontologist prior to going in the exam room for our appointment. This way I did not have to "talk negatively" about my husband in front of him. I also asked for a written diagnosis letter to give to our lawyer, financial advisor, etc. to get him off of our financials, to get a formal financial power of attorney and medical power of attorney. (He was making major financial mistakes the past few years and I had to get that stopped to preserve what funds we have left.) I wrote this bulleted listing and found it to be super helpful to meet my end goal(s.) This new physician read my letter, she believed me and gave him the appropriate tests and wrote me the desired diagnosis letter I requested. I was able to get two doctors letter and submit them to A) he lawyer (to get our trust changed) B) to the bank (to get him off of our financial accounts to stop the unnecessary money drain.)

This is so true. Most everyone asks me, "How is your husband doing?" Almost no one asks me, "How are you doing?" We do have an adult day care center in my town but this now runs $90.00 per day. This is really hard for most of us to afford.

Thank you for all of the great advice. I am going through some of this with my 79-year-old husband currently. His cognitive loss began 10+ year ago and he had an initial diagnosis of early cognitive decline. I swung into Functional Medicine and my physician found out that some of his cognition issues were due to his insulin resistance. We got that under control with strict diet and lifestyle changes and a number of supplements he took based on his blood labs. Fortunately we were abler to considerably slow his decline down for around 10 years. Now his brain is changing again as well as his body. His mobility is being directly effected by his neuropathy, hammer toes and osteoarthritis in his knee (they suspect Charcot Marie Tooth Disease.) His new Geriatrcian re-diagnosed him as Stage 4 neurological decline due to his difficulty with financial issues, inability to plan and follow through etc. I have recently taken over his Medical Power of Attorney and Financial Power of Attorney and we again updated our Family Trust. I began taking over our financial planning, budgeting and check writing and now I will be taking over our finances 100%. I have already taken over all of the maintenance of our condo, vehicle maintenance, errand running, food sourcing, cooking etc He has not driven now for 6 years. I WISH there was a book with a step by step list of what I need to get done regarding our legal needs. I feel strongly that I need to get as much of this done now before his cognition becomes even worse. I am also managing his doctors apts, dental appts, catarac removals, eye exams, new glasses, blood labs twice a year, colonscopcies, grab bars installed, haircuts and so on. I am SO in favor if your decision to not do the hospital and medicine route. I am so in favor of that way of caring. This is my plan as well. My husband rarely talks to me now, has no empathy towards me and often acts like a 15-year old teenager thinking only of his own needs. For me the hardest thing is dealing with my anger and frustration with our situation. I just completed a year of therapy and that helped a lot and I just rejoined a support group to continue the "talking" but I find I am quick to anger. I try for breaks, I take care of my dog and walk her outside, continue my once a month massage and try to reconnect with my art. But the anger often remains. I feel like I have given up almost everything; my art studio, my hot tub, my pet chickens and my rural home with my beautiful garden and art studio business and my energy I have my own Autoimmune health issues and I need a lot of rest, peace and time to recharge so this makes it doubly difficult for me.

This was a plethora of quality information, greatly appreciated. Headed to your website now. Thank you.

I needed to see this although my husband and siblings are not ready for this move. Being the one who spends more time with Mom I think it is time.

This was an amazing podcast with so much helpful information and so happy to now have Dr. Cummings as a resource. Thank you!

Thank you, this helps

Thank you so much. This is so extremely helpful.

My mother has always been a loner, and she is in a great memory care home with about thirty residents who are all at the same level of dementia (moderate) She is isolating and want to go home to be surrounded by her stuff. She is staying in bed for breakfast. She just wants to be in her beautiful home with all her possessions. She would be unsafe living alone, and would not accept outside caregivers, I cannot live and care for her without her abusing me and treating me like a live in servant. Her desire to go home is getting worse after a year and she says she does not fit in with the other residents, but they do chat to her and everyone is very nice to her. She says she has been “dumped”. I am not sure how to approach this.

WHAT IF THEY DONT EVEN RECOGNIZE THEIR OWN BATHROOM OR BEDROOM NOW..OR DOESN'T KNOW WHERE THE KITCHEN IS AT HOME😢!

Thank u Teepa for all the information ❤

NEVER!

⭐️I am here! All things you are saying truth!!

I have studied with Teepa and PAC for over 10 years. For the past 18 years, I've been providing assistance for families looking for dementia care in San Diego County. A Senior Placement and Referral Specialist is the person to work with because, if we have lasted in this trade for more than 2 years - we know how to evaluate the options and we share that with you so that you can choose the best. I care about my reputation and that's what I've built my business upon. Plus I have a passion for dementia care. I suggest your work with an agent so that you don't go to places that are not good, or too much money, or just don't provide the level of sophistication in their care approaches. It's a thought

❤I live in Sourh Africa. After watching this I am so glad that I kept at it because I could see my husband deteriorate. He was finally diagnosed with FTD after a brain MRI. Now I am taking him to a sphyciatrist for the correct meds(hopefully) to treat his symptoms❤

Reviewing all videos . Studiying. Thank you

This was a plethora of quality information, greatly appreciated. Headed to your website now. Thank you.

Love always 💞💞💞

Rachel appears to be an excellent therapist.

Thank you 😊

Was it reported?

It only lasts so long. It’s actually cruel to loved ones to not accept reality. At the early stages, they know better if they have a healthy emotional intelligence. If not, it makes everything a mess.

What about abuse my ex-husband abuse her . She is 22 now .I wish I could do something

I'm doing my absolute best to 'walk carefully' with my mom, but the resentment toward me when I'm trying to get her to take her medications on schedule, and the resentment and anger toward me is very difficult to deal with. Suggestions?

Question: Dad's got memory issue(s) and has fecal incontinence. He soils the floor(s) all the time, tracking it through my house. I can't keep up with the carpet cleaning in his room much less the additional parts of the house where he travels unknowingly tracking it all over my floor. Please. Tell me it's time. He has a house but only Medicare and social security. What does it cost him to get into a facility?

Thank you!

It is asking a lot from kids, especially if they are out of town and need to manage their own lives.

I've loved Teepa's lecture videos, but non of this accounts for my Mother. Her latent suspicious, stubborn, willful nature has solidified into absolute stone. She doesn't want to be around strangers ir anyone really, thinks everyone wants to steal her things, her home is her castle, no other place is acceptable . She's stage 5 dementia and yet still way too wiley to be tricked or convinced about setting foot in a facility for any reason. She'd start throwing hands. She'd see it as an absolute betrayal and would hate us "kids" for whatever time is left to her. I dread this transition like the plague. And yet, we keep inching nearer... I'm considering (if Medicaid will foot it) to try full care at home, since it's also half the price of facility care. And ride that train for as long as we can...

dementia and alzheimer . can be heald , use vegetable oils in your food , coconut , avocado oil . eat only fruits , vegetables , nuts and seeds . do breathing exercizes . nuts look like a brain... so its good for your brain . learn meditating and focus on your brain , so u have blood circulation . Yoga is healty . U need lots of magnezium , favorit food of your brain . Cacaou , spinich , stinging nettle , alfalfa . Avoid burned oils , chemicals , acidic foods . rozmarin helps with memory

As an experienced aged care RN, i find the earlier someone enters aged care, the easier it is for them.

Great conversation to understand options.

This is very good advice. My sister and i are actually going to a MC facility tomorrow to sign a contract for our 85 yo mother. We probably should have done it a couple months ago, but we have been using a caregiver for several weeks about 50 hours a week. The facility is very nice, 2 years old, and our point of contact is very knowledgeable. We did not include our mother in this decision because we feel she would fight it. It is $6900 a month and my mother has a long term care policy which will cover appx. half the cost. We are NOT looking forward to moving day. However, the lady at the facility has stated her room should look like her home. We are torn on that aspect.

this was good basic info---but where was the dementia connection?

Thank you, Ms. Metoyer for this helpful information!

I’m going through this with my elderly mom with Alzheimer’s. It is so hard and frustrating because it feels like they might know yet block it out because they don’t want to accept it. Very good explanation as it’s more they’ve lost that part of the memory to recognize it. It sure doesn’t make it easier for the caregiver.

Quality content from both of you. Do you have caregiving openings with Visa sponsorship? I would be interested.

Totally agree, have been doing this for years,now in my 90’s, I still play the keyboard in my retirement home 🎹🎹🎹🎹🎼🎻🎻👨‍🦯👨‍🦯🧑🏻‍🦽🧑🏻‍🦽

I wish my dad had gotten almost anything other than dementia. I'm so sad.

Never heard thus explained. Brilliant. Valuable information--this precedes the getting lost coming home from grocery store!

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Why does it seem that much of the US population has symptoms of Anosognosia? And, no - I do not have dementia symptoms. I believe Anosgnosia is another word that describes unconsciousness. Surely this could be a possibility. As an example, when one family member of a dysfunctional family becomes scapegoated and eventually understands the family dynamics and therefore goes NO CONTACT. Leaving the dysfunctional family gives this person the ablity to heal and to thrive. All remaining family members remain in denial regarding the family dynamics, therefore, they all maintain ANOSOGNOSIA. They do not have the capacities to see emotional conflicts and problems.

Excellent! It does work so much better!

This truly was one of the best videos I have listened to regarding dementia. Diana, you are the most enlightening speaker on this topic that I have really gained useful tips to assist me with my husband’s dementia!