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We Can't Stop Fighting
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In this week’s episode of The Redeemed Marriage podcast, Rusty and Heather discuss the challenging topic of conflict, arguing, and fighting within marriage. Drawing from their own experiences with unhealthy conflict resolution, Heather opens up about the dangers of always needing to be right, while Rusty shares how damaging it can be to accept blame and avoid confrontation. Together, they explore the pitfalls of these patterns and provide practical strategies for handling conflict in healthier, more productive ways. Tune in to discover how you can keep disagreements from escalating into unhealthy fights and move toward a more peaceful marriage.
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We Can’t Stop Fighting (Video Version)
Переглядів 821 годину тому
In this week’s episode of The Redeemed Marriage video podcast, Rusty and Heather discuss the challenging topic of conflict, arguing, and fighting within marriage. Drawing from their own experiences with unhealthy conflict resolution, Heather opens up about the dangers of always needing to be right, while Rusty shares how damaging it can be to accept blame and avoid confrontation. Together, they...
We Can't Stop Fighting
Переглядів 920 годин тому
In this week’s episode of The Redeemed Marriage podcast, Rusty and Heather discuss the challenging topic of conflict, arguing, and fighting within marriage. Drawing from their own experiences with unhealthy conflict resolution, Heather opens up about the dangers of always needing to be right, while Rusty shares how damaging it can be to accept blame and avoid confrontation. Together, they explo...
The Enemy Is After Your Marriage
Переглядів 1116 годин тому
Source: www.podbean.com/eau/pb-y86kc-16be8d6 Rusty and Heather Bryant expose the enemy's relentless pursuit of marriages. Drawing from their personal experience with Heather's infidelity and the restoration that followed, they shine a light on the common lies the enemy uses to destroy marriages. Join them as they uncover the enemy's deception and share practical ways to safeguard your marriage ...
The Enemy Is After Your Marriage
Переглядів 2016 годин тому
Rusty and Heather Bryant expose the enemy's relentless pursuit of marriages. Drawing from their personal experience with Heather's infidelity and the restoration that followed, they shine a light on the common lies the enemy uses to destroy marriages. Join them as they uncover the enemy's deception and share practical ways to safeguard your marriage against these attacks. Marriage Coaching Info...
The Enemy Is After Your Marriage (Video Version)
Переглядів 3616 годин тому
Rusty and Heather Bryant expose the enemy's relentless pursuit of marriages. Drawing from their personal experience with Heather's infidelity and the restoration that followed, they shine a light on the common lies the enemy uses to destroy marriages. Join them as they uncover the enemy's deception and share practical ways to safeguard your marriage against these attacks.
Why We Stayed: Reflecting on 13 Years After the Confession
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Source: www.podbean.com/eau/pb-ihp2q-16b17af Rusty and Heather open up about their journey in the 13 years since Heather's confession of unfaithfulness on August 23, 2011. Having recently passed another anniversary, they reflect on the reasons they initially chose to stay together and how God has honored their decision over the years. With their second and last child now off to college, they al...
Why We Stayed: Reflecting on 13 Years After the Confession
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Rusty and Heather open up about their journey in the 13 years since Heather's confession of unfaithfulness on August 23, 2011. Having recently passed another anniversary, they reflect on the reasons they initially chose to stay together and how God has honored their decision over the years. With their second and last child now off to college, they also explore how different their lives could ha...
Why We Stayed Together
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Rusty and Heather open up about their journey in the 13 years since Heather's confession of unfaithfulness on August 23, 2011. Having recently passed another anniversary, they reflect on the reasons they initially chose to stay together and how God has honored their decision over the years. With their second and last child now off to college, they also explore how different their lives could ha...
Second Honeymoon Here We Come
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In this week's video episode of The Redeemed Marriage Podcast, Rusty and Heather discuss a new chapter of their marriage-empty nesting, or as they affectionately call it, their "second honeymoon." As their youngest son heads to college this week, Rusty and Heather share the intentional steps they've taken to prepare for this season, including staying connected and rediscovering their shared pas...
Second Honeymoon Here We Come
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Source: www.podbean.com/eau/pb-dbcq3-16a5d8f In this week's episode of The Redeemed Marriage Podcast, Rusty and Heather discuss a new chapter of their marriage-empty nesting, or as they affectionately call it, their "second honeymoon." As their youngest son heads to college this week, Rusty and Heather share the intentional steps they've taken to prepare for this season, including staying conne...
Second Honeymoon Here We Come
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In this week's episode of The Redeemed Marriage Podcast, Rusty and Heather discuss a new chapter of their marriage-empty nesting, or as they affectionately call it, their "second honeymoon." As their youngest son heads to college this week, Rusty and Heather share the intentional steps they've taken to prepare for this season, including staying connected and rediscovering their shared passions ...
Summer Shorts: How do we deal with triggers when our pastor preaches on adultery?
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Source: www.podbean.com/eau/pb-xyshc-1699a22 In this week's episode of The Redeemed Marriage Podcast, Rusty and Heather address a question from a listener struggling with triggers while in a church setting related to past infidelity. Despite years of healing, the listener and her husband find themselves reliving painful memories whenever their pastor preaches on adultery. Rusty and Heather draw...
How do you deal with triggers when the pastor preaches on adultery?
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How do you deal with triggers when the pastor preaches on adultery?
Summer Shorts: How do we deal with triggers when our pastor preaches on adultery?
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Summer Shorts: How do we deal with triggers when our pastor preaches on adultery?
Cafezinho - August 18, 2024 Free Online Marriage Event
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Cafezinho - August 18, 2024 Free Online Marriage Event
Summer Shorts: How do you grow closer to the Lord and closer together?
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Summer Shorts: How do you grow closer to the Lord and closer together?
Summer Shorts: How do you grow closer to the Lord and closer together?
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Summer Shorts: How do you grow closer to the Lord and closer together?
How do you grow closer to the Lord and closer together?
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How do you grow closer to the Lord and closer together?
Summer Shorts: Is it ok to celebrate and enjoy your anniversary when your marriage has been tainted
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Summer Shorts: Is it ok to celebrate and enjoy your anniversary when your marriage has been tainted
Is it ok to celebrate and enjoy your anniversary when your marriage has been tainted by an affair?
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Is it ok to celebrate and enjoy your anniversary when your marriage has been tainted by an affair?
Summer Shorts: Is it ok to celebrate and enjoy your anniversary when your marriage has been taint...
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Summer Shorts: Is it ok to celebrate and enjoy your anniversary when your marriage has been taint...
Summer Shorts: How did Heather's cancer diagnosis affect reconciliation?
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Summer Shorts: How did Heather's cancer diagnosis affect reconciliation?
How did Heather’s cancer diagnosis affect reconciliation?
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How did Heather’s cancer diagnosis affect reconciliation?
Summer Shorts: How did Heather's cancer diagnosis affect reconciliation?
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Summer Shorts: How did Heather's cancer diagnosis affect reconciliation?
Summer Shorts: How do we navigate communication about the betrayal post affair in order to balance h
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Summer Shorts: How do we navigate communication about the betrayal post affair in order to balance h
Summer Shorts: How do we navigate communication about the betrayal post affair in order to balanc...
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Summer Shorts: How do we navigate communication about the betrayal post affair in order to balanc...
How do we navigate communication about the betrayal in order to balance healing and moving forward?
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How do we navigate communication about the betrayal in order to balance healing and moving forward?
Summer Shorts: Will sleeping in separate beds lead to problems in our marriage?
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Summer Shorts: Will sleeping in separate beds lead to problems in our marriage?
Summer Shorts: Will sleeping in separate beds lead to problems in our marriage?
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Summer Shorts: Will sleeping in separate beds lead to problems in our marriage?

КОМЕНТАРІ

  • @tristazerbe8119
    @tristazerbe8119 15 днів тому

    Well this is an early post 😁

  • @user-ky2nu5zz1g
    @user-ky2nu5zz1g 23 дні тому

    THANK YOU!!

  • @user-ky2nu5zz1g
    @user-ky2nu5zz1g 23 дні тому

    GRATITUDE!!

  • @user-ky2nu5zz1g
    @user-ky2nu5zz1g 25 днів тому

    strong and grounded couple!! your videos are helping me learn about marriage, and couple bonding.

  • @user-ky2nu5zz1g
    @user-ky2nu5zz1g 27 днів тому

    so, here is the beginning of sharing awesome experiences as a couple!! Amazing 🙏😊💞💞

  • @user-ky2nu5zz1g
    @user-ky2nu5zz1g 28 днів тому

    Respect for your struggle and strength through infidelity m🙏

  • @user-ky2nu5zz1g
    @user-ky2nu5zz1g 28 днів тому

    🙏

  • @user-ky2nu5zz1g
    @user-ky2nu5zz1g 28 днів тому

    Congratulations to you for such a healthy and happy marriage 😊🙏💞

  • @user-ky2nu5zz1g
    @user-ky2nu5zz1g 28 днів тому

    great advice!!

  • @user-ky2nu5zz1g
    @user-ky2nu5zz1g 28 днів тому

    Thank u for this sweet podcast!!

  • @user-ky2nu5zz1g
    @user-ky2nu5zz1g 28 днів тому

    Guys, if possible please do podcasts like this. U two sitting beside each other. Not across the table. As always, wishes from India 🙏🙏

    • @tristazerbe8119
      @tristazerbe8119 27 днів тому

      I agree with this! Although it’s a bit harder to configure when they have to record for their audio podcast as well. But I like feeling like they are looking at/talking to their audience.

    • @user-ky2nu5zz1g
      @user-ky2nu5zz1g 27 днів тому

      @@tristazerbe8119 THANK YOU!!

  • @Hound2603
    @Hound2603 Місяць тому

    I’ll be there coffee in hand. 2am in the UK

  • @user-ky2nu5zz1g
    @user-ky2nu5zz1g Місяць тому

    Thank you!! Love from India

  • @user-ky2nu5zz1g
    @user-ky2nu5zz1g Місяць тому

    Thank you!!

  • @tristazerbe8119
    @tristazerbe8119 2 місяці тому

    Is PA near Oregon?!😮 The scary thing is you teach school! Bahaha 😂

  • @tristazerbe8119
    @tristazerbe8119 2 місяці тому

    Audio is tremendously better! 👍🏻

  • @tristazerbe8119
    @tristazerbe8119 2 місяці тому

    So my main takeaway from this is that y’all are amazing parents. You should be so proud of your boys! ❤ Also these deep man voices took me out. These kids were babies last time I saw them! 😢

    • @theredeemedmarriage
      @theredeemedmarriage 2 місяці тому

      Thank you so much! We are so proud of them! I guess it just goes to show that kids can turn out ok even if their parents are major screw-ups ha ha.

    • @tristazerbe8119
      @tristazerbe8119 2 місяці тому

      @@theredeemedmarriage y’all are not and never were major screw ups! ❤️

  • @houndreddit3826
    @houndreddit3826 2 місяці тому

    That was great! Thank you Luke and Logan. Heather and Rusty, you’re very lucky to have sure great kids. The reward to the suffering and work you both had to do to rebuild your marriage. (Edit: Typo (sorry Luke))

    • @theredeemedmarriage
      @theredeemedmarriage 2 місяці тому

      Thank you so much for those kind words! We are very proud of our boys… God has big things in store for them! Thank you for listening to our podcast!

  • @tristazerbe8119
    @tristazerbe8119 2 місяці тому

    I’m wondering why this is not a video because I’d love to see their faces 😂😮

    • @theredeemedmarriage
      @theredeemedmarriage 2 місяці тому

      We tried so hard! We spent a lot of time trying to get the video just right for the podcast, but it was just too crammed to fit everything in the video. If we had more time to plan we would have done it differently, but Luke leaves for Oregon in 6 days so we had to do it now! Maybe we will have them back and do just a video for UA-cam next time!

    • @tristazerbe8119
      @tristazerbe8119 2 місяці тому

      @@theredeemedmarriage I think it was best though knowing how hard Heather was crying. I was crying with you and definitely wouldn’t have wanted a camera on me. I’m just overwhelmed at how amazing these two young men turned out! God is good!

  • @DanielleHanson-ww1ke
    @DanielleHanson-ww1ke 2 місяці тому

    I think if this entry wins the double date grand prize, they should get the option to bring the healing couple on the double date with y’all! Thank God for all the friends that were Jesus when we needed Him most🫶🏼

  • @jesminkhatun1
    @jesminkhatun1 3 місяці тому

    Hello, Brother and Sister, Your channel videos are very nice. But your video's SEO score is not right. Can we talk about this?

  • @tristazerbe8119
    @tristazerbe8119 3 місяці тому

    I know y’all have kids in college but those of us with preschoolers really appreciate you setting off the baby shark song in our house. 🫣🤣😂

  • @williamschafer6386
    @williamschafer6386 3 місяці тому

    Lovely video

  • @Billdemtp
    @Billdemtp 5 місяців тому

    So that’s what you guys look like 😂

  • @tristazerbe8119
    @tristazerbe8119 5 місяців тому

    What video??🧐

  • @jamesfansler7590
    @jamesfansler7590 6 місяців тому

    Good book for sure. Liv and I read it and enjoyed it very much. Likely will read it again. May God bless you on your quest to encourage and save marriages.

  • @theredeemedmarriage
    @theredeemedmarriage 7 місяців тому

    Did anyone else notice our dog’s heavy breathing (snoring) in the background? 😂

  • @pcguysoffgridcabin
    @pcguysoffgridcabin 9 місяців тому

    It takes a lot of courage to admit such a painful story. It's been 15 years since i divorced from a unfaithful woman and it still causes me pain.

    • @theredeemedmarriage
      @theredeemedmarriage 9 місяців тому

      Thanks for listening to our podcast...and thanks for reaching out! We understand the pain and devastation that is caused by an affair. We are so sorry that you have walked the journey of an unfaithful spouse and a divorce. Although we don't know you, we just stopped and prayed for you! Here is an older episode that we did a while back that might encourage you... www.theredeemedmarriage.com/podcast/episode-16-when-you-cant-comeback/

  • @cal3751
    @cal3751 9 місяців тому

    I have one thought about the value of a full disclosure that I don't see discussed. If the disclosure is missing elements, usually in the name of sparing pain to the betrayed spouse, then the betraying spouse may question whether forgiveness and love are real. Along the lines of "if he/she knew everything, they couldn't forgive or love the real me". The pain of a full disclosure is real and a hard consequence to the betrayed spouse but I think it essential to the healing process.

    • @theredeemedmarriage
      @theredeemedmarriage 9 місяців тому

      Great points! The "missing elements" would really just be in the details. You are right...fully disclosing all of the major points of the betrayal is a must.

  • @Jessie-Ann546
    @Jessie-Ann546 10 місяців тому

    Which video is before this one? Thanks! I’m so thankful to have found your fb page and podcast!!

    • @theredeemedmarriage
      @theredeemedmarriage 9 місяців тому

      Thanks for listening! "After the Affair Days 1-3" should be the one before this. But, it's not showing up for some reason. You can listen on our website (or any podcast platform). Here is the link: www.theredeemedmarriage.com/podcast/after-the-affair-days-1-3/

  • @kathyhudson7469
    @kathyhudson7469 Рік тому

    Just have a question were you all believers of christ when the affair happened?

    • @theredeemedmarriage
      @theredeemedmarriage 9 місяців тому

      So sorry that we missed this comment! Yes, we were both believers when the affair happened.

  • @elenifotopoulou4127
    @elenifotopoulou4127 Рік тому

    In my opinion to have good relationships with your in-laws and Parents, they have to be flexible and understanding. If you always want to celebrate your holidays or events your way and don't consider what other people can do or can't do is a disaster and that is how tensions get created. Especially when extended family guilt you shame you blame you blaming the spouse in law. Parents and in-laws that are rigid to their own expectations and the way it has to be they are the ones that are missing out in long term because they push you away by their behavior and their lock of understanding you and give you room and flexibility to compromise instead blame and shame

  • @purityonthenarrowway
    @purityonthenarrowway Рік тому

    I love the "deliver me" message at the end. It's not about us. I needed to hear that. Thank you for sharing your story.

  • @TheNobleMarriage
    @TheNobleMarriage Рік тому

    Hey guys!! We can’t wait to interview you! This is a powerful backstory. It shows a real version of you and where you have come from! Thanks for the transparency. We are excited to listen to more.

  • @tristazerbe8119
    @tristazerbe8119 Рік тому

    Thanks so much for talking about the shame felt by the partner who was betrayed. I can absolutely relate. ❤

  • @TheNobleMarriage
    @TheNobleMarriage Рік тому

    Julie, you are such a blessing! Thank you for your story, vulnerability and for all you do to give hope to marriages and how you help equip us in the marriage ministry so well also! Love you! Thanks 3Strands for doing this interview and all you do for marriages also!

    • @theredeemedmarriage
      @theredeemedmarriage Рік тому

      Thanks guys! You guys are doing some amazing things...thanks for pouring into marriages all over the globe!

  • @rezakozusko9048
    @rezakozusko9048 2 роки тому

    p̶r̶o̶m̶o̶s̶m̶

  • @tristazerbe8119
    @tristazerbe8119 2 роки тому

    This topic is a lot like the submission topic. You HAVE to explain what you mean and what that really looks like, and I’m glad you have done that. I saw that question on Facebook and it was like a kick in the gut. I couldn’t respond. I watched my mom put my stepdad first for 30 years and keep his secrets and lie for him while he abused us. Then after 30 years he ran off with a younger woman and all 6 of us kids, his and hers, had to find forgiveness in our heart for her so that we could take care of her because she needs us now. Even though she never protected us. There are some folks out there so wounded that when you bring up a topic like this, this is what comes to mind for them. I appreciate you explaining what it really means to you. Maybe some of the negative responses were deeply wounded people. Again, very grateful that you are able to clarify what “putting the spouse first” truly should mean.

  • @tristazerbe8119
    @tristazerbe8119 2 роки тому

    Oh Heather I worry about my son marrying and never coming to visit me and he’s only two, I feel ya! 😩And I HATE that saying, blah!

  • @tristazerbe8119
    @tristazerbe8119 2 роки тому

    Thanks for answering that question! Another great episode!

  • @gypsybelle4757
    @gypsybelle4757 2 роки тому

    Wow! I can’t believe y’all are still recording a podcast. Talk about rolling with the punches. Great lesson. Prayers for Logan, for his pain control, his healing and the medical teams y’all will be working with over the next months. Thank you to Logan for being a “Lesson Within the Lesson”. It takes a special heart and strength to continue to encourage others through your pain and he reminded me of that.

  • @tristazerbe8119
    @tristazerbe8119 2 роки тому

    Oh lord! I’m only 4 minutes into this podcast, I’m so so sorry for Logan! Praying for him! And how wonderful about Luke getting baptized. I love that. 💙💙💙

  • @tristazerbe8119
    @tristazerbe8119 2 роки тому

    Imma just comment while I’m still listening cause I can do that over here on YT. YES some folks need topics to talk about lol. My husband is not.a.talker. He loves me and he’s an awesome husband, but he’s just not a talker. He even jokes and says “We’ve been married 10 years, I’ve got nothing left to say!” 🤣🤣🤣 So yes I’d LOVE an icebreaker to make him talk lol.

    • @theredeemedmarriage
      @theredeemedmarriage 2 роки тому

      😂Exactly why we discussed this subject! We all need help in some areas!

    • @tristazerbe8119
      @tristazerbe8119 2 роки тому

      @@theredeemedmarriage I said this on Facebook but I’d love it if y’all could share more info or links on the resources you talk about like the icebreaker questions. I’d love something to talk about other than my kid. 🤣 And we have a 10th anniversary coming up that will be our first kidless date in two years! We would love some fun questions to ask each other.

    • @theredeemedmarriage
      @theredeemedmarriage 2 роки тому

      @@tristazerbe8119 make sure you come to our Just a Cup of Coffee zoom chat on Wednesday! We are going to share some of these resources AND email them out after the chat!

    • @tristazerbe8119
      @tristazerbe8119 2 роки тому

      @@theredeemedmarriage I would love to see y’all, unfortunately I will be at work. Hopefully I can catch another one.

  • @tristazerbe8119
    @tristazerbe8119 2 роки тому

    Love the Friends vibe in the title. 😁 I really appreciate the way y’all approached this one. Happy Valentine’s Day!

  • @tristazerbe8119
    @tristazerbe8119 2 роки тому

    Gosh. I love y’all, but I have to comment. You wanna know why many people don’t tell what is going on in their life? Because 99% of people are only going to gossip! I know y’all know how juicy the gossip was after August 26, 2011. Gossip is a sin and it destroys the community relationships we are supposed to have as believers to be able to confide in each other. But I have found these days that you just can’t. Too many people get enjoyment out of talking about you behind your back. And finding the 1% who might not, is dang near impossible. I’m also one of those who is a “Tom boy” and can’t stand trying to be friends with women. Thank heavens I grew up with brothers and I have a wonderful husband. So no problem having other men around. I’m glad you guys have mentors you trust. But some of us know that what most people are going to do is spread any info you tell them, so we just keep our stuff to ourselves and talk to Jesus about it. 🤐😉

    • @theredeemedmarriage
      @theredeemedmarriage 2 роки тому

      You are certainly not wrong! We have definitely been the topic of gossip, so we know how that feels. We are fortunate to have sought out and found trustworthy friends and mentors over the last 10 years and it has been such a blessing. As hurt as we were, we found that there are still great people out there willing to love us as Christ does. Sometimes those people are hard to find, though! You said it right when you said that gossip “destroys the community relationships that we are supposed to have as believers.” We pray that we can be a small agent of change in this area for the body of believers. If nothing else, we want to always be a trustworthy couple for those out there looking for someone to talk to. Thank you for sharing your heart!

  • @tristazerbe8119
    @tristazerbe8119 2 роки тому

    Y’all....I could read a book a day, and then I had a toddler! 🤪 Audio books are a GREAT resource!

  • @TheNobleMarriage
    @TheNobleMarriage 2 роки тому

    Yes!! Great topic! Way to tackle it and bring light to family of origin

  • @tristazerbe8119
    @tristazerbe8119 3 роки тому

    Oh my goodness! We had the biggest fight over having a tv in the bedroom! He loves it, I hate it. And it’s an extremely unhealthy habit for good sleep btw. As soon as I showed him the studies on it he gave in, and now he watches tv in his man cave till all hours. 🙃 But I never thought THAT would be such a fight. It really is the things you wouldn’t expect!

  • @tristazerbe8119
    @tristazerbe8119 3 роки тому

    Love this!!! We just had a “heart talk” but we don’t call it that. We need to work on the part about not trying to FIX it. ❤️